How To Control Hot Temper?

I was brought up in a family full of violence. My father and all his family members have very hot tempers, and are cynical to an unthinkable extent. Since very little I'v been shameful of this fockin family and had made my decision not to be that kind of human being. And I really have been regarded nice by most of my friends. but recent years i find it harder and harder to control myself. I'm now 29, and from now and then would have quick and unreasonable outburst. I would yell at service folks or shopgirls, or telephone salesmen.

AND I would seek very radical and insane way to resolve trivial and meaningless issues.

I wonder is hot temper inherited or just influenced by close folks like family members? and HOW DO I CONTROL IT? I feel so helpless.

OR is this symptoms of schiz??? BTW what r symptoms of schiz??

Answer:
I don't think that you are suffering from any major psychological trauma. You are delusional if you are schizophrenic and it doesn't sound like you have that tendency.

You just have an anger issue. That tendency was certainly inherited to some extent and your family temper tantrums that you described also have a major influence.

However, you have made the hardest step to start to ameliorate the problem. You know that you have a problem.

I suggest that you just think of changing your response and internal reaction to circumstances that normally cause an angry reaction on your part.

Who you are is not determined by what others perceive you to be. You are not defined by others. You are defined by your own internal spirit. The angry thoughts that are presented to your awareness by an overactive ego can be relegated to the background of your consciousness by only becoming aware of their import and their purpose.

You don't need to suppress those angry thoughts. Just know that there is no reason for you to act on them. They are random thoughts that you can choose to ignore, rather than be controlled by or obsessed with.

I doubt it's inherited ... i reckon its just learned. First thing to do would be to fully accept yourself for who you are. Everyone gets angry sometimes and don't beat urself up about it. Beating urself up only makes you more angry and the more angry you get the more you will have outbursts. The more you accept yourself the less angry you will be. I'm not saying be full of yourself and deliberately go out and yell at people, i'm just saying if it happens don't beat urself up ... move on. Tomorrow is another day and tomorrow you won't get angry. In the heat of the moment you can also try counting to 10 in your head or you could focus on what your body is doing for example do you feel tense is your head spinning are you getting goose bumps. Your body usually tells you when you are angry and when u learn to realise the symptoms you can make an effort to avoid them.

as u get older, its getting harder, bacause one have the tendency to get cynical over life, especially if u live in that kind of family. try to avoid people with negative thinking and who cannot control their anger. what u can do, when u feel like to burst up over a small matter are :
1. take a deep breath and count to 10. ( count slowly )
2. think why you angry? is this matter worthy enough for you to burst up emotionally?
3.think positive

close your eyes, breathe and count to ten slowly.

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