I dont want to fight to feel normal again.?
I have no idea how to get back to the girl i was and i dont want to be unhappy forever, but i just cannot see anything making me happy again, i have made some really bad choices and turned into a depressed idiot, i hate who i have become and do not want to stay like this forever, how can i get better? I have always had some plans for the future, now my life has just stopped and no one understands, willl i ever be normal again?
Answer:
well, sally, without any detail on what the choices you've made are, i can only say that you need to remember that the path you've taken in your life is filled with learning experiences. you need to find the lesson in it all and then put the past behind you, knowing that you are unable to change the things you've done. but more importantly you need to look to the future and apply that knowledge to make BETTER choices and in time as you're making choices that will benefit your life you'll see that things are getting better, which in turn will help to lift your spirits.
additionally, i don't know if you believe in God, but if you do and you remember that you are loved and forgiven unconditionally and that you can do ALL THINGS through Christ who gives you strength, you'll find peace. and if you turn your hurts over to God and ask Him for strength to do better in your life, you will find it!
This is something that I'm actually working on myself. I've tried to get as much help as I could, and it finally struck me not that long ago.
I think that you can be normal again. You may feel down right now, but there's too much in life that's beautiful in the future, so it's impossible for you to be sad for the rest of your life.
I think that if you think about who you are as a person, how special you are, being a unique, special individual out of millions and millions of people, then you'll see that things can always turn around. I know it's something that someone would always say, that you're a special person and all, but it's completely true. You are a special person, sometimes it just takes alittle clearing up of our past to see it. Girls have a natural beauty in them, that includes you. And I know we don't really know each other, but this is something that's always going to be for sure. Sometimes little things like showing a smile can not only change your day, but everyone elses. Seeing that other people are smiling back at you is a natural happy-adrenaline.
you may need some meaningless sex. actually no, dont' do that...
my recommendation is to go to church and find some caring people to talk to - it's free, and will give you a lifetime of relationships and help, and later you can help others too, which will make you feel better. but most importantly, it will change your life for the better.
Yes, you will. What has happened is that life got in the way of your dreams. The bad thing about when that happens to us is that it throws our emotions so far into disarray that we end up losing sight of the "golden road". Another result of this is that we stop trusting ourselves. I think that's part of the reason you feel so miserable. It's hard to face life with the feeling that you can't trust yourself to take care of yourself. And trust me, I know how it feels when nobody understands. How I began to work on getting past that hurt was to first realize that I had to stop giving other people power over my life. I decided that even if I made a bad decision in the future, I wouldn't let it stop me. I would force myself to learn from it and move on (that was kinda tough at first but it got easy quickly). I started setting little goals for myself, and as I achieved them I set new ones, eventually making them more challenging. As you progress through each little milestone, you'll see that you're starting to realize that you CAN do things right and you'll start feeling more confident. Also, meditation and yoga work wonders to calm the mind and the body. You will literally FEEL better afterwards. So yes, you will be normal again. You just have to believe it.
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well, sally, without any detail on what the choices you've made are, i can only say that you need to remember that the path you've taken in your life is filled with learning experiences. you need to find the lesson in it all and then put the past behind you, knowing that you are unable to change the things you've done. but more importantly you need to look to the future and apply that knowledge to make BETTER choices and in time as you're making choices that will benefit your life you'll see that things are getting better, which in turn will help to lift your spirits.
additionally, i don't know if you believe in God, but if you do and you remember that you are loved and forgiven unconditionally and that you can do ALL THINGS through Christ who gives you strength, you'll find peace. and if you turn your hurts over to God and ask Him for strength to do better in your life, you will find it!
This is something that I'm actually working on myself. I've tried to get as much help as I could, and it finally struck me not that long ago.
I think that you can be normal again. You may feel down right now, but there's too much in life that's beautiful in the future, so it's impossible for you to be sad for the rest of your life.
I think that if you think about who you are as a person, how special you are, being a unique, special individual out of millions and millions of people, then you'll see that things can always turn around. I know it's something that someone would always say, that you're a special person and all, but it's completely true. You are a special person, sometimes it just takes alittle clearing up of our past to see it. Girls have a natural beauty in them, that includes you. And I know we don't really know each other, but this is something that's always going to be for sure. Sometimes little things like showing a smile can not only change your day, but everyone elses. Seeing that other people are smiling back at you is a natural happy-adrenaline.
you may need some meaningless sex. actually no, dont' do that...
my recommendation is to go to church and find some caring people to talk to - it's free, and will give you a lifetime of relationships and help, and later you can help others too, which will make you feel better. but most importantly, it will change your life for the better.
Yes, you will. What has happened is that life got in the way of your dreams. The bad thing about when that happens to us is that it throws our emotions so far into disarray that we end up losing sight of the "golden road". Another result of this is that we stop trusting ourselves. I think that's part of the reason you feel so miserable. It's hard to face life with the feeling that you can't trust yourself to take care of yourself. And trust me, I know how it feels when nobody understands. How I began to work on getting past that hurt was to first realize that I had to stop giving other people power over my life. I decided that even if I made a bad decision in the future, I wouldn't let it stop me. I would force myself to learn from it and move on (that was kinda tough at first but it got easy quickly). I started setting little goals for myself, and as I achieved them I set new ones, eventually making them more challenging. As you progress through each little milestone, you'll see that you're starting to realize that you CAN do things right and you'll start feeling more confident. Also, meditation and yoga work wonders to calm the mind and the body. You will literally FEEL better afterwards. So yes, you will be normal again. You just have to believe it.
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