I have a real problem. And one that is not for the idiots on this site?
Is it jealousy or what? This has made me so damn unhappy its unreal. What is the ultimate vengeance for a town full of tracksuit bottoms and trainers?
And don't any of you even THINK of being cruel to me. I've had enough.
Answer:
Because you take pride in how you look and have nice things, the people in your town (who clearly don't look nice or have anything nice) are jealous and have been waiting for you to slip up so they know you're not perfect - just like them.
heres a star to cheer you up.
Move to a diffrent town , they just want to bring you down to there level.
They are just jealous. Dont worry about it, they will have someone else to b1tch about next week.
the must think that you're a ho
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If I lived there, you would probably try to make out with me.. I was just offering a suggestion as to why they would talk smack about you. Maybe they think you are a ho. Jeez!
Forget them.
Only you can make the world work. Create your own happiness and live your life.
They will always feel small so don't cram yourself into their box.
Don't worry bout it, they are jelous. Think about moving?
Maybe if you try to be EXTRA nice to them, they'll feel bad...?
I don't know what mistake you made or why they're ticked off. However, their opinions are ultimately of no consequence. Just focus on yourself and the people who accept you and try to laugh off the people who don't.
aw well people are so stuck up their own backsides to be quite frank if they do something wrong its ok but if u do something wrong they make a big deal out of it they just like the gossip and putting other people down makes them feel better.
I just been to see a member of my family who is 20 with a baby and a fiancee but cos she's not marrid shes going through the same kinda thing i think people are just such bastards sometimes and need to learn to forgive and help people rather than just shove it all in their faces- in the end of the day its all just bulling don't give a darn about what they say you know ur a nicer person anyway
It seems like you live in a town full of people who try to knock others down to make themselves feel better. You clearly take care of your self inside and out. And Appearance is important to some people but not to others.
Some people can get intimidated by another person if they feel that other person is better looking or more in shape. And that makes them feel bad. In order for them to feel better about themselves, unforrtunatly, they feel they must knock that person down.
There's no way to change people like that. You just have to get rid of the negative people in your life in order to stay positive and happy. One of the greatest ways to get your point across in my opinoin is "Kill em' with kindness". They do all these nasty things like gossip and talk negatively because they enjoy seeing you get upset out of sorts. So to stop that... Be nice to them. Show them that you dont get hurt by their childish ways. And just be kind. It'll just hit them right back..And they can't say your being mean or that your being a bad person..because your not! It's the best way.
Stay positive. And try to eliminate any bad energy in your life. It'll only hurt your own self.
What you need to do is show them that you don;t care about what they think. They do all of those things just to make you mad, and well they are doing a pretty good job at it so far. Show them that you dont care about what they think about you, your still happy no matter what!They are all obviously very jealous of you and wish they were like, but don't let that get to you ina wrong way just keep being yourself, because they're opinion does not matter!
try to ignore them honey theyre not worth it. theyre just envious of you coz in a whole you have a better lifestyle and they re small minded people with nothing better to do than gossip and try to make someone elses life miserable to match their own!
if you get back at them fair enough i would do the same but it is sinking to their level and for you to feel upset at the moment you would probably only regret taking revenge!
Brilliant question.but what you need to do now is step back and calm down.
There's nothing at all wrong in trying to maintain your standards, but an unfortunate fact of life is that some people are only remembered for their mistakes. THAT is someone else's problem, not yours.
You're just going to have to live with it I'm afraid, but something else will crop up and become the next topic of gossip and tittle-tattle.
Try hard to develop a thicker skin and DNLTBGTY [do not let the ba****ds get to you.
If you can live your life and be happy with how your living it then nothing negative said by anyone should break you. Feel comfortable with yourself everyone make mistakes no matter how hard they try to cover them up, no one is perfect.
Never let words bring you down but let them uplift you dont give people the bad that they would want of you but rather prove them wong some people are just selfish and all for themselves.
I read your 'statement' the first time and was 'confused by what I read, where you slipped from describing your 'taking pride in yourself, your house etc...' and then 'The rest are overweight track suited.'
'The rest' are who.? Those who live in your house?
Ok, I read on and it became clearer - the 2nd time of reading.
But, it 'feels' all so muddled where as if 'there are no boundaries between you and the rest of your world,' but then there are, because you are one side of the border while they on the other side, they are all taking potshots at you.
You make swingeing sweeping statements like > A town of subconscious overweight women. Most of them in bad relationships < which you know from how?
I'm curious as to what 'a subconscious ' woman is? and what if anything, does this have anything to do with their being 'over weight'?
You are clearly put upon, picked on and possibly the scapegoat for their troubles ...or is that how 'you see your self in the space you occupie?
It might be a good idea if you were to find someone you could confide in and who could help you maybe un-scramble some of the mess you seem to be in!
Sash.
When I was in school I used to be bullied rather unmercifully...my mom used to tell me its because they were jealous of my nice family, the nice clothes, and the nice house...Everyone does make mistakes and if you allow these people to run your life and dictate how you feel (its called manipulation, but them teasing you and raggin on you for your mistakes), then its being a bully.dont give them that power. Just igno re the crap.eventually when they see it doesnt affect you they run out of steam.
I am not trying to insult you or to be cruel.
I do not beleive other people should have been cruel or nasty to you.
But really, if what you want is ULTIMATE VENGENCE on these people, you are not a calm person; you don't handle stress well. In other words, you aren't perfect either.
