Is it possible to forgive if you can't forget?
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I'm sorry, but it is impossible..we remember the negatives forever and frequently forget the good things. You can say you forgive and forgot, but what if your partner brings up their pain of something they said they forgave and forgot? Well of course the issued you vowed comes right back and into the fight..it's called "Digging up bones" and under the right circumstances..we are all gravediggers!
You have to forget to truly forgive, and we are not designed to forget, we need all of our experiences to survive future challenges and believe me unless you have a concussion and memory loss..you will not truly forget..especially if it was something that hurt you bad!
DB
I think you can forgive but never forget it always stays in the back of your mind.
Grosse Point Blank:
"Some people like to forgive and forget. I say, forget about forgiving and get the hell out of town."
Yes, but it's not easy.You need to move on sometimes, and put the past behind you so you can get on with the rest of your life.
As a cancer patient, I can tell you life is too short.
I wish you luck,and happiness.
Well i can forgive but i cant forget...
so for me no, maybe some people can ...
Well, maybe it's possible to forgive if you can't forget. This depends about you: If you want to forgive first. But it's probably more easy to forget to forgive ( I believe this because it happened to me for several times ) ...my opinion
Well its very hard to forgive if someone did u wrong so just try.
Usually all you can do is just avoid the situation where the bad thing happened, and also not dwell on it. And how can you be expected to forget something that you'd really like to avoid happening again in the future? It's usually just best to move on, and be wiser about everything.
of course forgiving comes first. forgetting is not that easy
It is possible to forgive and not forget you just seem to deal with it as life, most things can be forgiven and many and never forgotten.
it depends on what there is to forget and forgive. i was raped by a family member when i was a child. have i forgotten it .NO. have i forgiven the person? YES. if you can't or won't forgive. it will tear you apart mentally. it's over with. you can't change the past. but you can forgive and go on with your future. it takes a lot of work but it can be done. but before you can forgive the other person you have to forgive yourself. it doesn't matter what you have to forgive them for. once you can do that it makes it easier to forgive and go on with your life. good luck and GOD BLESS
Forgiveness is not an emotion. It is an act of will, something we choose to do. So yes, you can forgive without forgetting but it doesn't mean setting yourself up to be hurt again.
i think forgiveness has different stages to go through before you can forget. I don't think you will necessarily forget the incident, but come to see it from a different perspective, thus changing your feelings towards those involved. To forgive is to let go of the situation. Leave it in God's hands - by handing it over you will not have to deal with it any more. Then you can heal knowing He will sort it in the best way. This will restore your peace, which is the most important thing. You don't want to carry bad feelings around in you forever.
Its possible to forgive, depending on the person you are! It's one of those things thats never easy to do though.
Once you truly forgive then it is no longer an issue and it will not bother you so you will forget easier as time passes, question is are you able to forgive and extend the arm of trust first for the ultimate prize of your inner peace later?
You have to remember to be able to forgive. If you forget then I don't think it was such a significant oversight that required forgiveness.
You have to totally forget to truly forgive.
It is how the Lord forgives us. The slate is washed cleaned and whatever we did does not exist anymore.
It is like when we totally forgive someone, we too refuse to keep a record of their wrongs. Think about why you do not want to forget. Is it information to use against them later?
Remember love motivates forgiveness. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Blessings
Yes! In some cases, it may even be beneficial. Example; One may forgive someone of getting drunk; but one can help that person in the future by remembering what the person is like when they are drunk.
Forgetting would mean your brain isn't functioning correctly. People say to forgive and forget, but forgetting wouldn't actually be the smart thing to do. You should always remember, as should the person who did you wrong; how else will they remember what they've learned from it?
You can probably remember things that people did to you that hurt at the time, but doesn't hurt so much anymore and doesn't make you hate them. That means you've moved on from it enough to forgive them, even though you can remember it. If it's something recent, you will definitely think about it much of the time, and that's perfectly fine. You are a human with feelings after all. But forgiving someone means that you know that they are truly sorry and feeling bad about causing you pain. Not just sorry they got caught or sorry that they messed up and now things are different. but truly sorry for what YOU are feeling. Once you know a person feels guilt, it's easier to forgive them and let them forgive themself, but neither will forget, nor should they necessarily want to.
Forgiving is an action of the heart and mind. We often learn from our mistakes and it's even better to learn from others mistakes. Remembering the transgression helps us to stay humble. The bible says that we are all guilty of sin! Jesus, when asked by the elders of the town when they had caught the prostitute said, "let he among you cast the first stone" It is the remembering of the transgression that helps us from becoming guily as well!
Some say that you should forgive and forget, what I think they really mean is when you forgive you then count it not against them anymore! That is the way GOD looks at us! It is the guilt of the transgression that makes us elligible for a savior! "only the sick need a doctor" It is on the basis of what Christ did on the cross for our sins that makes us able to have a relationship with GOD!
Remember what they did, but remember too that you have also been forgiven much by a loving GOD who GAVE HIS LIFE so that you could live! If He Loved me so much that HE took my place at the Cross, Then it is a simple matter for me to forgive anothers transgression against me!
Hope that helps!
onre can forgive but not forget.
i believe its best NOT to forget, as everything in life is a lesson. when we forget a lesson that has hurt or an experience that has shaken us to awakening, we are taking a chance of repeating the same mistake or behavior.
You can!
you can forgive someone for their past actions, believing that the reasons for them were either valid or that they thought they were valid at the time, while not forgetting what they did and knowing that it's possible for them to do it again.
If you forget when you forgive, what you're really doing is letting them know what they did is OK.
depends what it is whether i forgive or not, but i never forget
yes its possible
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