What is wrong with me?

I don't know what to do anymore. I'm sick and tired of myself. I don't understand why I am so different from everyone else. It's like I don't fit in anywhere. I can't socialize like everyone else. I'm usually to myself until approached and when I do talk it's like I cannot talk like everyone else. I usually don't know of anyone's business until it's been passed months before. Not that I am a fan of gossip but why am I not like everyone else. I don't understand. I feel like I always have to prove myself because I am black and I don't act like the typical black person. I don't know what I do. I feel so stupid and so alone. I have no confidence and I don't know how to acquire it. I'm about to be 20 for crying out loud when is this going to end. I feel like just forgetting everything and taking my life away sometimes because I feel like I was born into the wrong world. I hate myself. I don't understand why God made me that way. I'm so different and I don't know what to do about it...

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First of all you don't need a man to make you feel like a person. You are who you are. Why do you want to be typical? With all the interracial marriages going on there is hardly a typical anything anymore anyway! My mother felt the same though she was half black and half Mex. and never told. She just knew she was different and it was hard for her to fit in as a child. As she grew up into your age, she just didn't care where she fit in. She made friends of many races and the one thing she told me was that you can't please everyone but yourself. Make yourself happy! Don' worry about gossip it gets you in trouble anyway. Find something productive to do with yourself-Volunteer, that is always a very good self-esteem booster.Really! Stop worrying about what others think of you and start making your life! Get out there and live it. Volunteer! Get Started! And be surprised!

Could be social anxiety or depression. Have you ever thought about talking to a psychologist or counselor? It may help.

sound to me like you need a boyfriend or someone to love you and that truelly understands you.........
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Nothing is wrong with you. God made us all different from each other. You should not want to be like anyone else. You are special and I really don't have to know you to tell you that. You have to believe in yourself and have confidence that you can be anything you want and you can achieve everything. We all go through things but we shouldn't let anything get to us that bad to want to take our life.

Perhaps things will improve as you get older and you change environments and surround yourself with different people. Believe it or not, people do "grow up," and there aren't as many cliques, etc.

For now, I would try my best to better yourself... it all starts with you. Don't worry about others think of you.

You have some wonderful answers in your future.
Take a deep breath and go forward, your way is best for you.

I'm 24 and I do the same thing. I don't usually talk to anyone unless they talk to me first, and even then, I find myself with nothing to say. I've been getting less shy with age, but I don't socialize like other people. Yes, people ask me why I am like that, they tell me I am backward, and it used to bother me. But I decided that I don't care what they think anymore. I don't have a problem with me being this way, why should anyone else? I have friends that like me for me, not for what everyone else thinks is normal. I like being the quiet one, because whenever I do have something to say, everyone listens, because they aren't used to me talking at all.

Sounds to me like you need to start setting some goals for yourself and quit worrying about all of your challenges. We all face obstacles in our daily lives and we all need to learn how to overcome those challenges. To me you sound like a bright, intelligent young lady who just needs to give herself a break, a chance. Go and register at your local community college or university and major in something that interests you. Dont stop until you have completed your degree. And so you are different than everyone else, so what. I think that is a positive thing. Who wants to be just like everyone else. I sure do not. You can socialize. Find some people who you feel comfortable around and get to know them. Just be yourself. They will accept you. You will make it. You are stronger than you think. There will be bad dayz but dont let them get you down. Use them to learn and improve. David

First, nothing is wrong with you. You just lack self confidence and you are only 20, so relax,,, Second everybody has some level of anxiety about fitting in, for example out of all my friends I am the only one without a tattoo so by not having one I am the rebel:) And look at the girls who by $300 shoes and what not they only buy them so other people will think they are cool. Do not run from your fear, It is only through repeated encounters of your fear that you can overcome it. Just get out there and say I am who I am and screw you if you don't like because there are 4 billion other people who might.

You dont NEED a man to make you feel better, like the others have said, it wouldnt work, you need to love yourself befroe you can love anyone else. Sweetie, I think everyone has there moments when they feel lost, & alone, What you have to do is find yourself, what makes you happy? who do you feel comfortable hanging out with? what are your hobbies? talk to other people with the same likes & dislike? There are times when I feel like I am missing something in my life, that is when I surround myself with people who love me, my family & good friends. Don't ever give up, the Lord has a plan for us all. It's our job to start & finish that plan.

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