I have a porn addiction help!?
I have a porn addiction!
I need to get over it A.S.A.P.
I know it's wrong.
Yet everytime time, I think watching porn is going to make me feel better, right after watching it, I feel sick, and disgusted with myself.
Yet, I will do it again and again!
How do I get over this addiction?
With out rehab!
Answer:
Your problem is not you. It's the label that our present day socieity has placed on sex. We think that sexual desires are evil and dirty. The act of *seeing* two persons making love stimulates a very real and physical reaction in our brain that in turn leads to the pleasures associated with sex. It is only our conditioning and programming that leaves the *horrible* after effect that you are experiencing. This conditioning comes from societal influences, maybe church, family etc. If we were not meant to be stimulated from seeing such acts, why is the brain designed to do otherwise?
The only help you need is to recondition your mind to accept the eroticism in sex.
You're a very sick person... You really need Jesus.
OK, so why is watching porn bad? Does it interfere with your life or your ability to function?
If it is, then get professional help. There are no porn rehabs.
If it isn't, then lighten up and enjoy yourself.
I feel you. Tell yourself you cant do it. It will hurt so much not to do what your heart desires but, think about how good you'll feel after knowing you aren't hooked on something as evil & disgusting as porn. It only takes dedication & determination. You can do it = )
subtract it from the equation. keep yourself busy with other things
Unless this behavior is hurting others or yourself, don't worry about it.
Better than doing drugs!!
Don't feel guilty about normal human sexual behavior.
You don't have an addiction problem... you have a different problem. In believing society's bullcrap that porn is bad. It's actually not bad. Or evil. It's actually a healthier alternative to sex with all the STDs flying around nowadays. Of course, it's not as good as sex. Risk vs reward, ya know.
Anyway, porn is fine and you don't need to worry about it. You should not feel disgusted with yourself. Humans are sexual creatures by nature. It's society that is unhealthy.
Don't ever believe that what you feel is wrong and simply block it out. Seek to understand it and embrace that part of yourself regardless of what society says. Especially the puritan retards that think they know what's best for everyone.
whoo party at your place!
lol
try doing a different activity instead whenever you want to watch the porno
ps youre probably obsessed with sex you pervert!!
haha jkin
1.Chill out. Don't take it so seriously. 2.The way to break any habit is to replace it with a better one. Maybe try cooking, or crossword puzzle, or razor scooter stunts, or whatever new hobby you can get into. 3.Also, the best way to quit something is to keep quitting again and again if you fall back and eventually you will succeed. Cheers!
You can try cold turkey - stop watching it.
You can punish yourself for watching it, but it seems you are doing that.
I think that eventually you can saturate yourself with it - watch it until it no longer gives you a thrill. Eventually you may become less fascinated with it, especially as you grow older or when you develop an interest in a live person.
Another possibility is that you can develop empathy for people by donating time to a soup kitchen or collecting food and clothes for the poor, possibly through a church. No one has to know your 'problem' and developing an interest in real people may help.
My advice is to probably ask yourself why you are addicted. Write down on the peice of paper why you are addicted and why you fee sick afterwards. You are actually addressing this problem if you write it down on a peice of paper. After you evaluate you then make a list of what keeps you busy. Distract yourself and also realize you can do something more precious and valuble with your time then to watch people physically promote themselves in a provokative manner. Remember the only way to get rid of it is to have a determined attitude and to address the reasons as to why you are addicted. Realize that there is something you lack to replace this addiction. Go to a gym, go for a walk, be active and take care of yourself in a health way physically, mentally and spiritually. Challenge yourself in all aspects that lead to positive outcomes, surely your addictions will go away.
you don't need help. Follow the nature and if you feel like watching watch it and enjoy it and there will be a day when you will not feel like watching enjoy that day as well.
Any addiction is bad. To tobacco, to alcohol, to gambling. If the person is able to controll the activity and it occurs in the terms that you set for yourself, any activity, as reprhensible as many may find porno, can be more or less tamed.
Some addictions are harder to quit, than others.
