I feel really ugly?
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I think it's great that you're questioning this, it means that you're down to earth and aware of the world around you not revolving around you.
However, with the examples of your thoughts that you gave, I think you're okay. It's important to touch base with the world, to make sure that we're seeing things from a global perspective (even just your family/friends), but in the end, it's your life and that does revolve around you. You do what's best for you because you're the only one that has to live 24-7 and die w/you.
Now, when it comes to involving other people - such as shopping w/mom/friends or making weekend plans, while it's good that you know what you want to do, make sure that you take into consideration what they want to do as well. If you're doing something w/someone else, it can't always be what you want.
There is give and take in every relationship and it is hard to keep an equal balance. I think you're on the right track here 'cause you're seeing things from not only your, but your company's (mom/friends) perspective. That's great!
When you're a part of a larger whole (you w/friends, you w/mom), try to do what is equally beneficial for the whole. In life in general, do what works best for you and make sure to keep the level head that you have!
You already know the answer, have the courage to think of others first.
try putting a ''they'' everytime you say ''me''. be in someone else's place for once... the fact tha you've already realized the matter is a good start.
since you already aware of your behavior it is a one step to a great change,be happy in giving,get busy,have a hobby.God bless.
Selfishness is part of human nature. Its natural for us to put ourselves first, because that's how we survive and adapt. People who get caught up putting other's needs first are good people, but sometimes things don't turn out as well for them. There will probably be a time one day when you are a mother when you find yourself being totally selfless and putting first the members of your family, your childeren, and your job first all the time. Right now you're pretty young though I'm guessing, and really, no one is completly selfless when they're a teenager. I mean, there is no one in the world who is completly selfless, but most teenagers are particularly selfish. You don't even sound that selfish, you're caring enough that you acknoledge it and you want to change yourself to be good to the people you love. That in itself is quite UNselfish.
Don't sweat it right now. You'll be a changing and evolving person your whole life naturally.
think positive. you have courage to do so. oftentimes I have the same experience. time will cure everything
Dear imjustme,
It sounds like you think critcally about yourself and that's great. It is common for people to hide behind who they REALLY are with masks.
And I bet behind the mask you call "ugly", is someone quite beautiful.
I would suggest reading. Read a self-help book on a personal issue you have always wanted to work on.
Sometimes when we think that others hate us, this is really a projection, which means that we do not feel good about ourselves and so we project those thoughts onto others.
I can understand you want to do things because YOU want to do them, because it makes you feel good and that is okay. But, remember in any relationship it takes two willing participants to make it work. So, if you feel like you could bend a little more when it comes to hanging out with your mom and friends, than I suggest you try. Sometimes we need time away from our mom and friends, so that we can spend time with ourselves, alone, getting to know who we are. Take the mask off and just be with you. It can be good to be "selfish", when this means taking care of ourselves.
Also, you say that you have been frustrated with the way society runs. What aspect of society frustrates you?
Read a book on the area (in sociology) that you would like to learn about.
Take care.
LOL! you Ugly! haahaha.. No for real whats the problem?
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