I am getting fatter and don't know how to deal with it, i think i am disgusting, but have no motivation to get
do you have anything that you can help me??
i was thinking about printing pictures of fat people out, and skinny people too and hanging them throughout my house, but i dont know that this will work, any other ideas?
i am afraid my other half will think i am disgusting, he always looks at and talks to my younger skinny sister that just got a boob job and it makes me feel like he is in love with her.
PLEASE HELP.
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you have to take responsibility for who you are, and how you look. If you don't like what you see in the mirror, then only YOU have the power to change that!
You can do this by either accepting & loving who you are, as you are, and with these positive vibes speading out toward all the people who love you. Or, you can start changing the things you don't like. Which will require motivation & discipline.
Don't blame your boyfriend for looking elsewhere [if he really is - your low self-esteem may just be making you paranoid], & don't resent your sister for being skinny with big boobs.
Stop being so miserable & start making some changes in your life!
Get up and move it!! W/e it takes, punch your sister if you must. And only eat three times a day, breakfast, lunch, and dinner...NO SNACKS. Putting up pics will make you develop a disorder. Good Luck to ya.
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Well that isn't right that your husband is doing that right in front of you. It seems to me that you want to lose weight for him and his attention. The best advice I can give is to do it for yourself and no one else. I once weighed a lot. I got my bf, at the time, to take pics of me in my underwear... I was very disgusted with what I saw, which motivated me more. Since then I lost 70 lbs. Ever day I would force myself to look at that picture and believe that, that IS me.
wow, I would be looking at her too
Is she single?
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Are you dealing with depression? Talk to a doctor about possibly taking medication for depression to help you through it. When someone is depressed it is incredibly difficult to be motivated to do anything.
Start small. Slowly change your eating habits. If you drink a lot of pop, taper it off. Like say you drink 4 bottles of pop daily. Aim for only 3 a day next week. And 2 a day the week after that. So on. Replace the pop with water. Eat 6 small meals daily instead of 3 large ones. Snack on healthier foods. Exercise is difficult to start, so again start small. Park farther away from the doors when you go shopping. Find something you like to do and do it. Even shopping itself can be exercise. Walk around the mall for a while and window shop at all of the clothes you would wear if you could just get the weight off.
As you get used to each small step, add another.
And as far as your boyfriend goes, talk to him about it. Let him know that it bothers you when he's looking at her and talking to her. Let him know that you want to make some changes to yourself and ask him to support you through it.
Good luck =)
well first off.. that is the dumbest question asked ever!! if your unhappy with being fat.. exercise, eat healthy and change! people wont feel sorry for you cuz its your body and you can deal with it in many ways! instead of wasting your time printing pics out... run on the treadmill or outside.. duh! and yes your other half probably does think your sister is sexy... she takes care of herself and body! guys hate when woman let themselves go.. so if you dont want him to cheat or leave you, go on a diet and lose weight. sorry hunny but this is a world full of judgement and beautiful, skinny, model looking woman. i am 100 lbs age 24 and i would never let myself get fat. but everyone is beautiful inside... its a shame looks matter the most now a days. good luck.
Your problem is not your body, its your mind. I have depression and always feel like I'm inadequate. I thought if I didn't have a good body, no one would ever like me.
I talk to a therapist and take medicine, and I realized I'm a good person finally. I haven't gained or lost any weight, I just look at myself differently.
I would also ask your bf if he is happy with the relationship. Don't ask if he thinks your sister is pretty, or if you're fat, or if you're the prettiest girl he knows. Just ask if he's happy, period. My girlfriend is overweight, and I still think other women are pretty (even downright sexy), but she's the only one for me, and I don't want it any other way. If he's happy with you, it doesn't matter what he thinks of your sister. He goes home with YOU every night. He sleeps in YOUR bed every night, and tells YOU he loves you. Don't ever forget that.
As far as losing weight, try this: Take one food or drink you know is bad for you but you consume a lot, and get rid of it. Don't do anything else. Then, when you realize you can live without it, in a month or two try another thing and so on. It takes a while, but life is long, and it is a great way to stick to what you're doing, not to mention help you see that you indeed can live without food as a comfort.
One of the tricks in dieting is "the deadline." You might set a goal that says you need to lose some ridiculous amount of weight in a short period of time because of some external compulsion like the fear that your other half doesn't find you attractive. Another weird thing I've noticed about dieting is, when a person begins to think to heavily of their appearance and they spend a lot of time on the scale and in front of the mirror, they begin to see extra weight. In my teens I experienced this. I would go to the mirror and see 5 more pounds that needed to go before I was pleased. I looked like a skelaton to everyone, but I saw cottage cheese.
