How can I help an adult man that was bullied as a child at school?

Is there anything I can do to help a man, who was bullied in secondary school? He does not trust people now, and cares only about success at work. He does not want to get into relationship. I know that his behaviour can be linked to his past. How can I make him trust me, and feel secure with me. What can I do? I want him to confide in me, as I really like him and I do not want to hurt him. I would love to help him. I know he likes me too, but he has problems with showing any feelings. Thank you for answer.

Answer:
just be patient with him and dont be too pushy as you wouldnt want to send him running. just respect his limitations and if you stuck around long enough and stay real with him he might open up. be open with him... tell him what you think and feel but also tell him you dont want to make him uncomfortable. if you like him enough and your willing to wait around let him know that. just being understanding is the best thing you can do
Provide him space to be himself. Do not expend too much energy into him. Just show him you care about him and he may open up. Maybe have conversations about times when you felt hurassed, bullied, controlled, dominated, etc. and give him space to relate. As long as you do not force him to do anything, pry information from him, or move too fast, it's not likely you will hurt him. Trust in yourself and that you are supported by the God of your understanding. Unconditional love is the only love there is. Blessings.
I hate to sound cold and callous about his problems...but I need to know why you are willing to be the saviour to this particular man and his issues? I assume you are interested in him romantically...but why? I'm sure he's very nice, but he is focussed on proving himself - evident by his dedication to his career. He is a commitment phobe...and will likely never change.

You are not a psychiatrist...so stop trying to be one.

Be his friend. Show him in your actions that you can be trusted. Its all you can offer, and pressuring him to be more will only cause grief for you both.

There have been many good books and discussions about women who go after the wrong guys...and in this case, he is the wrong guy. Relationships are hard enough...why would you intentionally get involved with someone who has issues? You may want to look up the term 'co-dependence'...and spend some time trying to figure out why you want to enter into a no-win situation...you may have issues of your own to deal with...

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