How come people tell you to be yourself, but when you ARE being yourself they yell at you?
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then stick up for your self and give examples real examples on how you are being you!
when some one says your not getting into something
for example say this sinerio happends!!
they: why are you not getting into this come on...
you: if i am not getting into this why are my hands dirty! I am planting flowers with you!
or ask them what makes you think that i'm not into this enough?
or
how would you like me to act?
if they say oh like this! then through in there face soo you want me to act like you and not me??
that will step on there toes!
Good luck!
Me personally, it's a respect thing. I'd rather hate you for who you really are, than to like you for something that you aren't. I may not like you or may not want to hear what you have to say, but I'll at least respect you.
Are they always the same people? The ones that yell at you, I mean. In a calmer moment, let them know that it may seem like you don't get into things enough because when you try to, you get shot down and yelled at and that you reserve your opinions and passions for people who actually respect a difference in opinion. Then go hang out with people who actually listen when you talk.
Maybe because yourself is actually a jerk? =)
Seriously, though, when people say they want you to be yourself, they mean they don't want you to fake interest in things you find boring, or perhaps that they don't want your self-consciousness to prevent you from having fun. But that doen't mean that you shouldn't also be courteous and respectful of others, even if that doesn't come naturally. Show respect for opinions that are different from yours, express your opinions politely, and then if people still treat you badly, you have every right to be mad at them.
then i guess you dont need those people around! move on..
Sounds like you don't quite fit in with those people. Find some new friends that are more like you.
This question is vague. IF you're truly being 'yourself' then you have to ask yourself one question. "Am I likeable?" What I mean is, "Do I commit to action the goodness within who I really am?"
If you do that, if your opinions are from solid concrete evidence, and your words follow such educated responses, then I would dare say your friends are ones that are in desperate need of replacement!
I can tell you from experience that all people are both good and bad. When you have "true" unconditional friendships, those women (or men) take you for exactly who you are that day. If I say something off one day then my friends tell me. I care about them enough to know when they are just being a good friend and I don't take it personal. There is nothing in the world worth more than a gal pal friend who accepts you for both kinds of people you are!
firstly an opinion is usually an honest one
Sometimes it is very very hard to be tactful when you are being honest
yelling, well you probably told it like it was and when people don't like it like that, hey they yell
Good for you, just keep being yourself, it will turnout in the end
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