How can i overcome my low self opinion, value and esteem?
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I had a similar problem... the details are many, but in short since I got into school "friends" would tell me how ugly I was... ruined my self esteem! It still gets to me from time to time but I know that somehow when highschool was over and when I got my first job I had the opportunity to get away from whoever made me recall that feeling, got new friends, got into groups that had no focus on looks or material things and the key thing was that I changed my attitude! I said... ok if I am ugly, I can't change that... so I am going to have a great personality and going to be the best at key things I like such as phylosphy, pc's and technology, management, leadership, at work! That helped me build selt esteem over different structures that are not based on beuty... do that! People would aproache me becase of what I knew, how I thought or because I was growing fast in my job... after that a few would be meaingfull friends that would take me as I was. My friends made me feel great because they were friends anyone would envy having! I knew I was a great person because great people hanged around me and looked for me! Years went by and my couple was great too... she never said I was a model, but handsome in the whole expresion of the word, her opinion was the only important one. Last year my grandma said... "Your are turning out a handsome man" they I knew age had worked, attitude changes worked and a few tricks at dress and personal care.
You are only as ugly as you feel. If you feel bad about yourself, of course you will see a bad reflection.
What do you see for yourself for the future? What are your interests? Are there things in your life that are positive and good that you can focus on?
Do you like to help others, kids or elderly? It is a great way to feel good inside and outside.
Would you feel comfortable talking with a counselor or school counselor about these things? It always helps to talk wtih someone outside of your family and friends.
You are important, you are a special person, and learning to love yourself is hard but worth the effort.
Are you religious? I like to think that God is not just up in the sky, but in each one of us. If we love God, we need to look in the mirror and see the God in ourselves and see the love for God and for you.
Good thoughts to you.
First off, when people are cruel to others it is because they have very low self esteem and therefore must bring others down. This is true. They also do what's called "projecting" that is to say, they project their own insecurities or fears onto others.
Second, please realize that beauty is not an absolute definition. People are considered beautiful because of different traits and characteristics. Stop looking at yourself with criticism. I dare you to look at yourself and come up with at least three physical traits you consider your best and three personal traits you consider your best. Embrace them and let them shine.
I have seen and experienced first hand the difference in how people react to me when I exude confidence and pride versus low self esteem. It's all about persuasion :)
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