What causes shyness?
I'm tired of this cloud over my head. I could achieve more if it were not there!
My true self is in captivity.
I'm not sure if this question belonged in mental health or Psychology.
Answer:
Shyness first and foremost is genetic. A small child will be naturally shy or naturally outgoing. Whether or not the shyness sticks depends on how the parents raise the child. If the parents push the child into social situations i.e. play dates, daycare, etc then it's more likely that the child will lose the shyness.
I think you have problems socializing outside of work because there is no structure. At school you have lesson plans for what you need to talk about, but in a social situation, you can't plan what to talk about with a complete stranger. Next time you go out, perhaps bring a good friend or sibling how could help introduce you to people. And when you do start to meet people, be honest about your shyness so that they don't think you're just not interested in talking to them.
Good Luck!!
strict parents
It's the lack of self-esteem... you don't trust yourself doing well, so you'd rather shy away, not do it, hide, escape to avoid the unknown, or to make it tangible, embarassment
Genetics sometimes.
Sometimes it's how we grow up too. How we feel about ourselves.
For the latter, they usually come into their own. For genetically shy people, they usually stay this way for life.
try these sites:
http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/...
http://www.shyandfree.com/
http://nefsky.com/pg-shyness.htm...
hope they help!
You said you indentified the source of your shyness as a child, so you have answered your own question in a sense. It's fear of rejection that is holding you back as I've said in many of my other responses. When you can accept rejection happily without feeling sorry for yourself, you will be cured.
Before you go speak to someone you'd like to talk to, make sure you have a purpose...an intention. Try to have a set goal for the conversation but do not be embarassed if the topic or goal changes or becomes unreachable. Start off with a simple goal such as introducing yourself. Don't be afraid at all, both sexes actually have an extreme fondness for shy individuals. A person can tell if you are shy right away when you start talking to them...they in turn find your intiation of conversation a very beautiful thing.
Not all people are going to be nice, or accepting of you, but you cannot allow that to deter you from expressing your love and ideas to the world. Remember this; I would have rather tried and failed, then wonder my entire life what if? You must act now before your What if's overcome your persona.
Insecurity. Build yourself up one step at a time. Do something that makes you proud of yourself. Continue to do these things and each time up the difficulty. Your inner pride will grow. Have morals and be accountable. Also work on your looks and ask for help whenever you are not sure. Take risks...If nothing else you will not be lost for words. Have fun and don't take things so seriously, remember most all people feel insecure for different reasons.
It can be lack of social interaction with a range of people or certain people. Hence it can very much do with your environment; where you live, what kind of people you talk to or have relations with, and how you were raised. By being shy, sometimes we tend to feel unsure of the reactions of those we talk to. By this uncertainty, Our nervousness overwhelms us and makes our true meanings unclear and shroud our true selves. That is a great disadvantage to many people; they would often regret later for messing up what they want to say or express .
Being withdrawn from society as a kid
Lack of confidence is a main factor for shyness. I too was painfully shy as a child because I had no self-esteem. People who are shy feel very uncomfortable in social situations primarily because they are uncomfortable with themselves.
The first step to overcome shyness is to start not caring what other people think about you. Tell yourself you belong in society just like everyone else.
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