My stepdad HELP!! Can anyone give me a brief psyhcoanalysis of him?What mental disorder do you think he has?
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It's unsafe to diagnose mental disorders so rashly. Especially from the account of one witness and without direct data or observations of the person. Psychologists can't do that with accuracy, so why expect anyone from Y!Answers to?
What do you intend to accomplish, anyway? Do you think you can refer your stepdad to a professional and that he would willingly go?
Or are you just after the satisfaction of knowing he has a mental disorder?
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Ok, now that I have the information that he beat you up, the logical question is have you considered police/legal intervention? Because if he is capable of such overt violence, diagnosing this guy with a mental disorder, I think, should be secondary to preventing him from hurting others...
I understand it is painful and difficult to have a loved one in this situation. Getting the authorities involved would perhaps help bypass the "protection" that your mother is giving him. And help her realize what he is capable of doing. But, I don't know her as you do. You know your situation best. Do what your conscience and your reason dictates.
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He has you for a kid... that would drive any man insane.
he needs to get laid thats all
Well, it sounds like he has a lot of anger and control issues. He obviously needs counseling.
In the meantime, you must keep your distance from him. It is wise that you do. We must protect ourselves from those who would hurt us, physically, psychologically, etc., even if they are our family members.
You have to look out for number one, and that's you.
No one can give you a diagnosis of another person based on your description and no competent, ethical practicing psychologist would do so. You have a very detailed description of what you don't like about your stepfather. Having someone put a "name" on it will not change your life, or his, or your mother's. A good first step is to talk with your mother about how you feel. It won't change your stepfather, but it may help you deal with the situation.
Wow - putting aside him for a moment (which I'm sure you aren't able to do often) I hope you have support and possiblities for counseling if you want itl
My layperson's analysis/diagnosis is that this is potentially bipolar or narcissistic dysphoria. But that's a guess and just something for you to consider.
The most important thing is that you and others are physically safe and not abused in any way by your stepdad. Please find help - you deserve it!
Sounds like my first ex-husband. He has had abuse as a child and a very low self esteem. He tries to control your mom because he fears that he will lose her-hurting his self esteem even more. We moved 5 times in 5 years so I was never able to establish friendships and he even had jealousy over the attention I gave to our infant daughter. Your mom has esteem issues too, or she would not tolerate his behavior. I fear for them both.
P.S. I wrote my answer based on your original post without the added details. In addition to my personal experience: Field Experience for College-10 weeks internship at court ordered anger management counseling and Power Point Presentation on Domestic Violence.
Please seek out professional advice using Internet resources for domestic violence. Your mom's life may depend on it.
Sounds like my father (I don't call him father tho)
Chinese's saying for this is: he deserves a good beat (sorry to say so)
And my suggestion is:
1. If ur over 16, leave ur family and then sue him if necessary.
2. if ur under 16, sue him!
that's it!
I don;t know what the name would be ,but he sounds dangerous. I would try to talk to your mom by herself & see if she would secretly go to counsiling to get away from the control freak.
he could be manic depressive. my ex boy friend was simular. up and down. mean then nice. he became very abusive so i left. but your mom wont listen. its very difficult to be in a situation like that. it brings you down. talk to your mom and tell her that she is better than that and deserves to be respected and loved.
as far as helping him- i know you know you cant. people can only help themselves. people cant be changed- they have to want to chnage themselves. i am affraid for you and your family. i think you need to honestly get out before something terrible happens. good luck and god bless.
I assume you are an adult because you said that you are "gone". This person is an abuser and if there are minors still in the house and he is physically abusing them, he needs to be reported to the authorities and the children removed. Even if no minors are present, if he abuses someone physically, he can be arrested for domestic abuse. These are the signs that things will get worse. Take all precautions as this person has the tendency to get real violent. If and when he can no longer control you in the way he likes, he will turn to violence to get what he wants.
Hmmm ... from what you describe it sounds like he has a border line peronsality disorder. BPD's are very manipulative and have a lot of anger that they don't know how to deal with and therefore try to take it out on other people. For BPD's everything is either black or white ... ie you are either the best person on the earth or you are satan. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do for him you can only help yourself. If it bugs you alot i would suggest that you go for counselling to help you deal with it and also help you not to copy any of the behaviours that you hate so much. Good luck.
dear amber!
hi how are u?i hope ur fine.well ur tellign that hes very mad,violatin etc...and that he were born in a very abusive homee.well thast explain everything to me!see thast the problem when ur raise in a violent home,u will became young with violent thinking,why?cuz thats what u learn since u were a child!the thing u have to firt of all try to find proves that says what hes doing to all of u!did u tell ur mom,the things he has done to u!cuz u have to tell her!and if she dosent beleive go to the police!and tell them everything!dont be afaraid is for ur own good!cuz if u say one day he almost kill u!u have to protect ur self and ur sis!also ur mom.but if ur kom dosent believe u go to the police dep and tell em.or tell a gfamily memeber that is very leal to u and tell everything so they could help u!amber u cannot let this happeneds!ok!do what i say but never gave ur mom and adress of were ur livign,find a specific point on wich one u can meet,so both can go!cuz if u tell her where u live he can take the adrress and go to ur home and will try to do that things to u!I hope i help ya!
God Bless U and Protect U and Ur Family of any bad things!
xoxo
Your step dad seems to be quite okay. I can see he is living his life as per his definition and decisions.
You guys on the other hand is veiwing your day to day life and your step dad in a distorted way. You have allowed your initial feelings towards him to affect your rational thinking.
Take off your tinted glasses is all I can say after an analysis of this situation.
He sounds as if he needs some serious psycological help for his control issues. If he doesn't get it he is going to kill someone. Your Mom needs to get it together.
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