Drugs for instance, they grab hold at the very part of the brain that rewards you, and feel good when you achieve something, and require no effort or ability, it is the instant gratification with cero effort that keeps the crack heads coming back to a dark alley for yet another fix.
Maybe the porno you are watching is filling an empty space, and gives you instant gratification without the effort of selecting a worthy, disese free, mature, socially and monetarily stable sex partner, or waiting untill you are old enough to find a worthy husband, and have the blessing of your church, and God, which is important to many of us.
Before you watch the next porno movie analyze what is it that it gives you.
If you cannot fight the urge to watch it, analyze what makes it soo reprehensible in your eyes.
Don't feel guilty. It took me 7 years to fight my addiction to cigarrettes. If porno is half as good as smoking, I feel for you. It really has to be good.
Every time I picked up a pack of cigarrettes I swore it was the last one, and during 7 years I lied to myself. Eventually I was able to quit, I had a big incentive, my wife was pregnant with our first girl, and I didn't want my baby arround smokers.
You may want to find a good incentive ot kick your habit, if you find it so depressing afer you have given into it.
There is no shame in falling, you are not perfect.
However if you fall from grace in your own eyes, you owe it to yoursef to get up, try again and again untill you stop doing something, anything that makes you feel bad. Thay way you can feel good about yourself. That is the most immportant measure of life, that you do what is good, and that you feel good about it.
If somethig is bad and makes you feel good, reanalyze your priorities. Something has to be meditated, doing good or bad is not merely spiritual.
When you choose a good habit, you reap good rewards.
Habits become part of your personality, one has to replace a bad habit with a good one and stick to it. Like any action, it takes 6 weeks of daily repetition before an action can become a habit. Try to avoid your bad habit only one day at the time. count the days, every time you fail, you only have to start counting one day at the time.
How to avoid porn addiction on the Internet
1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog Porn Filter,you can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.
2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov
3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.
4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.
5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you need.
6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.
Stick with reputable sites.
If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.
Internet Porn Filter Resource:
http://www.netdogsoft.com
I've struggled with the flesh at times myself, this is what helps me throw on the brakes.
First, know the problem...
The problem is that your flesh likes to look upon bare bodies. Usually it likes to do so without intervention of the brain.
As a side note, biblically speaking, nudity is any bare flesh from the shoulders to the thighs. Society usually counts nudity as being entirely bare, particularly, showing off the genitilia, but a man and woman can lust after a person who is bare chested just as much as a man or woman who is totally naked! Like it or not this also makes wearing most modern day bathing suits - "nakedness"! How many people go to a beach to look at the sun bathers?
Knowing you have a problem is the first step in beating it!
Second, knowing that your flesh likes to do it, you have have to discipline yourself to throw on the brakes when ever you catch yourself doing it! Once you engage the mental brakes it may take a few times doing it to get the porn train to stop, as the fleshly desire has a lot of momentous weight behind it. Disciplining yourself to throw that brake when you notice yourself doing it is a big step in preventing yourself from looking on the flesh of those baring it all! In fact the time to try and flip that mental switch is before you find yourself looking at those pictures and videos. At the first desire to do it, you have to throw the switch!
How do you throw the switch?
Ask yourself this, "Is this person I'm looking at the type of person I want to marry?" The answer should be "No"! Why would you want to marry someone who bares all to the world for money? If they can strip before a camera, what would stop them from stripping before anyone else? Why would you want to marry someone who has revealed their "secrets" to thousands or even millions of people? Also, very few truly good looking people are all that humble, and those looks are likely to fade with time. Also, looking at "hunks" or "babes" all day, or all night, will make you less satisfied with what you have.
If you catch yourself looking at couples making out, ask yourself, "Are these people married?" Probably 99% of porn out on the market, where people are having sex, are not married to each other! Again this is a means to engage the brain and disengage the desire for what you are seeing! If the couple are truly having sex, as opposed to just faking it, what would happen if that girl gets pregnant? Will she run out and have an abortion? Even worse, is when a woman is advertised as being the "wife" of someone else!
Even if they are married, would you look into the window of your next door neighbors when they are having sex? If they are married, why would you desire either one of them? If they are not married, why would you desire someone who would have sex before the world for money?
