HELP!! PLEASE!! I don't know what to do about my step children...?
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I have this problem with my daughters. It is called playing both ends against the middle. We don't allow this in our house.
My suggestions because they are old enough is
1)Counseling for the whole family. Doesn't hurt at all.
2)Lying is a crime (At least in my house as I am sure in other house) the punishment should fit the crime if it can't then I would suggest unplugged (No tv no computer no electronics of any sort this is my favorite punishment)
3)If they can not treat you with respect in front of other people then they need to go stay in their rooms until they leave. If it happens in public then find a good place for them to stand and try to ignore them.
4)Sorry this is going to be harsh. But hubby needs to take charge of his children. What you do is you hide a camcorder somewhere and leave it on so that he can see what is going on when he is not there.
Thats about all I can think of. If you need to vent I am willing to listen because I have been through this and it is HELL at times.
Give them to Mom - it's simply mean evil genes.
Are you punishing them?? It sounds like they don't beleive that you are the authority figure now. They still think their mother is. Try taking some of their fun stuff away everytime they act up. Then make them do chores. If they don't do the chores when hubby isn't home, have him back you up when he gets home. They will start to realize that you aren't one to mess with, that you'll take their fun stuff away. Also, it wouldn't hurt to reward them every now and then when they are well behaved. So maybe get them a movie or a video game when they are bein good, and they will notice bein good has more advantages than bein mean! Good luck.
Quit being a doormat. The kids need some consequences. Explain to your husband that you need to discipline his children and decide what is acceptable as discipline between the two of you. Then, if the children yell at you or misbehave, give them a consistent punishment every time like time out or send them to their rooms until they are ready to discuss things quietly. If they do this in public, like in a store, get out of there as quickly as possible, take the children home and put them in time out. This will not get better on its own and will definitely get worse as they become teenagers if you don't start commanding some respect now. Good luck! (P.S. I'm speaking from experience and I have two great grown-up stepdaughters.)
FIRST:give them some tough love with a belt until they can't sit down.
SECOND: get your husband a spine and make him step up and help solve this problem
THIRD:call that nanny show on television or just watch it and do the things she does cause for her it works
LAST BUT NOT LEAST: Pray
Good Luck
I hate to hear that - that makes for a terrible family life. My opinion is to have a heart to heart with your husband. You both are going to have to put your foot down - and sooner than later. The older the kids get, the worse it is going to get. Also, the longer this goes on, the more it will effect your relationship with your husband. Then have a sit down talk with the kids. They should know that neither of you are going to put up with behavior like that and set up consequences for their misbehavior - and stick to it. If you don't stick to the consequences (grounding, no tv or whatever they REALLY like) you are going to be spinning your wheeles. You should expect respect from your step children as their step mother. If possible, it would be additionally helpful to rally help from the ex-wife as well. Kids only do what they are allowed to do. Good luck and God bless.
install some disipline and no hitting most other parents are not allowed anyway! but there is nothing wrong with locking them in a room where none of there stuff is!
MAKE THEM stay there! for a time out! so what if you have to do this every 5 minutes sooner or later they will see your not playing games!
have 22 step children and grandchildren, the one thing I learn-ed early, was that children no matter who owned them, needed to be loved and feel loved, they needed to know that there were definite boundaries and if they crossed those boundaries , there were consequences for this, they need not be harsh just there, yelling is not permitted, I do not yell at them, I talk to them calmly, that how they treat me, I try to lead by example. they will try as all kids do to wear you down just stand firm with love and kindness, sometimes that is hard but consistancy does pay off
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