The sense of failure with impossible goals sends you flying back to food for solice and the cycle repeats.
As I got older, I learned how I was tricking myself. One way was if I ate something really bad, I'd say damn I blew it so I would abandon it for that day and go off. Now if I blow it. I don't have to keep blowing it because one bad meal is better than six. All or nothing thinking is destructive.
I also think long-term now. If I'm making progress slowly that's good. Obsession and full exertion can last only a short time, but by pinching pennies so to speak, the cumilitive effect takes place. For you, I'd watch what happens with your fears about your other, because they'll drive you another "other" namely ice cream.
If you fail one day, don't lash yourself because you'll use food to heal yourself
Remember also the goal is to burn more fuel than what you take in so any kind of extra little exercise helps.
Set a reasonable goal like 1-2 Pounds every 1-2 weeks and before you know it, time will fly and you will have lost a significant amount. Aim for a reasonable overall weight: one that doesn't take an obsession to maintain.
keep low targets and u'll see urself doin more than u evr wished, sometimes bein gentle with urself is better, make promises to urself only if u can keep em or else u end up hating urself
Don't always be so negative.
Hello to being plumper than you want to be,
1. Do yourself a favor and talk to your doctor about going on a proper daily calorie-restricted diet.
2. Join an exercise group, and in time you will get rid of excess blubber, feel better about yourself, and re-think your relationship with (?) boyfriend/husband. If he would leave you for your skinny sister, is this really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
3. I wish you success and good luck in whatever you do.
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It will be interesting to see you in about 20 years. Why on earth R U so darn judgmental? Give the woman a chance without hacking off her ankles right away!
have you tried the alli product or any thin advertized on t.v
Stop ya pathetic whining, & do something about it.
You think one of us has a magic pill that will be handed to you on a silver platter?
Get real, you don't get nothing for nothing.
It takes hard work, discipline, motivation & dedication to get off your fat.*** and change your life.
Take responsibility for your own self.
It's just like alcoholism and drug abuse .when you have had enough of the pain you are inflicting on your self you will seek help and DECIDE to change. Until then nothing anyone says will make a difference.
hi,
Aw, I am so sorry that isn't cool. I have lost alot of weight by eating healthy and yogurt and not eating anything...past 7 or 8 p.m. Good luck sweetie =-) hopefully I help you!
Listen to be fair..get out there and do something..if he is going to cheat on you..get thinner..dress sexy and that will be the sweet revenge..YOU CAN DO IT! No pictures you'll get anorexia..that would be worse
First of all, don't be so down on yourself God doesn't make disgusting things! And all guys look at breasts no matter who's connected to them! No offense to your sister! But actually I've been reading a book called "Shed 10 years in 10 weeks" by Julian Whitaker, MD. Not only is it regarding weight issues it has alot of wonderful info about how to repair your insides from all the "abuse" ya know, processed foods and junk! Anyways, there is a list of vitamins in there to help you recover and "Chromium Picolinate" "The body's top anti sugar cop" not only burns fat, increases muscle mass and is an excellent treatment for insulin resistance (diabetes) it has control over the hypothalamus, the "satiety center" of the brain which signals to us that we have had enough to eat and its time to stop eating. Most Americans are seriously chromium deficient which is why threes alot of insulin resistance and obesity. Another is lipoic acid which is good for raising your metabolism. Get this book I'm in love with it! I believe also however, there is someone for everyone and maybe this guy is not your someone! Keep your head up, love yourself and fight for yourself, get this book today! Good luck sweetie!
I really feel for you, But you could try doing excercises that you enjoy, Maybe take up kickboxing or something? Or just take a daily jog around the park.. But make sure you start off slowly and gradually work harder, it will reduce your weight.. If you do work, and go to work by car. You could walk to work or even jog to work.. Get some mates with you and all of you go to a gym on certain days! Just organise something! Also only eat the three daily meals and dont snack on junk! But remember always consult your doctor before changing diet! It can have its effects on you.. Hope this helpss..
if looking at skinny pictures and having a skinny young sister don't motivate you I really don't know what will as far as being heavy is concerned. It's all up to you to find your own reason for doing things, that you see at the end of the tunnel is a prize and that you want to work toward that prize. One thing for sure is that just sitting in front of a computer for hours on end will eventually make you fat.
accept and love yourself first irrespective of your weight.after this you can work on your weight.your weight is not the biggest problem,your self-esteem is.
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