Could not having a good relationship with my father be the cause of my depression and anxiety?
I am a rather successful girl in most ways that a person would define success. I can look around and see numerous people that have things a lot worse than me. I know this stuff in my head, yet for some reason I'm simply not happy. I'm depressed all the time. I tell myself I shouldn't be, but you can't help how you feel. I think I've finally figured out that it is because my relationship with my father is not right. It's that missing piece that makes me unhappy. I never had a father emotionally. He was physically present always and provided financially. However, he is a negative person, he criticized me constantly, and pushed me aways when I was little. Now I feel so awkward and uneasy to be around him and avoid him. As we know different people need different things. I've always needed lots of affection from a father. I've always desired to be a daddy's girl, but I can't have that. Any suggestions on what I can do? There's no hope for my father and me so that's out totally
Answer:
By the time we are 5 years old we have created the foundation for our belief system which is stored in our subconscious. When our preception of reality (on the conscious level) and those (often hidden from us) programs within the subconscious do not match, we begin to feel anxiety - this can lead to depression, and even insanity. Most of us "tweak things" so that we can perceive things to more closely match our internal, subconscious programs, though often those feelings of anxiety and depression linger on. Regarding your internal beliefs, and your current relationship wth your father, many factors may be influencing your depression. There are ways you can begin to discover those "hidden" beliefs you have and to even change those programs of dealing with life, in the same way that you once created the programs. Whatever you are experiencing is really about YOU, though it is triggered by outside influences such as your father. I, too, struggled with my relationship with my father. I could not change my father, only myself. Seek to heal those parts of you that cause your depression and anxiety.
It is definitely possible that is the cause or part of the cause for depression. Especially if you have a hard time in relationships with other men. My advice would be to see a therapist. Seeing one doesn't mean you are crazy it just means you are seeking answers in your personal life. They can be a great help. You need to confront and deal with the fact that he will never be there for you the way you would like. Find comfort in the people you can count on. It is possible to get over your depression and anxiety with a little help.
I don't have a relationship with my father. all my bro and sister dont either.and we live with him cause hes a mean guy that yells all day. but you get used to it. I don't care about having a realathionship with him but if its so important to you I say you guys should talk or seek counseling :)
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Answer:
By the time we are 5 years old we have created the foundation for our belief system which is stored in our subconscious. When our preception of reality (on the conscious level) and those (often hidden from us) programs within the subconscious do not match, we begin to feel anxiety - this can lead to depression, and even insanity. Most of us "tweak things" so that we can perceive things to more closely match our internal, subconscious programs, though often those feelings of anxiety and depression linger on. Regarding your internal beliefs, and your current relationship wth your father, many factors may be influencing your depression. There are ways you can begin to discover those "hidden" beliefs you have and to even change those programs of dealing with life, in the same way that you once created the programs. Whatever you are experiencing is really about YOU, though it is triggered by outside influences such as your father. I, too, struggled with my relationship with my father. I could not change my father, only myself. Seek to heal those parts of you that cause your depression and anxiety.
It is definitely possible that is the cause or part of the cause for depression. Especially if you have a hard time in relationships with other men. My advice would be to see a therapist. Seeing one doesn't mean you are crazy it just means you are seeking answers in your personal life. They can be a great help. You need to confront and deal with the fact that he will never be there for you the way you would like. Find comfort in the people you can count on. It is possible to get over your depression and anxiety with a little help.
I don't have a relationship with my father. all my bro and sister dont either.and we live with him cause hes a mean guy that yells all day. but you get used to it. I don't care about having a realathionship with him but if its so important to you I say you guys should talk or seek counseling :)
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