Why does she rub me the wrong way?

My motherinlaw and I usually get along great until I gave her her first grand child. Now she is so annoying. She thinks its all about her and when she is around she hoards OUr DD . Not letting any other family member interact with DD. I could go on and on. Our child is now 16 months and I dread being around her. We spent 4th of july with my DH family and went out to eat. My husband And I placed her high chair at the end of the table and we sat on each side of DD. We decided to go wash up and left DD with Grandma, we came back and Grand ma moved the high chair next to her, and was feeding her Choc. pudding and peaches..Whatever, I had already ordered DD her meal and didnt want her full of junk before her food arrived and said so. Later on we were on the boat and Grandma asked DD what happened to her knees( She fell down yesterday playing outside and scrapped them) She then said is your mommy beating you.OH she has her ways and you cant talk to her.I think the women is insane.

Answer:
OMG I feel your pain sista, I have an insane mother in law.(I am actually too scared to have kids because of her)
i suggest talking to your husband about it, and get him to talk to her. Its HIS mother.
Sounds to me like she's one of those overbearing mothers. I had a friend who lived with her parents for a short time after she had her daughter in order to finish college. When she graduated, she planned on moving out of state. The fight her mother gave her was so intense. Her mother said "You're not taking my baby!" Can you believe that? I think some parents just don't know how to not mother. They think they know it all. I've heard from my folks, that being a grandparent is great but it's a new role that they had to learn. She just needs a lesson in how to be a grandmother, and she needs to be taught that you're the mommy!
not at all, undereacting if anything, ok it is obivious that this women has no too much else to do in her life, so she has made a point of being totally controling of her grandchild. it is attention seeking at its very best, I would have moved the high chair back and said something" Like gee it was lovely for you to mind DD while we washed up but now I have to feed her, being polite never hurts, but being smarter is also a winner, try to see if you can work out the stratagy before you get really upset. No-one person likes continual no but they need them in their lives to get used to the yes. Maybe you could explain it this way I love you to bits as a person but there are times I really do not like you at all. try putting some space between your immediate family and gran for a little while that may help.

Good luck but no matter what happens you have to win

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