Why should I be a nice guy even when nobody else is or even wants to.?
I suffer from loniness and angry at myself for being the way I am.I wish I was just like everybody else so people would at least accept and respect me more.
Answer:
You and I are in the same place. First off, there is no such thing as "just like everybody else". Everybody is different in some way or another. If everybody was the same the world would be awfully boring. I have taught myself that I am who I am, and that no matter how much I try I will not change that. I can make a few adjustments here and there, but I must accept that no matter what I do I will always act a certain way. You can then tell yourself that because you are who you are, there is no reason for you to beat yourself up constantly about it. It only makes things worse.
On another note, there are many more nice people and people that want to be nice than you may realize. They are out there, believe it or not, and there are plently of them that are going through the same thing you are. The simple fact is that people do respect you, even if they will not admit it and even if they do not know it themselves.
I also believe that if you were able to become just like everybody else, you would discover new problems in which you would have new reasons to be upset. Life is hard; everybody has something that they're upset with. You can make it a lot easier by accepting the challenges as they come to you, and to believe in who you are.
because it is the right thing to do...?
you never know, they might end up being nice...?
because it's sexy and a good thing to have.
Good question and there is no one right answer. I say be true to yourself and if you happen to be a nice guy, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Don't be an ahole just because it's in.
enjoy being yourself, being by yourself. if you can't stand being alone with yourself, what are you going to do with other people? love who you are.
Dont be a jerk because other guys are. In the long run, nice guys do get ahead! In the meantime, things are rough but dont change your ways because someone is going to eventually fall in love with you and gush over how much of a nice guy you are!
change your name to normal and act normal then you will see the difference
because u are being the bigger person, be proud of that :)
Dude, there are plenty of nice people out there. You can't be a pushover though. You have to show that you are nice but that you can't be taken advantage of.
They do..but you have the low self esteem thingy going on.just breathe and be yourself.take care...
Keep being a good guy no matter what, you should feel great about yourself that you are one of the good people we still have left on this earth. Pass your morals on as much as you can and you may not see it but it does help.
Keep your head up and feel good about the things you do!
Be good to yourself. Be thankful for what you have to God everyday. Help someone. Accept yourself weaknesses and all. Don't be angry at yourself. Be proud of who you are.
God Bless!
dont be mean or overly nice life takes balance and we should learn to know when to change roles between the two
Ah, I tried being an *hole. I didn't like it. I feel better about myself when I just be me and be nice. I can care less what everyone else thinks.
You are going to be the one in your own presence more than anyone else will be. So you have to be able to tolerate and live with yourself. What others think of you matters less then than what you think of yourself.
be you.not everyone is like that.if you want to be nicer,why change? respect and accept yourself for being a nice person.after all,people like to be treated nicely,no matter what they say.
You need to be what you are, regardless of what everyone else does, lest you attract friends/wives that are not compatible.
Who cares about other people. Just be yourself. The nicer you are, the more people will like you.
After my divorce, I lost a lot of my friends who I think felt uncomfortable being in the middle of me and my ex. It took awhile as I was bitter and angry. I forced myself to be happy all the time, or at least show it, and joke around and be nice to everyone. You would be surprised at how many people will soon be your friends.
dont be angry at yourself. i dont really know 'the way you are', but if youre really lonely then maybe you should get a pet. or go out and try and meet new people. join some clubs. and you should be a 'nice guy' because its really what kind of person you are that counts. you wont get much respect out of other people until you start accepting and respecting yourself more.
Honestly you can't expect everyone to like you. life would be way too stressful trying to please everyone else. I think what you should do is figure out WHO YOU ARE!! and be happy with that. There is going to be someone out there who falls in love or in like with that and it's going to be the best feeling you could ever have because by being yourself you attracted this other great person...The people who matter most in your life are going to be the ones who accept and respect you for who you are not who they want you to be.. Hope it helps I went through the same thing it's something you learn with time.
