I need help with anxiety.?
i don't like him.
he's nice.
but i don't want to hurt is feelings.
anyways that's not the point.
i've been feeling so bad
and my stomach is up in knots.
any ways that can help stop this?
Answer:
I used to be like you, where i was more concerned about other people's feelings more than my own. Someone then told me two things which turned that around.
1. Most adults are not that emotional, so don't worry that they are going to have a breakdown if you do something that might not like.
2. Don't get caught up in other people's drama. Most of the time when people act really upset by something, they are just being overly dramatic (probably because they are bored). Ignore that bullshit.
If you don't want to date this guy then don't. It sounds like this relationship would fall apart in two seconds, don't put both of you through that. And i am pretty sure that this person doesn't want to date someone who doesn't want to date him.
get counseling. you are allowing yourself to be defined and controlled by someone else's perceptions. unhealthy. get some help.
You gotta tell people how you feel. You cannot keep things bottled up inside all the time. Find something to do that you enjoy and do it. It will get your mind off of worrying so much. Dont be affraid to be honest with people.
think about why you are feeling this way and whats causing this?
we only feel anxiety because we cares about something. stop caring, stop anxiety.
You are distraught because it was hypocritical to accept a date from him. I suggest that you tell him, "John, you are a nice guy and I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I have been feeling badly since I accepted a date with you. Part of me doesn't want to date you. Suppose we go on a "just friends" basis and I'll pay my own way. What would you think of that?"
This could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship. (Name the movie!)
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