Why at times do words hurt more than actions, and should they?
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Words only hurt if they come from someone you respect.
When i was growing up i was called dumb and stupid. I believe it did prevent me from doing my best.
..and everything hurts words and actions...and you venerability..and openess to pain
Emotional pain affects people deeper and it stays with you longer...
It depends on who they come from and what the context is. Wounds go away and heal but cruel words can stay forever, especially if they are from someone that is supoosed to love you. If it is from a stranger, a person can usually forget about it. But if it is from a loved one, you are close to them and feel they can be trusted. That is why it hurts more.
Words can linger on, long after actions. I have always been affected more by words than actions. I guess because they can really sting and hit home, as oppose to something physical that has the potential to fade. And usually when people say hurtful words they are something about our character that really bother/torture us, and it makes us even more upset.
When people let the words hurt them. They are only, letters, put together to make a sound. Words can't hurt you unless you let them.
It's true, then again, words are actions but I know that isn't your point. No, they shouldn't hurt more because if you listen to an insult someone gives you and take it personally you are basically saying that that person knows you better than you know yourself. That cannot be true. Plain and simple. In addition, insults are merely opinions, not facts and there are probably 10 times as many people that think the opposite of the person that offended you.
The most insecure are the ones that insult.
People have feelings and some spoken words can hurt. Actions we can try to justify, but when someone puts out words thay can mean only what they mean. Let it hurt, remember where the words came from and then let it go.
well when i was younger people used to say i was pretty stupid too(just like i love k ) because i'm really stubborn that made me want to prove to them that i'm not stupid and guess whta i'm not
i have no idea! i hate it! you can punch me 20 times but calling me something makes me so sad(only me!) that it turns into imidiate anger and i end up calling the person things that i know really hurt them.thats what i dont like about myself.i seem to get into social arguments that shall never proceed since i guess im too tough of a cookie.i know im a really good person but the things i say are things that hurt,but hey shouldnt of offended me...
well, sometimes, if some person doesnt even touch you, but they call u a ***, it can hurt as much as someone punching u in the face. getting ur feelings hurt really duz hurt.
i would think that its because people are much more afraid of what people will think of them, not necessarily what they will do.
what people do to you will largely be forgotten about in a while and you will be the only person still thinking about it whereas what people say are normally said to hurt you personally which you will take offence to and you will constantly think that other people were thinking the same thing but no one had the brass to say it to you, when someone does something to you everyone already knows about it so you dont have the same worry
you get me??
Because you make the words mean certain things. When the words are spoken, you are making them mean something deeper than they are. Next time they are spoken, think about it first, then decide what the word means..if it describes who you are, then take it to heart, if it doesnt..then blow it off. Words are words, and people have made them mean all different things. Usually when words are spoken, they reflect the person saying them.
I believe that actions that we personally perceive are much better indicators of the truth than words.
In many instances, we speak in metaphorical and ambiguous tomes in order to provide a cover for our true emotions. It takes another level of commitment to actually act on one's thoughts.
It is also true that actions can be deceptive and dishonest. However, I believe actions to be closer indicators of the truth than spoken words.
Words need not hurt us in any manner. We can reflect on the hurtful words and be acutely aware of their purpose and meaning, but not be hurt emotionally. The words are a reflection of the sender, not the receiver.
Some people are more sensitive to words because words are like scars that can run through you emotionally and since it's coming from someone who wishes you harm, you get the sense that what they're saying could be right and that you might be whatever they say you are.
Say you got beat up, for example. Maybe physical pain couldn't hurt as much as when they tell you that you're nothing, worthless, and a pile of crap. Because it's from someone else, and that they're seeing you instead you seeing yourself, you get a whole new feel about yourself. Like..hmm...not your own self concept, but an idea of what people might view you as. If a person says you're trash, you could consider that and might think you could actually be trash.
I don't think words should hurt *that* much, but coming from someone who has no emotions (figuratively, of course), I'm probably not the right person to ask. It's ok if you decide to take other people's words into consideration when finding out about yourself and how high is your self esteem...but if you realize that someone wants to hurt you and saying all these kinds of insults about you, then the best thing to do there is to ignore them.
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