How do you overcome extreme morale defeat?
basically its like.. the yankees a while ago (red sox fans, pretend the red soxs were actaully up 3-0)... and then, you get owned and the other team comes back with 4 wins in a row.
thats pretty much how f*ed up i feel.. (if you dont get the scenario, heres another one: you just won a 100000000 dollar lottery ticket.. as you go to cash it, the wind blows it down the sewer)
so yeah.. any stuff i can do besides "time heals all wounds" or "take your mind off it"
Answer:
Actualities would be better than scenarios. It's hard to give advice on something that I know nothing about, other than the fact that it seems as though you've lost something that was important to you. Is there any way you could be more specific? If not.. the best I can say is that if there's a problem you're facing, tackle it from the root. Break it down piece by piece, rather than trying to fix everything at once. If a crappy situation has occured that you can do nothing about and feel hopeless about.. that's a little more difficult.. but if that is the case, it's never about time healing wounds, and taking your mind off from it only delays the healing process, suspends it until you are ready to actually deal with.
Life is all about making peace with yourself. I know, very hippie of me, but hear me out.. or read me out..
First, you make peace with yourself. If you can't be happy with who you are and where your life is, you need to sit with yourself and ask, why not? There may be lots of why nots. There may only be a few. Then you have to ask yourself why you're allowing these things to play such a huge role in your unhappiness. The only thing that ever blocks us from being happy is our own perception of what happiness is and what is needed to achieve it. The less we've accepted that we need, the easier and more plentiful happiness will come to us. If you feel as though something is missing from your life, or that something was taken from your life, you have to be at peace with the knowledge that, though not always apparent at the time, all things happen for a reason. You can allow yourself to get in a slump, which will only make the healing process longer. Or you can immediately accept the events which took place and open yourself another door to walk through, rather than being stuck at the one that's welded shut. Sometimes it's easier than other times. But regardless, it has to happen. It's not for lack of caring, there's nothing apathetic about it at all. But sometimes we have to let things we care about go, so that new things to be cared for, often better things, can enter into our lives. You have to have trust in the fact that in keeping a positive mind set, life has no choice but to get better.
You may want to try starting a journal, if you don't have one already. A lot of times, for people who don't feel comfortable talking about what's going on in their lives to anyone, putting the events of your life, good and bad, on paper, helps us with our ability to release certain emotions or accept certain situations or realities.
Hopefully this helps in some way? If not, I hope you find the answer you're looking for and I wish you nothing but the best in finding peace with yourself, your life and the world.
What you describe is very serious. There may be no hope for you.
more information might be helpful in this, wether it's love, money or you actually ARE a red sox fan (if so, my sympathies)
here are my suggestions
talk to people, friends family, you know the drill
get involved. ok, so if you just had your emotional a** kicked, your not about to run off and start joining a knitting circle, but another great way to make friends and get emotional support is (no laughing) the internet! ok, so, apparently you've already taken that step, but when i feel down about something, i always have a list of sites that i like to visit, (minds out of the gutter!) nothing pervy, just places where you can go to chat about things you love. for example. i am a huge harry potter fan (isn't everyone?) so, i like to hang out at fan sites. you can post pics, short stories even your votes for which characters should hook up. point is, retreat for a while. get comfortable. find someplace to go and lick your wounds before charging back into the fray. then, once you've had time to feel the tinsiest bitr better, trry agein? hmmm.. maybe not, but, remember. even if it takes alot of wadeing around in s***, and hours of searching in the dark, you have a 1 in 100000000 chance of finding that lottery ticket!! so get up, get back on the horse, maybe this time try tieing yourself to the saddle?
this may not be helpful at all, but just know that everywhere around the world, people have the chance of reading your post, and that counts for something, right?
^.^
peace, love, light to giude your way, all that jazz!
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