Is there a possibility of moving to a new town? If that isn't possible then maybe looking for a different set of people to spend time with.
It probably isn't as bad as you think. Is it a small town? Do you have a group of friends who support you? If they don't then it's time to turn over a new leaf.
Life is what YOU make it. No one has control over how you live your life.
By the way, what was the mistake?
This is how it is in the small towns. I don't know why, maybe they are bored of their lives and they have nothing else to do and they start gossiping.In every small town the people are the same asholes.
Honey, revenge is not sweet, and planning it consumes you with nasty feelings. You are going the right way to an early heart attack [or stroke] - bet your blood pressure is higher than it should be. Live and let live love, let the trackies do their own thing, and you do yours. Don't fall into the trap of catogorising people as plebs, ne'er-do-wells... There's no shame in being fat - al lot of fat ppl would give their eye teeth to be slim.
How are the mighty fallen! Sounds like they see you as a stuck up person who needs taking down a peg or two so, yes, when you make a mistake they can't help smirking. Push the peace pipe around honey, let bygones be bygones, and be a member of your community. I bet there are some very nice people around you, if only you would take a step or two to meet them. Peace and good luck and may your God go with you.
Do not allow people to get to you. These people have nothing else better to do than talk about someone else. These people are toxic to your health. I think you should remove yourself from that enviroment. You should surround yourself with people like you that has pride. You have not done anything that anyone else would not have done in their life.You are allowed to make mistakes as long as they are not repeated mistakes. Run away from these "fine" folks.
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small villages are the same everywhere it has nothing to do with your appearance or lifestyle. people love to gossip and it is your turn. i live in a small village and they do the same here, i dont play their game and get on with my own business, i do not know what you did but dont dwell on it, that is what they want. let it be known that you do not value their opinion and move on. good luck.
CHILL OUT!!!
Dont worry about them. They most likely think ur stuck up, think you r better than they are. So when u mess up they can all have a good gossip. Oh she thinks shes so special did you hear what she did, sort of thing.
Its not the end of the world just small town living
Envy.
People of like stick together, more prevalent in small communities such as yours. Knowing they can get away with calling you names - only words remember - because they have people of like mind to back them up.
When they were calling you names was there one or more person there ?, the reason I ask is because it is quite unusual for a person to do this without some form of audience nearby.
People of this kind are very insecure, both with themselves and their lives (stuck in a rut) and feel power and superiority when belittling someone such as yourself.
Do not let them see that they have hurt or depressed you, always smile as you pass and keep your head held high and look your absolute best, as you have done nothing to warrant this abuse.
Ask youself, would you really want to associate with this type of person, I'm sure the answer would be a resounding NO.
So why do you care what they think, you are better than them.
Vengeance would only bring you down to their level and achieve nothing.
Keep taking pride in your appearance, house and life. That is what YOU are about.
A little story: I also live in a small town, two weeks ago I had friends visiting and they wanted to go to the pub for a drink at 5 o'clock (after I finished work) I don't drink alcohol as I have an intollerance, but I like non-alcoholic lager, we left at 6.30 and went across the road to the local chipper, I was carrying some beer home for them we came out and I tripped on the pavement landing smack on the side of my head, not only that but one of the cans cracked and sprayed beer on my jacket, I was stunned and disorientated and stank of beer, my friends were laughing until they realized I was concussed, they then brought me home, the next day it was all around the town how I was a raving alcoholic falling about the place in the middle of the day !!.
My point - people will believe what they want to, never mind what the truth is. Next week it will be someone elses turn.
they probably r jealous, b/c they see u happy and then they look at their own lives and realize they can't have wat u have, so everytime u fall they think it's their duty to bring u down even further:( sad, but it's human nature. hope things work out for u. don't mind them. live u're life as u see fit, b/c it's the only way u'll ever be happy:)
hope that made some kind of sense:PLoLz
it seem's to be when you are enjoying some success in life there are a people always looking to knock you down and even when things are going against you there are still people looking to kick you, these people you have mentioned are more than likely brainless idiots, i don't know what mistake you have supposedly made, but everyone is entitled to make at least one mistake, the truth is that you cannot win with small-minded people, i wouldn't even try. If you that unhappy can you not start over somewhere else?
Damn girl ,where do you live in unhappyville?first and foremost ,do you participate in any of the gossip when the shoe is on the other foot ?What do these ladies do sit ?around the whole day and discuss other people?there could be two solutions to your problem .1---if it is the community get the **** out ,nobody needs to live under such circumstances. 2---if you meet 3 or more assholes in one day---go home ,look in the mirror and ask yourself if there is one staring back at you.
Hello.
Valley living must be like living in a village in the UK.
From what you write it certainly sounds like it.
Nothing wrong with you.
You don't have the problem, they do.
It's called jealousy and envy.
Next step is hard but do it and they''ll love you.
Act as if nothing has happened.
Even say Hi to the meanest person who you know has been saying nasty things about you.
Grit your teeth girl and do it.
When they realise you are taking no notice and so their gossip is insignificant, they will stop.
Trust me, I've been there and got the T-shirt.
You poor thing
relax and shoot the breeze
dont stress yourself over small minded people with nothing better to do
just chill and let time pass and it will be over before you know it
people have to talk about others to distract people from their own issues
and it sounds like these people have alot of those
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