Disguised/Subtle/Hidden Insults?

I seem to be the constant victim of hidden/disguised/subtle insults from people I know, and even people that don't know me at all (for e.g., a coworker I never speak with).

I'm willing to admit I have some paranoia, but really believe they are insulting me in certain instances. Why would they say "off" comments if they weren't? It's the most frustrating insult one can endure (and I believe the most rewarding sort of insult for them)...

The feeling caused by somebody thinking they know you better than you know yourself is beyond maddening. It's capable of causing extreme anxiety and hatred within oneself and others.

Anyway, does anyone else experience these forms of insults and can't understand why or how that could be?

How much does paranoia play a role in the reality of the situation?

Answer:
Just because you are paranoid doesnt mean people arent out to get you.
let it roll off your back and move on and be happy if you can be that is the best, Let the good times roll
I really don't have to many enemies or people who don't like me so if someone isn't happy with me they will tell me in my face because no else cares. So that's what makes me happy, let me explain: everyone in my school is alright with me, no1 hates me, a few people like me. But if someone starts to hate me, no1 else will care because no1 but that 1 person hates me so he can't share his feeling with anyone so he is forced to tell them to me.
If it's something that really bothers you and you can't let it go, you may have to learn to confron it head on. By that I don't mean yelling at the people, but finding a way to politely ask them what they meant by their comment. By doing this, you will find that sometimes the person meant something else entirely. And when they did mean to insult you, your confronting them may make them uncomfortable enough to stop their behavior. After all, if they wanted to directly confront you, they would have done that rather than being so passive aggressive.

Of course, you'll also have to be prepared to do some personal searching and growth because when you put people on the spot, some might just tell you something about yourself that has been off-putting to those around you.

Good luck.
Be careful , there may be quite a degree of paranoia at play here. If you are not 100 % certain do not asume the worst or your fears will feed themselves. It may be possible it is an unsuccessful attempt at humour as well. Assume that you have misunderstood or misinterpreted until you have conclusive proof for the good of your own mental health.
If people are being dishonest the answer is easy...live in the truth and for those who are trying to start arguments based on nothing but *dishonesty* you have boundaries - everyone has personal boundaries.

"anxiety and hatred"

Stop that.you could practice standing up for yourself in a tasteful manner if and when you have no responsibility in causing trouble when socializing. Remember any and all relationships take two. Yes, there are people out there that will say something if you have crossed their boundaries also.

"That is false"
"you are mistaken"
My mother-in-law does this constantly. UGH And she wonders why I don't like visiting her or inviting her over. It's really her own paronia. She gives me backhanded compliments that turn out to be insults. Like, Marie, on Everybody Loves Raymond.
Yeah, paronia plays a BIG role... for the person who dishes it out.
Of course you wind up feeling paronoid, that's their mission...don't fall for it!. Pick yourself up, and dust yourself off.

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