You may be angry at times or even mad at urself, however if you were pretending to be someone else or acting the way you think others want you too, im sure you would eventually be even more mad at urself. Just stay true to yourself and things will work out for you..Good things do happen to good guys!!! If you are a nice guy just make sure u don't let urself get pushed around or used...be happy with who you are and you will get all you deserve!!
you should want to not have to. if you decide to be an a**hole that doesnt mean you wont be alone you might be lonelier.
You have to be a nice guy not so that other people respect you, but because you have to respect yourself. It does not matter what others think of us, or how we compare with them. Thinking about that can drive you mad. All that matters is that YOU stay true to your own, unique vision of goodness. And, that you die someday knowing that you stayed true to your vision of what it means to be a good and decent man. I was a hospice nurse. Thousands of dying people told me this. All of them did.
just be who u r,who u r is the real u.stick with it.
Cokezero; I hate beating around the bush, often times I will not be gentle. I want you to listen to me very closely: Stop being angry at yourself! People sense that. The angrier you become the more they will stay away. You also don't respect yourself; another big no no. You want people to respect you; you have to respect yourself; otherwise it's a no go. Listen, I'm no Buddhist, yet Buddhist had a really good saying. When we are born some are given stones. Some are given jewels. The best person is the one who can turn stones into jewels. You have to work with what you have, hone it until it's ready to do your bidding. To perfectly honest with you is the very first thing I was going to say was, so if everyone else is going to jump off a bridge you're gonna do the same thing. Never care what other people think and, or do, they are not living your life; you are.
I can relate a little to this. "I'm never alone, I'm alone all the time." What you should focus on is finding people who can appreciate you for being uniquely you. It might take a little diligence, but they are out there. It is just a matter of finding them. I wasted a good many years trying to be "good enough" for people I could care less about. Your real friends know everything about you and like you anyways . . . seek them out! Good luck!
you are an individual...no less than anyone...no more than anyone...you have to remember that you are the way you are because you want to be or need to be for this time...if you want to change...do it...but don't fake it...do it all the way or don't do it at all...just do something for you...everything else will fall in line...and being a nice guy is only good if you are sincere...if you are sincere...it will show to the right person...
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Answer:
You and I are in the same place. First off, there is no such thing as "just like everybody else". Everybody is different in some way or another. If everybody was the same the world would be awfully boring. I have taught myself that I am who I am, and that no matter how much I try I will not change that. I can make a few adjustments here and there, but I must accept that no matter what I do I will always act a certain way. You can then tell yourself that because you are who you are, there is no reason for you to beat yourself up constantly about it. It only makes things worse.
On another note, there are many more nice people and people that want to be nice than you may realize. They are out there, believe it or not, and there are plently of them that are going through the same thing you are. The simple fact is that people do respect you, even if they will not admit it and even if they do not know it themselves.
I also believe that if you were able to become just like everybody else, you would discover new problems in which you would have new reasons to be upset. Life is hard; everybody has something that they're upset with. You can make it a lot easier by accepting the challenges as they come to you, and to believe in who you are.
because it is the right thing to do...?
you never know, they might end up being nice...?
because it's sexy and a good thing to have.
Good question and there is no one right answer. I say be true to yourself and if you happen to be a nice guy, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Don't be an ahole just because it's in.
enjoy being yourself, being by yourself. if you can't stand being alone with yourself, what are you going to do with other people? love who you are.
Dont be a jerk because other guys are. In the long run, nice guys do get ahead! In the meantime, things are rough but dont change your ways because someone is going to eventually fall in love with you and gush over how much of a nice guy you are!
change your name to normal and act normal then you will see the difference
because u are being the bigger person, be proud of that :)
Dude, there are plenty of nice people out there. You can't be a pushover though. You have to show that you are nice but that you can't be taken advantage of.
They do..but you have the low self esteem thingy going on.just breathe and be yourself.take care...
Keep being a good guy no matter what, you should feel great about yourself that you are one of the good people we still have left on this earth. Pass your morals on as much as you can and you may not see it but it does help.
Keep your head up and feel good about the things you do!
