I need help. i have a psychological disorder called codependency.?
i asked a previous yahoo question and one of the answers made me realize that i have this psychological issue called codependency. i'm really scared. what do i do now? i went online to look and i've pretty much checked all the symptoms related to this issue. do i go see a psychologist or a psychiatrist with this? can this be cured? i never realized how serious this is. i've never realized i'd have a psychological issue. i'm really scared. can someone, maybe an expert or someone who knows anything about this please give me some advice?
Answer:
Lil3-you've got to be careful about the "advice" you get on FunQA.com and how enthusiastically you apply it to your personal self.
Better to let a therapist make you diagnosis, not yourself or another lay person. You are entitled, of course, to suspect that you may meet some or all of the criteria of a particular condition by "checking all the symptoms."
Don't be scared. Everyone is co-dependent to a certain extent. It exists on a spectrum of severity, like autism or homosexuality. Some people are extremely co-dependent, others only mildy so.
An extremely co-dependent individual would buy alcohol for their partner, endure their drunken abuse, because of the perception that the alcoholic "needs them" and therefore, gives their life meaning. Their worth and validity as a person is DEPENDENT on the alcoholic's DEPENDENCE on them. It becomes quickly a much reinforced and ingrained part of one's personality.
It is an inadequate coping mechanism used by many people who don't have a strong grip of who they are and how they impact the world around them, while simultaneously unable to cope with being alone.
Drugs don't cure it. Psychiatrists can't really treat it in the medical sense. If it's severe, and you find yourself enabling the self-destructive behaviors of others for the sake of companionship, etc., it's a good idea to see a counselor to get insight, as it is usually self-destructive to everyone in the relationship.
Co-dependent relationships are like houses of cards. Let someone enter the room with a flourish, and all the cards fall down.
Really depends on why you feel you are codependent. Do you have a alcoholic or drug abusing parent perhaps? If so Al-Anon and Alateen meetings would be good for you.
Not you but has your parent been a drug addict or alcoholic? If not then you are going to have to explain why you feel you are codependent
You may find some useful stuff here.BTW, I guess I suffer from Hypervigilance and problems with intimacy and depression, as the codependent person succumbs to feelings of frustration or sadness over his or her inability to improve the situation.
But I don't have other symptoms so I cannot claim that I have the same prblemYou know you can't be sure that you're 100% suffering from codependency.I guess many people would have a few of these symptoms, but that doesn't mean that they neccessarily have that kind of psychological problem.Although each of these symptoms are psychological problems in themselves.
Make sure you read this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/codependenc...
A psychiatrist could deffinately help you to figure out why you are a codependant and how to go about making changes in your life to fix that. I believe that if you really want to fix this problem you can, it just takes some effort and time.
Good luck!
Best wishes
There is a book called "Codependant No More " by Melody Beattie. It explains what it is, how to get help, and much more. It's not the only book on the subject, but it would be a way to start to understand the problem. Don't assume you have this problem until you know what it is. Please don't be scared, there is help available. A psychologist can help, and there are support groups also.
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Answer:
Lil3-you've got to be careful about the "advice" you get on FunQA.com and how enthusiastically you apply it to your personal self.
Better to let a therapist make you diagnosis, not yourself or another lay person. You are entitled, of course, to suspect that you may meet some or all of the criteria of a particular condition by "checking all the symptoms."
Don't be scared. Everyone is co-dependent to a certain extent. It exists on a spectrum of severity, like autism or homosexuality. Some people are extremely co-dependent, others only mildy so.
An extremely co-dependent individual would buy alcohol for their partner, endure their drunken abuse, because of the perception that the alcoholic "needs them" and therefore, gives their life meaning. Their worth and validity as a person is DEPENDENT on the alcoholic's DEPENDENCE on them. It becomes quickly a much reinforced and ingrained part of one's personality.
It is an inadequate coping mechanism used by many people who don't have a strong grip of who they are and how they impact the world around them, while simultaneously unable to cope with being alone.
Drugs don't cure it. Psychiatrists can't really treat it in the medical sense. If it's severe, and you find yourself enabling the self-destructive behaviors of others for the sake of companionship, etc., it's a good idea to see a counselor to get insight, as it is usually self-destructive to everyone in the relationship.
Co-dependent relationships are like houses of cards. Let someone enter the room with a flourish, and all the cards fall down.
Really depends on why you feel you are codependent. Do you have a alcoholic or drug abusing parent perhaps? If so Al-Anon and Alateen meetings would be good for you.
Not you but has your parent been a drug addict or alcoholic? If not then you are going to have to explain why you feel you are codependent
You may find some useful stuff here.BTW, I guess I suffer from Hypervigilance and problems with intimacy and depression, as the codependent person succumbs to feelings of frustration or sadness over his or her inability to improve the situation.
But I don't have other symptoms so I cannot claim that I have the same prblemYou know you can't be sure that you're 100% suffering from codependency.I guess many people would have a few of these symptoms, but that doesn't mean that they neccessarily have that kind of psychological problem.Although each of these symptoms are psychological problems in themselves.
Make sure you read this:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/codependenc...
A psychiatrist could deffinately help you to figure out why you are a codependant and how to go about making changes in your life to fix that. I believe that if you really want to fix this problem you can, it just takes some effort and time.
Good luck!
Best wishes
There is a book called "Codependant No More " by Melody Beattie. It explains what it is, how to get help, and much more. It's not the only book on the subject, but it would be a way to start to understand the problem. Don't assume you have this problem until you know what it is. Please don't be scared, there is help available. A psychologist can help, and there are support groups also.
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