How do I stop feeling guilty?
I can't handle guilt. Sometimes I feel so guilty about things I feel embarrassed and bad just thinking about it. I can feel really guilty about things like today calling my mom something I didn't really mean (and already apologized for) or getting yelled at by my 9th grade teacher (like 6 years ago)! It's not like it plagues my thoughts but when I think about it I feel guilty and drags me down. How do I get over this??
Answer:
Guilt is the result of conscience. When we do something that violates our own personal code of conduct or something we have been taught or told is 'wrong', we feel guilty for it, as a way of regulating our behavior.
But excessive guilt has nothing to do with our actual actions and everything to do with ourselves. If you find yourself feeling guilty over small things and unable to deal with it, then maybe you should stop focusing on the little things you're doing 'wrong' and focus on yourself as a whole.
How is your self-esteem? How do you feel about yourself in general? Do you consider yourself a good person with a lot to offer the world? Or do you think of yourself as inherantly 'bad'?
If you have a bad self-image, you will never do anything 'right' in your eyes, and every time you do something you know is wrong, like insulting your mother, you will beat yourself up twice as badly over it.
The best thing to do is examine yourself, sit down and list the things you like about yourself, the good qualities you know you have and want to project daily. Also, make a pact to yourself; write down the things that you will NOT do, such as steal, lie, cheat, etc. Serious things that you really SHOULD feel guilty about! And if it's not on that list of super major horrible things, then try and find a way to forgive yourself. Remind yourself you're a good person who just makes mistakes like everyone else, and you'll feel better about yourself in the long run. If all else fails, do something nice for someone! The best way to make up for doing something wrong is to show someone you're sorry.
Make one giant apology, or go to confession or whatever its called at church.
Sometimes I feel the same way. You just got to move on with life. What's done is done. You can not change the past; you got worry about the present and look towards the future. Try to forget about it all. Forgive and forget. Everyone makes mistakes, that is what makes us human.
lighten up a little... its not like you're Paris Hilton or something... she's a piece of sh*t
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Answer:
Guilt is the result of conscience. When we do something that violates our own personal code of conduct or something we have been taught or told is 'wrong', we feel guilty for it, as a way of regulating our behavior.
But excessive guilt has nothing to do with our actual actions and everything to do with ourselves. If you find yourself feeling guilty over small things and unable to deal with it, then maybe you should stop focusing on the little things you're doing 'wrong' and focus on yourself as a whole.
How is your self-esteem? How do you feel about yourself in general? Do you consider yourself a good person with a lot to offer the world? Or do you think of yourself as inherantly 'bad'?
If you have a bad self-image, you will never do anything 'right' in your eyes, and every time you do something you know is wrong, like insulting your mother, you will beat yourself up twice as badly over it.
The best thing to do is examine yourself, sit down and list the things you like about yourself, the good qualities you know you have and want to project daily. Also, make a pact to yourself; write down the things that you will NOT do, such as steal, lie, cheat, etc. Serious things that you really SHOULD feel guilty about! And if it's not on that list of super major horrible things, then try and find a way to forgive yourself. Remind yourself you're a good person who just makes mistakes like everyone else, and you'll feel better about yourself in the long run. If all else fails, do something nice for someone! The best way to make up for doing something wrong is to show someone you're sorry.
Make one giant apology, or go to confession or whatever its called at church.
Sometimes I feel the same way. You just got to move on with life. What's done is done. You can not change the past; you got worry about the present and look towards the future. Try to forget about it all. Forgive and forget. Everyone makes mistakes, that is what makes us human.
lighten up a little... its not like you're Paris Hilton or something... she's a piece of sh*t
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