Why do I do this?

When I'm online, I can talk to these attractive women with out any problem. I'm able to be myself and I can be very flirtatious and I can get them to laugh and we have a good time. When I'm in public though, I'll freeze up, shy away or not have a clue as to what to say. So where is all this confidence I exude when I'm online going when I'm in person with these people? And how can I fix this? Cuz I'm kind of frustrated with this and can't figure it out. I've been told I'm not ugly so what's the deal?

Answer:
I think it's because you feel safe behind your computer vs. being there in person.. having every little move you make being seen and judged. Try to change your way of thinking. Think to yourself that it doesn't matter what they think.. either they will like you or they wont.. no big loss. Actually the computer helped me with my confidence lol. It made me realize who I really am. If I don't think about being judged, I can usually do a lot better with being open and being funny.
You have to be comfortable with yourself to be comfortable with someone else. I just wrote this same answer to someone else. I'll go check the link and give it to you if you want to read the entire answer.
Try getting someone to introduce you to them. Try to get them under an enviroment you feel comfortable in. Sometimes its just that you are not that interested in that certain girl. If you find one that blows your mind, you will forget about your shyness.
Let's look at your self esteem, or perhaps lack of. Talking and having a great time on the phone is a great way of 'masking' who you really are. If you felt as comfortable talking with others in person as you do online, life would be the best. That not being the case, though, I would suggest taking a look inside: why is it easier to talk online versus talking in person? Where do you feel you dont measure up?
That's a beginning. Take this thought to the next level and see what you might uncover about yourself. Good luck.
You are anonymous. where the is anonymity, there safety. Safety from rejection,and judgement. When people meet face to face,insercurities can pop up.
The internet is your safety zone. Step out of the way and get out there. U may be suprised the more U go out and get to know people one on one , face to face more it will become as easy as falling off a log. CONFIDENCE...

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