Here is one last thing to consider, and is probably the biggest, or at least the easiest, switch to trip. Why desire someone you cannot have? Watching a video is not the real person, and unless you hang out at the playboy mansion or some other porn studio, it's not likely you'd ever meet the person or people you are looking at, and even if you did what sort of person is that in real life? All you are seeing is the fantasy side! Heck I remember a few years back there was a scandal in the porn industry because a bunch of porn stars came up HIV positive!
If you feel sick inside for what you have just done, you are on the right track, many, if not most, people wouldn't even bother with it. If your conscience is bothering you about it, get on your knees and ask God for His forgiveness for what you have just done. You can also pray for His strength to draw you from it!
Preventative maintenance: Destroy any porn you might have!
If you have a DVD with porn on it, BREAK it! If you have a VHS tape, break or open it up and cut up the tape itself! If you have magazines rip them up and throw them away! Don't sell them or give them away because that is just passing the buck! If it's not good for you, then it's not good for anyone else!
The bottom line is, you have got to trip the brain switch to throw the brakes on the train of your flesh. Whether it helps to think about whether the couple is married, or if the woman would have an abortion if she got pregnant having indescriminate sex, or if you know you can't have the person(s) in the video, whether you consider if those in the video were HIV positive or are not the sort of people you would want to marry, any of those can be a switch to flip to get your brain engaged!
Lastly, I have a series on CDs that says a man should learn to bounce his eyes off those who are not properly clad. That can be just as true for women. If you catch yourself looking at a guys rump, or looking at a topless guy (or girl), or looking at somone in shorts, bounce your eyes and mentally slap yourself for doing so! Catching yourself early, will help you overcome the urge later.
And remember DESTROY, DESTROY, DESTROY! Break those DVDs, rip up those magazines, and clear your browser catches! Burn, Destroy, Delete!
You probably didn't start watching porn over night, it's going to take more than one night to overcome it. The key is to start now, and if you fall, lift yourself up and try again, sooner or later, you won't be tripping as much!
find a boyfriend and get laid every night. its live porn. he enjoys it and so does you so its win win.
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I need to get over it A.S.A.P.
I know it's wrong.
Yet everytime time, I think watching porn is going to make me feel better, right after watching it, I feel sick, and disgusted with myself.
Yet, I will do it again and again!
How do I get over this addiction?
With out rehab!
Answer:
Your problem is not you. It's the label that our present day socieity has placed on sex. We think that sexual desires are evil and dirty. The act of *seeing* two persons making love stimulates a very real and physical reaction in our brain that in turn leads to the pleasures associated with sex. It is only our conditioning and programming that leaves the *horrible* after effect that you are experiencing. This conditioning comes from societal influences, maybe church, family etc. If we were not meant to be stimulated from seeing such acts, why is the brain designed to do otherwise?
The only help you need is to recondition your mind to accept the eroticism in sex.
You're a very sick person... You really need Jesus.
OK, so why is watching porn bad? Does it interfere with your life or your ability to function?
If it is, then get professional help. There are no porn rehabs.
If it isn't, then lighten up and enjoy yourself.
I feel you. Tell yourself you cant do it. It will hurt so much not to do what your heart desires but, think about how good you'll feel after knowing you aren't hooked on something as evil & disgusting as porn. It only takes dedication & determination. You can do it = )
subtract it from the equation. keep yourself busy with other things
Unless this behavior is hurting others or yourself, don't worry about it.
Better than doing drugs!!
Don't feel guilty about normal human sexual behavior.
You don't have an addiction problem... you have a different problem. In believing society's bullcrap that porn is bad. It's actually not bad. Or evil. It's actually a healthier alternative to sex with all the STDs flying around nowadays. Of course, it's not as good as sex. Risk vs reward, ya know.
Anyway, porn is fine and you don't need to worry about it. You should not feel disgusted with yourself. Humans are sexual creatures by nature. It's society that is unhealthy.
