Why is it some people are scared to be committed, they avoid being close to someone they really like?

Im scared of being committed, as soon as someone gets close i pull away, im more comfortable with distance friend relationships and dont feel comfortable hanging around someone special without friends around, should i be asking a phycologist this?

Answer:
You have to ask yourself "Why am I scared to get close to someone and commit to them?" If you can answer this with true honesty and it upsets you, then, Yes, seek help.
If you are a person who really has no NEED to commit, then perhaps friends may be more important to you than a deeper, intimate relationship.
We all have certain boundaries, whether in a committed relationship or living a singular happy life with friends around us. Our inner selves define who we are - what does your heart tell you about yourself??
Hope this helps?
i think you have some intimacy and boundaries issues so yes i think you should speak to a professional
I think an issue would be they're afraid to lose their individuality.
Some people also like being alone and don't like to share; they like to keep a part of themselves to themselves.

But eventually, you would get very close to someone; you're finding the right person and the right time.

What you're afraid of is what you're preparing to transcend.
hello, i understand my best true friend, could not deal with someone telling him they love him 3 years into a relationship.
He has intamacy issues, and is scared when people get close.
Partly the reason could be, have you been effected by any emotional trauma or loss while growing up that effected you?
Definately speak to a professional.
Wish you the best
Alex
no need to consult phycologist my friend,i think u like ur individuality, vat i mean is - u dont want to be disturbed ur personal life.and one more thing did u had any past experience that ur life have been pulled 4m ur track
fear of rejection. They don't want to allow someone in only to have that person turn around and walk away later. Sometimes it's safer not to feel anything in the first place
I'm like that too. especially with my parents. I am afraid of loss, and I feel like if i don't get close, then i won't be hurt if i lose them. it's horrible to be like this because you end up missing soo much in life. i personally don't believe therapy is needed here, because you can change it yourself. but if you feel like it's too out of control, then it might be easiest to get help. best of luck!

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