If you know a 'cutter'?
how do you comfort someone who self-injures? how do you help them stop?
what do i say to her?
without 'professional' help plz
Answer:
i would say
Nigguh you need to stop snitchin! all that yip yappin and jaw jackin nigguh if u scared, goto church
you cant..not without professional help..there's nothing that you can do or say to make her stop..she has such deep self-hatred and other problems that only a professional can get to the heart of...would be like trying to close an internal gunshot wound without taking her to a surgeon..
A cutter absolutely needs professional help. It's very, very dangerous for you to know about someone who is self-injurious and NOT get them referred for help. You cannot deal with this yourself, and it is crucial that you realize this and not try to help them yourself. Be there, be a friend, but there must be professional assistance rendered in a situation like this.
You're in over your head.
the best way is to report them to like an intervention program.
when i struggled with this, my freind asked that i do something undamaging, something that would not be permenant, leaving scarring, and instead suggested snapping, like with a rubber band, because every tiem the cutter looks at their wrist, they will be reminded of hard times with scars. have her talk to soemone she trusts about the issue, and you may want to causually bring up talking to "someone", like a school counselor, or a professional. if youre realyl concerned, take it to someone yourself.
you cannot handle this yourself, how ever much you would love to, it is impossible, and they cannot heal on their own, they cannot quit cold turkey, like they sometimes say they will, they will need help if they really wantto get better. not what you wanted to hear, but i know this is the truth, ive been through it. hope this helps.
You can inform yourself on some of the root causes to this to help you understand it so that you can be a support to this person. I know one person who does it because he gets pleasure from it. Look into dialectical behavior therapy (google it), some interesting stuff, but understand this is something beyond your average person's realm to resolve without professional intervention. Generally there are other things that manifest with this behavior, either drug abuse or alcohol. This is a deep seated problem and one that will not go away over night. or with out professional help.
I do know a cutter. There is nothing you can do or say that will help. She needs professional help and it sometimes takes a very long time and a lot of effort and patience to get through her problems. With my friend it was a matter of her feeling that she has no control over anything, but when she cuts she feels that she has control over when and how much pain to inflict on herself. I don't fully understand it, but she compares it to alcoholism & drug addiction.
Just be a friend to her and listen to her. Even if you encourage her not to do it, she'll just do it when you aren't around. Encourage her to get help.
Good luck!
fFUCK U!
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what do i say to her?
without 'professional' help plz
Answer:
i would say
Nigguh you need to stop snitchin! all that yip yappin and jaw jackin nigguh if u scared, goto church
you cant..not without professional help..there's nothing that you can do or say to make her stop..she has such deep self-hatred and other problems that only a professional can get to the heart of...would be like trying to close an internal gunshot wound without taking her to a surgeon..
A cutter absolutely needs professional help. It's very, very dangerous for you to know about someone who is self-injurious and NOT get them referred for help. You cannot deal with this yourself, and it is crucial that you realize this and not try to help them yourself. Be there, be a friend, but there must be professional assistance rendered in a situation like this.
You're in over your head.
the best way is to report them to like an intervention program.
when i struggled with this, my freind asked that i do something undamaging, something that would not be permenant, leaving scarring, and instead suggested snapping, like with a rubber band, because every tiem the cutter looks at their wrist, they will be reminded of hard times with scars. have her talk to soemone she trusts about the issue, and you may want to causually bring up talking to "someone", like a school counselor, or a professional. if youre realyl concerned, take it to someone yourself.
you cannot handle this yourself, how ever much you would love to, it is impossible, and they cannot heal on their own, they cannot quit cold turkey, like they sometimes say they will, they will need help if they really wantto get better. not what you wanted to hear, but i know this is the truth, ive been through it. hope this helps.
You can inform yourself on some of the root causes to this to help you understand it so that you can be a support to this person. I know one person who does it because he gets pleasure from it. Look into dialectical behavior therapy (google it), some interesting stuff, but understand this is something beyond your average person's realm to resolve without professional intervention. Generally there are other things that manifest with this behavior, either drug abuse or alcohol. This is a deep seated problem and one that will not go away over night. or with out professional help.
I do know a cutter. There is nothing you can do or say that will help. She needs professional help and it sometimes takes a very long time and a lot of effort and patience to get through her problems. With my friend it was a matter of her feeling that she has no control over anything, but when she cuts she feels that she has control over when and how much pain to inflict on herself. I don't fully understand it, but she compares it to alcoholism & drug addiction.
Just be a friend to her and listen to her. Even if you encourage her not to do it, she'll just do it when you aren't around. Encourage her to get help.
Good luck!
fFUCK U!
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