How do I stop thinking so much?

I am in high school and I think about things so much that it is really messing with the way I live my life. I play sports and when I would just get out in practice I would do awesome and when I got in the game everything just went to my head. Even in everyday life it bothers me too. I think of what other people think of me way to much. My dad often tells me to "Just do it" but it is easier said than done because when I think about "Just doing it," I often start thinking to much again. I hope I am making myself clear. I struggle talking to a lot of people to because I again think to much about what I am going to say and everything is just not natural. I really need to get this burden off of my back. Sometimes I wish I was like Forrest Gump. If you have seen the movie you would no what I mean. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Yes. I know those feelings. You are so scared of what you will say, and how you will come across to people. And when it finally comes out, it either comes out in a nervous way and feels unnatural, or it comes out entirely the wrong way than what you intended. But you know inside that you are not fake, these are your true feelings, you just cannot GET them to come out how you want them to. And it leaves you feeling bottled up inside and like no one really knows you. And you want so bad to be able to just express yourself naturally. For people to have the true image of who you are. It is so hard to deal with. I dealt with this for so long. I know it seems so hard, and like a simple answer cannot help you. "Just do it" is not a good answer.

The first step for me was, I had to start liking myself truly for who I was. If you do not like yourself, you will feel that others will never like you as well. And the anxiety and nervousness will never end. Try your hardest to not compare yourself to others. I know that is hard sometimes. It is okay to find qualities in others that you would like to see in yourself. That is good. You can develop any quality that you want for yourself to have. But never allow yourself to feel like you are less of a person than anyone else. Find the good things about yourself that you like and do not want to change, and develop those. Maybe you are funny, or maybe you have a knack for giving others advice, something about your personality that you truly admire about yourself. You've got to find a part of yourself that you like, and that brings you confidance, and feed off of that. Develop your good qualities, and change those qualities about yourself that you do not desire to have. It can take time, especially if you have been dealing with this for a long time. Know yourself, your likes and dislikes, what type of sense of humor you have, what you enjoy doing in your spare time, what you enjoy doing alone, what you enjoy doing in public, etc. Learn about yourself, and learn to like these things about yourself, and begin to feel confidant about the person that you are. When you are confidant in who you are, you will begin to want to share your qualities with others.

Next, I had to realize that not everyone will like me. No matter who you are, or how you act, even if you were the most confidant person on the planet, you still cannot please everybody. Accept this, and realize that even though it is impossible for everyone in the world to like you, you are still an exceptional person, and out there are many people who WILL like you. What you need to do, is find those people who will like you for who you truly are. Worrying about what everyone thinks about you will only have the effect of you drifting through life without anyone ever really having known you. These are the things that I had to tell myself. I had to get myself to stop trying to act a certain way and saying certain things to please others. I had to constantly tell myself "I cannot please everybody. The people that I want in my life are people who genuinely appreciate me for who I am. I want people in my life who know the real me, and who will stick by me even after they know that real me."

It takes practice. It is a hard thing to overcome, but it is possible. Gradually begin to expose yourself to more social situations. Try to relax as much as possible, and just remember that you cannot please everyone, so just be yourself. Breath slowly and deeply. I used to try to find something to do with my hands while talking to someone. That used to always help me. Either hold something, keep my hands on my hips or in my pockets, toss something back and forth between both hands, something like that. Sounds weird but it helped me out. The more you get out there and try to be social, the easier it will get. You will start to notice how you act in public, and how others act in public, and you will start to understand how to react better in social situations, and in conversations. EVERYTHING takes practice. It is just a matter of repetition. Experience is the best teacher out there. I had to expose myself to social situations almost forcefully. And some situations to be social were forced apon me, and I had no other option but to adapt. It is always difficult at first. But trust me, overtime it WILL get easier. Remember that you are not alone. Many people are dealing with this. And many people have overcome it. Good luck to you.

you need a vacation

I have the same issue. I try to keep my hand and mind busy. Thats i I can tell you. I read, write, draw, anything to keep my mind busy so i am not thinking of ootherthings. I hope everything works out for you and you find an answer soon. If you do find an answer let me know. I will be here keeping my mind busy.

It's called anxiety. Performance and social anxiety usually are the norm for perfectionists. They don't feel that they are worthy if they don't do everything just right. You need to get off your own back about your performance at school and with people. You don't feel comfortable in your own skin and you should start accepting that you are going to make mistakes and nobody is gonna get hurt by them. Talk to your mother about your anxiety with friends and school and see what she has to say about it. She's been there and done that and has probably all the right answers for you and if she doesn't she probably will find the right answers for you. Don't sweat the small stuff, it's just not worth it.

you need not to consider what other think of you. Focus on your interest beleive in what you are doing. You can start to draw commandments and hang them up on your bedroom. Evrymorning repeat the for example, 1. You are the best on the sport ground and no ne is gonna take that away from you. You are stronger that any negativity, you can resist day dreaming. You are confident... and so on. But be objective. Believe in everything you say. You will see in few months that your confidence is back and you will just do things successfully, I mean if you dont win the sport that you like that doesnt mean you r not good n anything else. That's life

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