Pls i need advise...elders, people with experience could help a lot..?
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thats the problem u feel incomplete by yourself your afraid of your own company and ur waitingb for others to define you and who youn are that cant work you have to realise you are in this world fora reason God made you for a purpose regardless of how others feel or make you feel so its normal to feel disillusioned but always remember you rae impt a jewel and a rough stone being sharpened
I'm not a specialist in this area but I feel you have to set yourself a goal after a goal, all of them practical and reachable, and do your best at each one of them. You'll gradually find life's good but not much fair, yet you'll begin feeling satisfied with yourself, having seen you're a fully capable person.
You alone are responsible for your own life. You don't really need your parents' approval - that would surely be great to have, but you can do without that, too.
Try to not live for your parents. Live for yourself.
Good luck with your dreams and your life!
Remember, luck only comes when you work hard at getting it.
join a good church you can have a church family you can aiso very good friends in church ,gods house you feel so good about yourself oh what friend we have in jeus
i went thru the same things u did... a bit more maybe... so i know how ur feeling right now.
finding urself is not easy. it took me a while, and i have to admit that i cudn't have done it without certain ppl around me. there are two very important things that u need to do. the first thing is that u need to be fully honest about urself when it comes to assessing urself, never lie to urself, and always be honest no matter how ugly the truth may be. apparently ur already on the right track from that aspect in that u actually sit down and spend time thinking about urself and about ur past. another good thing that ur doing is trying to find the root of ur problems, this is excellent because u can never get over something if u don't know its source.
the second thing that i advise u to do is to try and surround urself with ppl that are genuine and really love you for who you are. for example, my ex girlfriend played a big role in helping me find myslef, find who i am, and discover my inner issues. so its always good to surround urself with ppl like that.
at the end of it all, i can tell u that the best way to deal with ur problems is to just constantly face those issues. if u have problems with dancing with a girl, force urself to do it even if u think u look stupid. if u have social phobias, force urself to hang around lots of friends and go out in big groups and interact with everyone. in my opinion, the only way to overcome a phobia is for u to realize that there's nothing to fear in the first place. i also had a social phobia when i was 15, i was so worried about being accepted and being liked and all that and i was too shy to be myself around lots of ppl. but over the years, i forced myself to interact, and now i realized that there was nothing to be scared of in the first place. that's how u face phobias.
also, never tell urself that u can't change something in urself and that it's out of ur hands. i'm a firm believer that when it comes to internal issues to do with ur character, personality, and who u are... they are ALWAYS in ur hands, and u can always have an impact on them the way u please. it just takes alot of faith and will power.
about ur family, i also felt neglected (i'm a middle child, which is typical), and i also don't have the best relationship with my parents. that's why u shudn't try to keep getting their attention. u need to rely on urself and on other ppl. however, do NOT push ur parents away. sometimes they can be very helpful, and u will start seeing that someday.
i hope this was helpful... like i said, i've been thru ur phase, and it's not easy. but trust me, with a little bit of effort, it will pass :)
You are thinking more about your self instead of your goals. You forget or put away youself for the time being, your thought about your parents may be or may not be correct because I don't know through which window you are observing. In either case they might have their own arguments and experiences just like you. First you realise yourself that you are lucky enough to continue your search where millions and millions of children are suffering with lack of resources. You work hard on your studies to have your own life and your thoughts and dreams indicate immense fear about your success in your plans. You are worrying a lot whether you can rech your gols or not, only hard work and dedication make you successful but not he dreams and doubts.
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