Being intimidated by gays? Why I don't get it?
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Most everybody feels a little akward when talking to a gay person who is the same sex as you. You always have the thought that he likes other men in the back of your mind, no matter how much you like him. It's perfectly normal, like feeling akward around someone you know likes you when you're not attracted to them. It doesn't make you a homophobe. Just try to remember that not every gay guy that you meet will be attracted to you in any way.
It is just your inner little gay voice trying to reach out
differences create conflict
confict creates fear
fear crated anger
anger creates hatred
hatred creates violence
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I believe you secretly have fantasies of being with a guy but society tells you its wrong so when confronted by one you feel guilty for the thoughts that run through your head!
It means you are gay but just don't wanna admit it. Go with the flow dude and be proud of your gayness.
That's not intimidation- your heart's just atwitter.
That's a perfectly understandable situation. Most people do feel uncomfortable around people who are different or whom they haven't been in contact with on a frequent basis. For instance some people may get nervous around people of other races, people who speak a different language, or act a certain way. As crazy as it sounds differences do create conflict and that's perfectly acceptable in any society. For example: If you've never been around guns you may be nervous when someone has one, but if your an avid hunter, have military training, or were simply raised around them it's perfectly natural. And for those who have been in contact socially with gays and lesbians are going to feel more comfortable around them. Despite popular belief most homosexuals don't proactivley seek out partners in the community bur rather in a more closed end environment such as friend groups, clubs, bars, or online dating. So when a gay person is talking to you or in contact you have nothing to be nervous about, try to understand there background and there qualities and you may feel more comfortable. Hope that helped or made a little sense.
For the Record: I'm straight as well, but was raised by a lesbian and have many gay friends both male and female. How could something that makes someone a more happy and complete person be an atrocity or wrong?
I think that it is normal, it is just the way you feel.
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