Friends!!!!help im desperate!?

i cant stand my so called friend. shes nice but has a temper. everytime i talk to her i just get nervous after the call and get real depressed! just when my life was gettin on track and coming together it SLOWLY CRUMBLING APART!!!!!!!!!... help me!!!!for the love of god please!!!!!!!!... NEED SERIOUS ANSWERS!

Answer:
Umm, try asking a question and then someone can give you an answer.
If she depresses you so much, quit calling her. If she calls you and asks why, tell her. Maybe she doesn't realize she is bringing you down.
Here is a serious answer. If she really is giving you such trouble then give her the boot and get rid of her. And then move on.
You need to talk to your friend and tell her how you feel and the way that she makes you feel when she gets a temper. If she tries to improve then she's worth keeping but if she doesn't improve then it's sad to say but you need to find a new friend that won't depress you. Friends aren't supposed to depress you they are supposed to release you from depression. You can tell her that to so that she will understand where you're coming from. I had a friend like that. She would depress me too because she would tell all of her issues to me so that she can feel released from stress but leave me stressed out. I had to take a break from her and I felt so much better. You should easily be able to talk with her with this to sort things out. Make sure that you tell her the truth- don't sugar coat things just tell her like it is but in a respectful way. I hope things work out best for you. Good luck!!
First of all, when someone close to you lashes out frequently it usually means that that person feels safe with you; they know that regardless of their treatment of you, you aren't going anywhere.
Secondly, it sounds like your friend may need help. Frequent bursts of temper are often a way to avoid other emotions; it's so much easier to be angry than it is to be sad or frightened.
I hope that this is helpful. I'm not a therapist, but I've been through this before.
A friend cant make you feel that way. Get yourself together and gather all the courage you need to leave this friendship. She is going to make you ill, she is toxic.

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