I hate the way I look. My husband says I am beautiful but I am too self conscious around him.?
What can I do to raise my self esteem? My husband wants me to show off my body more. I won't even let him do stuff with me in the light. I have to have darkness. I think I am fat and will not show my body. I am 5 ft 4 in and 155 lbs. I think that is fat but I cannot seem to lose weight. How can I just accept myself for who I am?
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come on 155 calm down your not fat. love your self, and know that that will give others knowledge of your confidence and that will boost your self esteem. if you husband thinks your beautiful than thats all that really matters. like my ex didn't think i looked all that great. but everyone else thought i was so fine, but what i wanted was for him to think that, i could care less about everyone else's thoughts on me. you have a good man.
Bity is in the eye of the beholder, try to please him and yourelf. common grounds
i would suggest jogging. it will make you feel better about yourself. you are at a healthy weight, but jogging might help in boost your self-esteem by helping yourself feel better physically.
as for accepting yourself, it's something you really got to do for yourself. you will always be you- there's no changing that. so why not flaunt what you got? what's the point of hating yourself if you can't change yourself? you might as well accept who you are instead of dwelling on all the negativity.
your husband loves you. even if you dislike your body, i'm sure he loves every inch of you.
Men are primarily visual creatures when it comes to sexual stuff. He obviously enjoys your body so that should give you a boost in itself. Could you fit in a 30 min brisk walk everyday (if you don't already)? The exercise itself releases feel good endorphins, the rush from this is easily transferred to sexual excitation and the boost in fitness and even a little bit of toning will boost your confidence. A really simple thing to do to help you feel confident in yourself is a trick I was taught when I was about ten; every time you walk through a doorway, say to yourself 'I am valuable and lovable'. It sounds lame but it works to remind you to love yourself. Try putting a few blank post-its near doorways just to remind you.
SWEETHEART! YOU'RE NOT FAT AT ALL. IT'S ALL UP IN YOUR MIND. I'M 5"3 AND WEIGH 140LBS AND DON'T FEEL THAT WAY, SO EXTRA FIFTEEN IS NOT FAT. YOU'RE AVERAGE. GET OUT OF THAT MENTALITY BEFORE YOU BECOME ANOREXIC. WEAR THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL SEXY AND YOU WON'T NEED THAT DARKNESS. YOUR HUSBAND HAS NO PROBLEM WITH HOW YOU LOOK SO WHY YOU? LEARN TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST AND LOVE YOURSELF MORE TOO.
If you want someone to tell you words to make you feel good about your looks or make you accept the way you look; it is not going to happen. Well, that is unless you pay someone to flatter you. Life gives you just what it has given you and take it for what it is... Be happy with it, be satisfied with it and work with it and do not care what other thinks of it. If you cannot accept that and still want a quick fix... surgery will not do it nor will starving yourself nor will keeping the light off as you and your hubby make the milky way. The only words I can give you are from Eleanor Roosevelt when she said that no one can make you unhappy without your permission. Why are you giving them the permission? Whats the point of living when you make yourself not enjoy it?
you know, some day you, along with all of us and the rest of the world...are going to be wrinkly and hunched over.
stop looking at yourself, and look at your husband.
adore him for the way he adores you and let that be enough to satisfy. you're with him now, you'll be with him when he and you are both wrinkly and hunched over.
life is too short to psychoanalyze anyone's esteem.
If you keep telling your husband that you look fat, he might start believing you.
STOP IT NOW!!!
If he thinks you look great, then stop trying to talk him out of it.
Sounds like you have a great guy there who loves you so stop behaving like a fat selfish little girl and start acting like the gorgeous sexy woman that your wonderful hubby sees you as.
Marriage is about making an effort and if you want to keep him interested then smarten up - both in your mind and in how you look. If you love him and want to show him, then dress up and put on some makeup - go all out to dazzle him.
155 lbs is NOT FAT!!! If YOU think you need to tone up your body then only YOU can do it...but obviously your hubby isn't worried about it, so stop worrying and start working on showing him your best assetts.
How long have you been together? How long do you plan to stay together? Its up to you...if you want to keep him then stop worrying and start working on being the beautiful woman he sees in you.
Believe him - trust him - and don't fight it with your mind.
155 for that height is a bit on the heavy side, but well within acceptable parameters.
.
its not going to matter how many people tell you that you are beautiful you have to beleive it yourself. God created you a unique individual. dont compare yourself to others. we all have our own special beauty. beleive that and you will be a much happier person. i know because i went through the same thing.
then go totally unconscious around him and accept that you are beautiful when he says so. so you think you are fat, well if you didnt confine yourself to so terrible standards as having weight decide whether you are fat or not. anyways fat is not a good description of you, anyways fat is just more calories per sq inch of food, nothing bad about it. fat people just have more stored energy, nothing bad about it. it just doesnt turn people on, some are turned on by it but only because media has marketed it real well.