Don't ever believe that what you feel is wrong and simply block it out. Seek to understand it and embrace that part of yourself regardless of what society says. Especially the puritan retards that think they know what's best for everyone.
whoo party at your place!
lol
try doing a different activity instead whenever you want to watch the porno
ps youre probably obsessed with sex you pervert!!
haha jkin
1.Chill out. Don't take it so seriously. 2.The way to break any habit is to replace it with a better one. Maybe try cooking, or crossword puzzle, or razor scooter stunts, or whatever new hobby you can get into. 3.Also, the best way to quit something is to keep quitting again and again if you fall back and eventually you will succeed. Cheers!
You can try cold turkey - stop watching it.
You can punish yourself for watching it, but it seems you are doing that.
I think that eventually you can saturate yourself with it - watch it until it no longer gives you a thrill. Eventually you may become less fascinated with it, especially as you grow older or when you develop an interest in a live person.
Another possibility is that you can develop empathy for people by donating time to a soup kitchen or collecting food and clothes for the poor, possibly through a church. No one has to know your 'problem' and developing an interest in real people may help.
My advice is to probably ask yourself why you are addicted. Write down on the peice of paper why you are addicted and why you fee sick afterwards. You are actually addressing this problem if you write it down on a peice of paper. After you evaluate you then make a list of what keeps you busy. Distract yourself and also realize you can do something more precious and valuble with your time then to watch people physically promote themselves in a provokative manner. Remember the only way to get rid of it is to have a determined attitude and to address the reasons as to why you are addicted. Realize that there is something you lack to replace this addiction. Go to a gym, go for a walk, be active and take care of yourself in a health way physically, mentally and spiritually. Challenge yourself in all aspects that lead to positive outcomes, surely your addictions will go away.
you don't need help. Follow the nature and if you feel like watching watch it and enjoy it and there will be a day when you will not feel like watching enjoy that day as well.
Any addiction is bad. To tobacco, to alcohol, to gambling. If the person is able to controll the activity and it occurs in the terms that you set for yourself, any activity, as reprhensible as many may find porno, can be more or less tamed.
Some addictions are harder to quit, than others.
Drugs for instance, they grab hold at the very part of the brain that rewards you, and feel good when you achieve something, and require no effort or ability, it is the instant gratification with cero effort that keeps the crack heads coming back to a dark alley for yet another fix.
Maybe the porno you are watching is filling an empty space, and gives you instant gratification without the effort of selecting a worthy, disese free, mature, socially and monetarily stable sex partner, or waiting untill you are old enough to find a worthy husband, and have the blessing of your church, and God, which is important to many of us.
Before you watch the next porno movie analyze what is it that it gives you.
If you cannot fight the urge to watch it, analyze what makes it soo reprehensible in your eyes.
Don't feel guilty. It took me 7 years to fight my addiction to cigarrettes. If porno is half as good as smoking, I feel for you. It really has to be good.
Every time I picked up a pack of cigarrettes I swore it was the last one, and during 7 years I lied to myself. Eventually I was able to quit, I had a big incentive, my wife was pregnant with our first girl, and I didn't want my baby arround smokers.
You may want to find a good incentive ot kick your habit, if you find it so depressing afer you have given into it.
There is no shame in falling, you are not perfect.
However if you fall from grace in your own eyes, you owe it to yoursef to get up, try again and again untill you stop doing something, anything that makes you feel bad. Thay way you can feel good about yourself. That is the most immportant measure of life, that you do what is good, and that you feel good about it.
If somethig is bad and makes you feel good, reanalyze your priorities. Something has to be meditated, doing good or bad is not merely spiritual.
When you choose a good habit, you reap good rewards.
Habits become part of your personality, one has to replace a bad habit with a good one and stick to it. Like any action, it takes 6 weeks of daily repetition before an action can become a habit. Try to avoid your bad habit only one day at the time. count the days, every time you fail, you only have to start counting one day at the time.
How to avoid porn addiction on the Internet
1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog Porn Filter,you can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.
2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov
3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.
4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.
5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you need.
6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.
Stick with reputable sites.
If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.
Internet Porn Filter Resource:
http://www.netdogsoft.com
I've struggled with the flesh at times myself, this is what helps me throw on the brakes.
First, know the problem...
The problem is that your flesh likes to look upon bare bodies. Usually it likes to do so without intervention of the brain.
