Could you please tell me how can i attain confidence in my life?
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Believe in yourself and always have.. ok i was a shy person too, I can remember when ever i used to have Presentation, i wasnt able to sleep the whole night, my heart used to beat with a speed of 100 beats per min. and i used to shiver too... but then one day when i cried and then I decided that this world is for me too. If the other person is confident, intelligent etc etc then there must also be some good points I have got control over and the same opposite person lacks in that.
in short, Believe in yourself, This world is for you too. Try to groom up ureself. and really really ignore the crossed eyes of others, always lissen to suggestions, and make ureself able to differentiate between what is wrong and what is right for you.
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If you don't at least try, you've already LOST, if you try and lose, you have the expierence of knowing what to do next time in a similar situation to win. You have to get out of your shell, man is NOT meant to live in isolation, man is a social being.
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i believe the only solution is for to first believe in yourself. then put up a good front, and practice. if you don't experience meeting and talking to people, you'll be forever encased in your shell. stop thinking that you'll get wrong, cause possibly that will really happen. 'kapalan mo lang mukha mo', 'thicken your face', is what we masscom people say to ourselves.
how do you do anything?
Honesty
Open mindedness
Willingness
Its like anything, its a matter of practice, practice, practice. patience, patience, patience, practice, practice, practice.
i know it can seem scary but i always think whats the worst that can happen, someone might actually like you and find you interesting. try speak to at least 1 new person a day, (doesn't matter if its just asking about the weather) you will be surprised how easy it becomes to build your confidence. hope this helps. paulie
Join groups, meetings, and sports teams -- and introduce yourself to people -- after a time it will become second nature.
outlived the people dat u think doesnt like u.. ur lyf does not revolve around them.. and hey, ur not here to please everyone..be yourself and ull be a superstar...
I was like that, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes. Facing the what we fear takes its power away. In fact, facing fear empowers US! When we realize that we are all basically the same, it makes things easier too. We all have wishes and dreams, frustrations, happiness, sadness, beliefs, anxieties, hopes, and fears.
If you believe in a higher faith, then pray for help and trust the you will meet people who are open and kind. After meeting such people, you will be surprised how much easier it gets… and your fear will melt like summer snows. Good Luck and God Bless, Love! I hope this helps.
Its similar to desensitization therapy. Set yourself a series of tasks in whatever it is that is bugging you that you are reasonably sure you can do and tackle them. Don't make them so hard that you fail, but make them stretch goals. Tell no one else what you're doing but do them. There are two objectives, first is analyze your successes and failures to improve your performance. Second is to build record of success in your own mind and with it confidence in yourself and your new skills. Be honest with yourself, you can't lie to your own ego, so don't make any one task so hard you can not do it. This is how they teach horses to jump fences, they start with a stick laying on the ground and gradually raise it, being careful to never make it so high the horse balks. Works with children also.
Here is a nice site to visit. I think they are also releasing an ebook on that subject soon.
1. stop worrying about your appearances , and what others think about your dressing etc.
2. Stop thinking that what you have said or will say, is not correct or right. Tell yourself that what answer or reply you are giving to someone is the best reply in the whole world.
3. Try to make atleast one confident and extrovert-type friend. It helps a lot to interact on a regular basis with such a friend.
4. Identify atleast one really strong aspect about your personality. A feature or an ability which you are really comfortable doing. It can be anything. Singing, Musical instrument, Books , sports, technical stuff, spiritual gyan , cooking, dancing, pet animals, gardening. It can be something from personal or professional life. Thinking and observing yourself do this thing nicely will give good points to your overall score card.
5. start by setting small small goals for yourself. you cannot be transformed into a super-hero overnight. It is a slow process.
6. Have patience and perseverance
The problem is simple and the solution equally simple. You are lacking of confidence. When you will go to talk or meet some people, think what you are going to discuss. Increase your self-confidence by reading the some positive stories written by good people. Don't think that you don't know anything. Think that everyone is like you. First, believe that you can do anything, this confidence will solve the half problem. Then you try to say something strongly. If you have any language problem, try to remove it. I had been facing the same problem as you are facing but now I have improved a lot. It is not a problem at all. Be confident. Success will come to you automatically.
Remove 'how can i attain confidence' from your thinking. You will automatically become confident.
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