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come on 155 calm down your not fat. love your self, and know that that will give others knowledge of your confidence and that will boost your self esteem. if you husband thinks your beautiful than thats all that really matters. like my ex didn't think i looked all that great. but everyone else thought i was so fine, but what i wanted was for him to think that, i could care less about everyone else's thoughts on me. you have a good man.
Bity is in the eye of the beholder, try to please him and yourelf. common grounds
i would suggest jogging. it will make you feel better about yourself. you are at a healthy weight, but jogging might help in boost your self-esteem by helping yourself feel better physically.
as for accepting yourself, it's something you really got to do for yourself. you will always be you- there's no changing that. so why not flaunt what you got? what's the point of hating yourself if you can't change yourself? you might as well accept who you are instead of dwelling on all the negativity.
your husband loves you. even if you dislike your body, i'm sure he loves every inch of you.
Men are primarily visual creatures when it comes to sexual stuff. He obviously enjoys your body so that should give you a boost in itself. Could you fit in a 30 min brisk walk everyday (if you don't already)? The exercise itself releases feel good endorphins, the rush from this is easily transferred to sexual excitation and the boost in fitness and even a little bit of toning will boost your confidence. A really simple thing to do to help you feel confident in yourself is a trick I was taught when I was about ten; every time you walk through a doorway, say to yourself 'I am valuable and lovable'. It sounds lame but it works to remind you to love yourself. Try putting a few blank post-its near doorways just to remind you.
SWEETHEART! YOU'RE NOT FAT AT ALL. IT'S ALL UP IN YOUR MIND. I'M 5"3 AND WEIGH 140LBS AND DON'T FEEL THAT WAY, SO EXTRA FIFTEEN IS NOT FAT. YOU'RE AVERAGE. GET OUT OF THAT MENTALITY BEFORE YOU BECOME ANOREXIC. WEAR THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL SEXY AND YOU WON'T NEED THAT DARKNESS. YOUR HUSBAND HAS NO PROBLEM WITH HOW YOU LOOK SO WHY YOU? LEARN TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST AND LOVE YOURSELF MORE TOO.
If you want someone to tell you words to make you feel good about your looks or make you accept the way you look; it is not going to happen. Well, that is unless you pay someone to flatter you. Life gives you just what it has given you and take it for what it is... Be happy with it, be satisfied with it and work with it and do not care what other thinks of it. If you cannot accept that and still want a quick fix... surgery will not do it nor will starving yourself nor will keeping the light off as you and your hubby make the milky way. The only words I can give you are from Eleanor Roosevelt when she said that no one can make you unhappy without your permission. Why are you giving them the permission? Whats the point of living when you make yourself not enjoy it?
you know, some day you, along with all of us and the rest of the world...are going to be wrinkly and hunched over.
stop looking at yourself, and look at your husband.
adore him for the way he adores you and let that be enough to satisfy. you're with him now, you'll be with him when he and you are both wrinkly and hunched over.
life is too short to psychoanalyze anyone's esteem.
If you keep telling your husband that you look fat, he might start believing you.
STOP IT NOW!!!
If he thinks you look great, then stop trying to talk him out of it.
Sounds like you have a great guy there who loves you so stop behaving like a fat selfish little girl and start acting like the gorgeous sexy woman that your wonderful hubby sees you as.
Marriage is about making an effort and if you want to keep him interested then smarten up - both in your mind and in how you look. If you love him and want to show him, then dress up and put on some makeup - go all out to dazzle him.
155 lbs is NOT FAT!!! If YOU think you need to tone up your body then only YOU can do it...but obviously your hubby isn't worried about it, so stop worrying and start working on showing him your best assetts.
How long have you been together? How long do you plan to stay together? Its up to you...if you want to keep him then stop worrying and start working on being the beautiful woman he sees in you.
Believe him - trust him - and don't fight it with your mind.
155 for that height is a bit on the heavy side, but well within acceptable parameters.
.
its not going to matter how many people tell you that you are beautiful you have to beleive it yourself. God created you a unique individual. dont compare yourself to others. we all have our own special beauty. beleive that and you will be a much happier person. i know because i went through the same thing.
then go totally unconscious around him and accept that you are beautiful when he says so. so you think you are fat, well if you didnt confine yourself to so terrible standards as having weight decide whether you are fat or not. anyways fat is not a good description of you, anyways fat is just more calories per sq inch of food, nothing bad about it. fat people just have more stored energy, nothing bad about it. it just doesnt turn people on, some are turned on by it but only because media has marketed it real well.
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