As a side note, biblically speaking, nudity is any bare flesh from the shoulders to the thighs. Society usually counts nudity as being entirely bare, particularly, showing off the genitilia, but a man and woman can lust after a person who is bare chested just as much as a man or woman who is totally naked! Like it or not this also makes wearing most modern day bathing suits - "nakedness"! How many people go to a beach to look at the sun bathers?
Knowing you have a problem is the first step in beating it!
Second, knowing that your flesh likes to do it, you have have to discipline yourself to throw on the brakes when ever you catch yourself doing it! Once you engage the mental brakes it may take a few times doing it to get the porn train to stop, as the fleshly desire has a lot of momentous weight behind it. Disciplining yourself to throw that brake when you notice yourself doing it is a big step in preventing yourself from looking on the flesh of those baring it all! In fact the time to try and flip that mental switch is before you find yourself looking at those pictures and videos. At the first desire to do it, you have to throw the switch!
How do you throw the switch?
Ask yourself this, "Is this person I'm looking at the type of person I want to marry?" The answer should be "No"! Why would you want to marry someone who bares all to the world for money? If they can strip before a camera, what would stop them from stripping before anyone else? Why would you want to marry someone who has revealed their "secrets" to thousands or even millions of people? Also, very few truly good looking people are all that humble, and those looks are likely to fade with time. Also, looking at "hunks" or "babes" all day, or all night, will make you less satisfied with what you have.
If you catch yourself looking at couples making out, ask yourself, "Are these people married?" Probably 99% of porn out on the market, where people are having sex, are not married to each other! Again this is a means to engage the brain and disengage the desire for what you are seeing! If the couple are truly having sex, as opposed to just faking it, what would happen if that girl gets pregnant? Will she run out and have an abortion? Even worse, is when a woman is advertised as being the "wife" of someone else!
Even if they are married, would you look into the window of your next door neighbors when they are having sex? If they are married, why would you desire either one of them? If they are not married, why would you desire someone who would have sex before the world for money?
Here is one last thing to consider, and is probably the biggest, or at least the easiest, switch to trip. Why desire someone you cannot have? Watching a video is not the real person, and unless you hang out at the playboy mansion or some other porn studio, it's not likely you'd ever meet the person or people you are looking at, and even if you did what sort of person is that in real life? All you are seeing is the fantasy side! Heck I remember a few years back there was a scandal in the porn industry because a bunch of porn stars came up HIV positive!
If you feel sick inside for what you have just done, you are on the right track, many, if not most, people wouldn't even bother with it. If your conscience is bothering you about it, get on your knees and ask God for His forgiveness for what you have just done. You can also pray for His strength to draw you from it!
Preventative maintenance: Destroy any porn you might have!
If you have a DVD with porn on it, BREAK it! If you have a VHS tape, break or open it up and cut up the tape itself! If you have magazines rip them up and throw them away! Don't sell them or give them away because that is just passing the buck! If it's not good for you, then it's not good for anyone else!
The bottom line is, you have got to trip the brain switch to throw the brakes on the train of your flesh. Whether it helps to think about whether the couple is married, or if the woman would have an abortion if she got pregnant having indescriminate sex, or if you know you can't have the person(s) in the video, whether you consider if those in the video were HIV positive or are not the sort of people you would want to marry, any of those can be a switch to flip to get your brain engaged!
Lastly, I have a series on CDs that says a man should learn to bounce his eyes off those who are not properly clad. That can be just as true for women. If you catch yourself looking at a guys rump, or looking at a topless guy (or girl), or looking at somone in shorts, bounce your eyes and mentally slap yourself for doing so! Catching yourself early, will help you overcome the urge later.
And remember DESTROY, DESTROY, DESTROY! Break those DVDs, rip up those magazines, and clear your browser catches! Burn, Destroy, Delete!
You probably didn't start watching porn over night, it's going to take more than one night to overcome it. The key is to start now, and if you fall, lift yourself up and try again, sooner or later, you won't be tripping as much!
find a boyfriend and get laid every night. its live porn. he enjoys it and so does you so its win win.
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