Family obsessed about me, help?
why is my family SO obsessed about me, What can i do, i need advice.(besides telling me to go away..)
they are always TRYING to manipulate me, my life style, my thoughts my beliefs, trying to control me, to know what i do where i go...Forcing me
im a positive person but sometimes its annoying
they are obsessed that there is "something" wrong with me, all the time, since i was a kid
and im fine, happy, i dont see anything wrong, but theysee weird things,,i dont understand even if i say theres nothing wrong they never believe me. they force me to do many things against my will, never respect me... and i always try to be nice, i respect others,
i live and let live, know my responsibilities, but still
they never respect me, or let me live how i am, they are all the time having delusions about me, imagining stuff, like they use me to entertain themselves, as there is "something" wrong with me and i need to be OK ??!
my friends say im ok they dont understand eit
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Hoooo boy! can I relate to where you're coming from!! My family does the same thing to me. Then about 4 years ago I had enough of the delusions, disrespect and flat out lies being told about me so I walked away from them and I have never looked back. I am much better off without them or their insanity. Let them wallow in their own crap, I have much better things to do with my time!! It was Eleanor Roosevelt who said "great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people". I have decided a LONG time ago to not be another small mind...and I walked away.
If your friends say your ok....
maybe its time to cut that umbilical cord.
If you are of age.
I am sure you love your family, but this is also your life.
Been there and seen my brother go through it and seen this guy who is 18 he is going through it now. Oh and its a lot worse for him.
His mom says no and he listens..everyone is different though.
If you are underage, sit down and talk to your family either way.
show them that you don't need them to make your life great..things are greater doing things that people don't actually think you can achieve..
You have given no clue about your age. You are a member of a family who manipulates everyone. If you seek affirmation of you contribution to to the global community, and you are of age, just leave. Go forward. There will be no winners in the milieu you are now associated with.
sounds like you are ready to leave the nest. just understand they are your unconditionals, there will always be good moments and bad moments in family relationships, every famiy has ups and downs, and in the end they will always be there with love. try and tough it out until you go on your own. lots of times older family members tend to be overprotective, or just see younger ones as easy pickings. understanding this will help ease what you go through with them.
If they are alcoholics or dysfunctional & you are functioning,they are using you for a whipping post for their validation or guilt. If your friends say your okay, that should be a clue because their on the outside looking in. Make sure their telling the truth & not trying to save your feelings though.
My family was the same way for the longest time with me. After I had my first child, they were at my house everyday all day for the first few weeks, telling me everything that I needed to be doing and everything I didn't. Finally one morning after being up all night with my fussy baby, I was sleeping and around 9am I woke up to my mom and my grandma standing at the foot of my bed freaking out on my because they "thought something was wrong" telling me that I don't need to be sleeping that late with a baby, Then my grandma picked my baby up out of her sleep out of my bed and woke her up..that was were I drew the line, I gave them both a piece of my mind. First off I was not even aware that they both had a key to my house, second, I was so pissed that they were coming into my house in my bedroom waking my baby up after a very very sleepless night.
I pretty much just told them that I am a married woman and I have a child now, and that they need to leave us alone and let us live our lives and make our own mistakes if needed. I made them hand me the keys they had to my house and told them that they needed to leave because I was up until 5am with my 2 week old baby and we needed to get some rest. I told them that if they wanted to come back later to visit, then they could but don't come barging in my home telling me how to live my life and raise my child.
They backed off a lot but it still took a lot more of me telling them different things for them to back off and trust my judgement on my own life.
Now they visit us and don't critisize how I do things anymore.
So maybe if you just tell your family that you are perfectly capable of living your own life and making your own decisions, they might back off some. Just keep telling them, everytime you notice they do or say something to you that has anything to do with telling you how and when to do things.speak up to them and let them know that you appriciate their oppinion but you will do things your own way,
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