I have some serious issues and I can't see a shrink. who should I talk to about this?
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I have said this before, and I'll say it once again. Visit a retirement home for the poor, or a hospital ward featuring terminally ill patients. You could also seek out people that are living the most miserable lives possible. Do something to help those folks. It does not matter what, but just HELP them. Don't think about your own problems. You will be astounded how much better you will feel. Your self worth will grow immensely. I guarantee it. If you ignore yourself, you WILL FIND YOURSELF!!
Remember you can´t change others. You can only change yourself and by changing your behavior others will react differently and so things will start to change. Just try it. From what you write you got little to lose.
If you are depressed, tell your family dr. You don't say how old you are but if you can go alone do that. If not, it is o.k. to tell him in front of your mom. Tell him all that is going on. He should be able to give you advice or medication to help you. Possibly have him suggest to your mom that therapy may be needed for you. Make sure he tells her that even though she is a psychologist, she is too close to the situation and shouldn't treat you herself. It could be that your parents are so stressed about all the health problems that they aren't realizing how sad you are. You are dealing with some pretty heavy subjects and with no friends to help you carry the burden, you need some help. Best of luck to you.
I dont know if your family is religious or not, but even if you are not a member of a church usually the pastor is willing to speak with people and try to help them with problems.
It is really hard to talk over just this but I hope things pick up for you.
my god, i am sooo sorry to hear all of that. You sound like the only normal one out of all of them and you should be proud. first of all, who really cares what magazines say? Do you know how much the media is overrated? It doesn't mean sh*t. So don't worry about your looks. Beauty if in the eye of the beholder.
Go to the church or synagogue, i think they have help there or call a # they will always talk to you and give you advice.
http://www.girlsandboystown.org/hotline/...
Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000
I wish I could be of more help, but everything will be okay because unlike your sister, you have your head on straight. I recommend you to talk to someone on that # and visit the site, because they send stuff to your house. B's arent bad either, think about all the kids that fail. also is here their email
hotline@boystown.org good luck and god bless.
Stop comparing yourself to models in magazines. These so-called women's mags are destructive to women's self-esteem. They're not reality. You see those gorgeous models after they've spent hours with make-up, hair, etc., etc. professionals. Then the photos are touched up so no blemish is seen.
Now, you've got to have qualities that your sister doesn't. Persistence for one! You're working at your highest potential. Maybe find something that'll give you a sense of accomplishment.
Yes, talk to your family doctor. If you belong to a church, synagogue, or temple, is there someone there you can talk to? There must be online resources.
You could write and then shred what you've written. Just writing often helps. You don't need to save it.
You have so much to deal with, and you shouldn't have to go through this alone. Hang in there.
you gotta love yourself, only then can you truly help those around you.
the fact that you dont want to ruin your summer vacation tells me you know how to have a good time ! )
do whats best for yourself and others.
Enjoying life, Its the best reason for living
You have a legitimate reason to speak to a personal counselor other than your mother (who is really, too close to you for you to open up to her about some of your problems because of a mother's probable tendency to judge close family members--- It is not ethical or wise, psychologically, for surgeons to operate on close family members). You are not REQUIRED to share any information you feel will not be kept confidential with anyone. If you are old enough to go to a medical doctor's office or to a clinic on your own without mom, sister or dad, you might share your need to get personal counseling outside of school and outside of your family through a doctor's or a hospital's referral to another counseling source. Another way might be for you to look in the business pages of your local telephone directory under family counseling, social agencies(like the YWC/HA or teen help lines and discreetly, call someone there for information. Tell your mother that you cannot share any more information with her than she has found in your diary and that her snooping through your room is causing you to lose confidence in her respect for you. It is quite obvious that your mother may be in denial about your sisters acting out (she also needs help) because your mother is also probably experiencing depression about your grandmother and your father's medical conditions. It sounds like she should also be going to get some counseling for herself with these pressing family issues. Even psychiatrists sometimes need help. No one can do this kind of pressure all alone. Best wishes to you and your family.
wow, your magazine have a mouth. thats amazing that they speak to you. where are you getting magazines that has mouths. hey if your sister is getting As and having a good time, maybe it would be interesting to try her lifestyle out. feel good and get A's a great deal.
your grandmas problem is not yours, know that because you have no control over that and her body. so you can take 1 problem off your list of problems. thats like you trying to feed all the poor people on the planet, impossible. your father needs a kidney, well thats not your problem either, thats the doctors because they are doing the surgery, not you so you can take 2 off your problem list. now your only problem is that magazines talk to you. well then dont buy them if they talk to you and make you cry, use the money to buy yourself a nice snack. now you have no more problems other than parents humor. well now that you only have 1 problem with parents then you have plenty of time to get your A's now, dont you now. as soon as you start pulling A's, you wont have any more problems and you can focus on getting something you really want, like a car.etc.
First of all Chelsea, the magazines are all selling something, so don't let them fool u in to thinking that's what true beauty is; that's for fools to believe. What are straight A's when ur killing that mind slowly with drugs. I'd rather have B's, dignity, and a good heart then perhaps the A's will follow. As for a psychologist.they are helpful for some people but some just need to find some sort of 'escape'. I really dont know much about your family but I truly believe that if parents make fun of there own children, they're only making fun of themsleves. U just need someway to get through to your parents and let them REALLY know whats going on; if they dont understand or act very stubborn to your situation.Try an uncle or aunt, maybe a real good friend or just about anyone who can relate to you in anyway. But the truth of the matter is that i really don't know much about you or ur situtian or even how old you are but from what I've read all I can say for now is that.parents dont always know what Right is...u need to think for yourself and even sometimes question authority.pls dont compare yourself to your sister..your parents perhaps cant see your true beauty, and jus' see grades and skin as accomplishments right now. Just remember that real accomplishments come with time and patience. For example, you putting up with all your 'chaos' is a real accomplishment in the workings and when u get through it, u will have learnt something that a lot of people never will. Take good care of yourself and don't worry about crying over those pics, that just shows how sensitive you are; and that on its own will help you accomplish many things i nyour life.
PS a good 'escape' for me sometimes is music, reading, or picking up a good hobby.maybe even one away from home ;)
see your local doctor and TALK to him and listen to his advice
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