PLEASE HELP EVERYONE!! does he like me or not?
also. when i was finished work.. he was siitin at his desk and he had his swival chair totally turned towards me(i was lookin away but when i turned to face him..) he must have been staring at me. coz when i turned towards him he had(chair turned to face me and he was smiling). it wasnt a dirty smile it seemed more like i really like you-(unsure whether as friend as more)
anyway, he texted me then and and the text started with "hi honey..(rst of text) is he just messin and been real friendly or does he like me? hes older then me.
Answer:
Alright, I've really got to run... but I was looking through the questions for fun this morning, and stumbled across yours and for some reason I really, really, really want to answer you
and I hope you listen REALLY carefully and don't get offended.
You are obviously a younger woman... Are you under 18? yes/no... just think about that. Better yet, grab a piece of paper and a pen and write down; "I am under 18" (if true)
Am I correct in assuming that he is your supervisor at work? He asked you if you would like to do extra work, so I'm going to guess that is the case. Now, on your piece of paper write down; "He is my superior at work"
I'm also willing to bet that you don't have a ton of experience with men, especially older men... Is that right? If so, write down; "I am inexperienced"
How old is he? Write it down. He's more than 5 years older than you, isn't he? If he is over 18 and you are not; pursuing a sexual relationship with you would be illegal in most states, and he knows that.
Is he married or does he have a girlfriend? (don't laugh or be offended if he isn't or doesn't... just re-read this question after you've had a few more years of experience and you'll understand) Write down the answer...
I'm glad you included that your workplace is very casual, but still. I am a business owner and I can tell you that if I saw one of my older male employees tousling the hair of, or even just frequently touching (upper arm, back, standing too close) a younger female employee, there would be serious trouble... (And not just because of the legal ramifications of sexual harassment suits either!)
It's inappropriate work behavior, and unless the older male is mentally challenged and can't communicate with women his own age, his interest in the younger female is purely sexual, with a side helping of manipulation and the accompanying ego-boost.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Many people might try to argue that an adult man CAN fall in love with a teenage girl, and I suppose it's true, but that is an anomaly... And at the end of the day, when you analyze THOSE relationships; you're likely to find that said male in love was actually "in love" with how young, attractive, appreciated, and looked up to the younger girl made him feel about HIMSELF, and had nothing to do with her at all...
Imagine you were his age. OK? Now, imagine yourself as an older woman, someone his age... Imagine yourself observing the way he acts with younger you... Can you visualize that? How do you feel about him as an adult watching his behavior? Change much?
These are hard-earned lessons kiddo, listen carefully.
My analysis of the situation is as follows, and I only wish you the best, really.
I think that you are a young, inexperienced girl. I think that you are probably very cute, but not the kind of cute that can get any guy she wants at school... I'd guess that you are fairly shy, and very insecure, and that you aren't used to this type of attention.
You are probably really excited by this, which is normal, it's GREAT to know that someone else finds you attractive, adding the fact that he is older than the guys your friends are dating, must mean that you are somehow more mature, right? And he is a more impressive catch, no? I mean, he's hopefully making more money than your friend's boyfriends, talks about "grown-up things" sometimes.
At BEST, this guy is just trying to be a really laid-back and friendly boss who has forgotten that there are boundaries that should not be crossed.
At WORST, and this is what I'm leaning towards, he sees you as a hot, young, insecure, "easy-to-manipulate = easy-to-get-into-bed = easy-to-convince-to-keep-quiet... girl. As someone he can have a little fun with, someone who makes him feel good about himself, makes him feel attractive and powerful.
So, to answer your question: Yes, I think that guy is being more than friendly. And I think you should run the other way...
But, because this is one of those things that you have to learn the hard way: Be careful, use protection, and don't be too devastated when he doesn't leave his wife and kids for you as soon as you turn 18, OK?
Good luck. Hope that wasn't too harsh.
go slow, wait for more information. He could just be a really nice older man who looks at you like a daughter. Making a move too soon can not only be embarrassing but could lose you your job and a friend.
wait for more info...jus play along for the time
seems like just a friendly person tryin to get some
Yes, it sounds like he does like you. Any form of physical contact from another gender/partner is a good tell tale sign they're interested. He may be shy to a point of not wanting rejection and that's why he has not popped the question so to speak? And maybe because he's older he thinks you wouldn't want to date him? Sounds like YOU really like him as well?
Someone who wants to be a "friend" to you would not touch you especially if he's male.
Hope it turns out for you.
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