How can I stop resenting women that like me?
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well, first you can stop ignoring them when they call you answer at least. be open and welcoming. compliment the girl. You call them instead of them calling you all the time. being honest is the true key facter of a successful relationship. Mainly be yourself have fun with that.
.I can assure you it will take professional help if you are sick of rejection but blow girls off that show an interest.
<<I'm so sick of rejection that in a lot of ways blowing a girl off before she can just seems easier.>>
You just answered your own question. The reason you blow them off is as a defense mechanism based in fear. You're afraid they will reject you so you get in the first blow and reject them. In the end you can say in your mind that you are in control and you ended the exchange rather than having to say they rejected you.
Overcoming this will take you adopting a new viewpoint. What happens if you are rejected? You move on from a pointless relationship to one that is productive. You find someone who genuinely likes you for you. Besides, each interaction, whether failed or successful, teaches you a little bit more about yourself, about what you do and don't appreciate in others and about relating in general. There is no shame in being rejected. As the song "Closing Time" says, "Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end." New beginnings are always good :)
It sounds to me like your the one doing all of the rejecting not the girls, by doing so your blowing off the possibility of a good relationship. You'r insecure with your self, you don't think your worthy enough, so you blow off these girls because you think there must be something wrong with them if they like you. Also you just might be afraid of rejection so you reject before they might. Maybe it is your just not ready for commitment.. Keep in mind you won't be the first person to ever get rejected, you should obviously no that by now. So don't forget there were girl friends before and there will be girls friends after.
If I were you...I'd go for ugly chicks, that way you wouldn't care too much if they like you because you won't be too intimidated by them and you won't feel the need to impress them. They won't want to leave you because you're all they have (you know this cause they most likely have low self esteem).And basically they need the love too. Plus I herd ugly chicks are great in the sack, cause they feel they have to make up for their lack of beauty, with talent.
Ok in some ways you are right. If you are over interested in a girl it may turn her off you because she may see you as needy. It's the same if a girl shows over interest towards you. The trick is to find a happy ballance. If you can keep this ballance going for the first couple of months you should be past the point where you feel so insecure. Don't answer all of her calls, but answer some of them. If she doesn't call for a couple of days, back off for a couple of days and give her time to miss you. If she calls everyday and starts questioning why you havn't answered her calls then don't go there cos she probably IS needy, just test the waters for a while, and once you find they are nice and steady you can move to the next level.
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