Was I sexually abused?
This has made me think that perhaps there is something behind, like a sexual abuse. I don't remember anything... but there are things that make me wonder.
1) I used to use shorts around the house when I was little. Then I can't remember why, but some point later I never wanted to use shorts again, not in public nor at home. They felt uncomfortable.
2) I used to cry a lot when I was 6,7,8 yrs old. Every little thing made me cry, even the neighbors knew that I cried like 3 times a day.
3) later when I was like 10,11 I had to use shorts for me P.E. class and came home with them on. ---> will continue.
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Well I would say that since it is a pretty serious question it might be worth the money to go see a psychologist. Sure someone on FunQA.coms can give you an educated guess, but I'm sure for your sake it would be better for you to go see a doctor. Make sure you look into the difference between psychologist and psychiatrist I know one has a PhD and is more expensive I don't know, but thats my answer.
maybe - but something is bothering you a lot. a therapist could help sort it out. teh sooner, the better.
This is probably a really difficult time and it must have been hard to admit those things! What you really should do is see a therapist. They really help you get over traumatizing experiences.
maybe u were.. but maybe you weren't..i don't know actually..
but anything that happened..u can't change it anymore..so..i can just say..forget everything and start a new life.. good luck !!
world is like this only what you say is reality don't loose your heart be brave & courageous to tackle any problem search some body to share your feelings so that you get relaxed pray long prayer consult a psychiatrist every thing will be okay
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Believe me, if you were actually sexually abused...you would not forget it.
I think that "repressed memories" is garbage, a dangerous belief that is often brought about to blame or "stick it to" your family members in your adult life.
I believe you're deep down inside fighting your orientation. It is not anything to be ashamed of...you would be a lot happier if you would just accept yourself.
Do not try to wake up some repressed part of yourself that doesn't exist...you're doing this subconsciously to have an excuse for guilt regarding your orientation.
It's not necessary to feel guilt and fight who you truly are. Be proud of yourself.
Do not speak to your family members about something that is not a fact, it will destroy them. Just be YOU...
I agree that you need to get to the bottom of this. It would be a shame, if you think your dad and bro sexually abused you, but they never did.
One of the things I learned in pedagogic is that kids show sexual preference by the age of five (puppy love towards a girl for example at this age. or trying to be like mom- wearing shorts like mom for example or trying to be like dad) Maybe your dad (and that brother who looked like him) realized that you had a tendency to be feminine when you were around that age and he said something mean to you to let you know that he wouldn't allow for you to be more like a girl than a boy. Talk to your mom about this. ... but also definitely talk to a psychologist. He might just end up telling you that it's okay to be gay... dad isn't around anymore. Think hard... were your dad and that brother you are talking about verbally abusive to you?
P.S.
I forgot to address the part that you felt awkward towards your dad and one of your bros... I'm a girl and I felt awkward towards my dad and my bro at one point... that's normal... so, this just another hint to you that you are and were always gay.
I think you've pinponted it already when you said you're having doubts about your sexual orientation, and it will make more sense if you're age is within the range of adolescence to young adulthood.
Here's something about sexual orientation: like what was mentioned above, for many people, their sexual orientation becomes evident to them during adolescence or young adulthood, and in many cases without any sexual experience. For example, homosexuals become aware that their sexual thoughts and activities focus on people of the same sex.
It is possible, however, (take note of this) to have fantasies or to be curious about people of the same sex without being homosexual or bisexual, or choosing to act on these impulses or attractions. This could be the reason why you feel attracted to people of the opposite sex but,
I don't really know, I'm just trying my best to give you an explanation. You're the one who's most aware of yourself.
And here's a thing about Homosexuality and Bisexuality: most scientists today agree that sexual orientation is the result of a combination of environmental, emotional, hormonal, and biological factors. In other words, there are many factors that contribute to a person's sexual orientation, and the factors may be different for different people.
However, homosexuality and bisexuality are not caused by the way a child was reared by his or her parents, or by having a sexual experience with someone of the same sex when the person was young. So I guess that is enough fact to throw away your theory of you being abused sexually.
Also, being homosexual or bisexual does not mean the person is mentally ill or abnormal in some way, although there may be social problems that result from prejudicial attitudes or misinformation. You must be thinking that everyone thinks you're a homosexual (or could it be that they really think you are), that's why you somewhat 'seclude' yourself, and that is why your social life is not so great. Moreover, it also makes you think that your father and brothers have the same attitude towards you, and this gives pressure to you, making you feel uncomfortable when they are around.
That is what I think, my opinion so to speak.
You 'might be' struggling with your sexuality.
If you must know, sexual orientation is not a choice and, therefore, cannot be changed. Some people who are homosexual or bisexual may hide their sexual orientation and/or live as heterosexuals to avoid the prejudice that exists against people who are homosexual and bisexual or to avoid their own moral dilemmas felt when their sexual orientation is incompatible with their personal beliefs.
I hope in any way, this information will give you something useful, and eventually solve the mystery that is upon you.
Ofcourse, it is advisable that you seek help from a Professional, that is still the best thing to do.
We 'FunQA.comers' can only go this far.
I can relate and understand the question you have asked.I myself as a young boy displayed behaviour that was not right. I m suffering a similar situation at the moment with my orientation, but i know that my step uncle was a contributing factor to this predicament.
So what i say to you mate, is to get professional help, tell your family, tell them so they can help you and support you through this problem.
It is very possible. I was sexually abused when i was little and didn't remember until i was about 22yrs old .My elder sister was abused as well and reminded me about everything that a family friend that used to live with us forced us to do and did to us. I hated him for some reason then but didn't know why until... I can never forgive him but i don't even see him around any more so it's easier for me. i pray you weren't cause trust me, you don't want to know!
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