Be good to yourself. Be thankful for what you have to God everyday. Help someone. Accept yourself weaknesses and all. Don't be angry at yourself. Be proud of who you are.
God Bless!
dont be mean or overly nice life takes balance and we should learn to know when to change roles between the two
Ah, I tried being an *hole. I didn't like it. I feel better about myself when I just be me and be nice. I can care less what everyone else thinks.
You are going to be the one in your own presence more than anyone else will be. So you have to be able to tolerate and live with yourself. What others think of you matters less then than what you think of yourself.
be you.not everyone is like that.if you want to be nicer,why change? respect and accept yourself for being a nice person.after all,people like to be treated nicely,no matter what they say.
You need to be what you are, regardless of what everyone else does, lest you attract friends/wives that are not compatible.
Who cares about other people. Just be yourself. The nicer you are, the more people will like you.
After my divorce, I lost a lot of my friends who I think felt uncomfortable being in the middle of me and my ex. It took awhile as I was bitter and angry. I forced myself to be happy all the time, or at least show it, and joke around and be nice to everyone. You would be surprised at how many people will soon be your friends.
dont be angry at yourself. i dont really know 'the way you are', but if youre really lonely then maybe you should get a pet. or go out and try and meet new people. join some clubs. and you should be a 'nice guy' because its really what kind of person you are that counts. you wont get much respect out of other people until you start accepting and respecting yourself more.
Honestly you can't expect everyone to like you. life would be way too stressful trying to please everyone else. I think what you should do is figure out WHO YOU ARE!! and be happy with that. There is going to be someone out there who falls in love or in like with that and it's going to be the best feeling you could ever have because by being yourself you attracted this other great person...The people who matter most in your life are going to be the ones who accept and respect you for who you are not who they want you to be.. Hope it helps I went through the same thing it's something you learn with time.
You may be angry at times or even mad at urself, however if you were pretending to be someone else or acting the way you think others want you too, im sure you would eventually be even more mad at urself. Just stay true to yourself and things will work out for you..Good things do happen to good guys!!! If you are a nice guy just make sure u don't let urself get pushed around or used...be happy with who you are and you will get all you deserve!!
you should want to not have to. if you decide to be an a**hole that doesnt mean you wont be alone you might be lonelier.
You have to be a nice guy not so that other people respect you, but because you have to respect yourself. It does not matter what others think of us, or how we compare with them. Thinking about that can drive you mad. All that matters is that YOU stay true to your own, unique vision of goodness. And, that you die someday knowing that you stayed true to your vision of what it means to be a good and decent man. I was a hospice nurse. Thousands of dying people told me this. All of them did.
just be who u r,who u r is the real u.stick with it.
Cokezero; I hate beating around the bush, often times I will not be gentle. I want you to listen to me very closely: Stop being angry at yourself! People sense that. The angrier you become the more they will stay away. You also don't respect yourself; another big no no. You want people to respect you; you have to respect yourself; otherwise it's a no go. Listen, I'm no Buddhist, yet Buddhist had a really good saying. When we are born some are given stones. Some are given jewels. The best person is the one who can turn stones into jewels. You have to work with what you have, hone it until it's ready to do your bidding. To perfectly honest with you is the very first thing I was going to say was, so if everyone else is going to jump off a bridge you're gonna do the same thing. Never care what other people think and, or do, they are not living your life; you are.
I can relate a little to this. "I'm never alone, I'm alone all the time." What you should focus on is finding people who can appreciate you for being uniquely you. It might take a little diligence, but they are out there. It is just a matter of finding them. I wasted a good many years trying to be "good enough" for people I could care less about. Your real friends know everything about you and like you anyways . . . seek them out! Good luck!
you are an individual...no less than anyone...no more than anyone...you have to remember that you are the way you are because you want to be or need to be for this time...if you want to change...do it...but don't fake it...do it all the way or don't do it at all...just do something for you...everything else will fall in line...and being a nice guy is only good if you are sincere...if you are sincere...it will show to the right person...
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