I need advice please...?
Ok, um, so, tomorrow I'm going to meet a guy who contacted me a long time ago and offered a collaboration (with him) for certain projects. He hasn't seen me yet or maybe he does but it was just from a tiny picture I included in my work for a school exhibit. The problem that I'm nervous about is that I'm fat. I'm 5'7" and I'm very fat. I'm very thrilled working with him but my self-esteem's plunging down the drain because of my physical looks. And I'm having thoughts like, "What if he gross out when he sees me at our meeting tomorrow?", "What if he gets disappointed?", "What if he makes fun of me to his friends?". I don't know if he got the idea of what I look like through my picture but I'm really nervous about tomorrow.
Yeah... I know I have issues, but my weight has been my main problem my whole life. I want to be the best partner he can ever have and I don't want him to regret having me. I'm so confused I don't know the right thing to think to be positive about tomorrow.
Answer:
As a person who's overweight and physically disabled I have learned that what others think about me isn't relevant to what I think about myself. If you just concentrate on helping make this project the best that the two of you can, it won't and isn't about the weight. It's about what ever he is expecting you to help him with. If you do that than it won't matter what your weight is. What matters most is the work that the two of you are going to do together.
Well, if it's a work collaboration, just treat him very professionally. Perhaps he will be so impressed that he will not remember your weight, and just remember your personality. Or maybe he won't care anyway. Would you care if the other person were heavy?
If you want to be the best partner he can ever have, let your talents shine through. I assume that if he has never seen you in person before, he contacted you because he thinks you are good at what you do. Show him what you've got!! If he gets "grossed out" or whatever because of your physical appearance, he does not deserve your partnership. There is more to a person than her looks. People who can't see through that clearly have problems. Confidence really helps, girl. I am sure you're good at something, build on that!! Goodluck. You go, girl!!
xxx
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Yeah... I know I have issues, but my weight has been my main problem my whole life. I want to be the best partner he can ever have and I don't want him to regret having me. I'm so confused I don't know the right thing to think to be positive about tomorrow.
Answer:
As a person who's overweight and physically disabled I have learned that what others think about me isn't relevant to what I think about myself. If you just concentrate on helping make this project the best that the two of you can, it won't and isn't about the weight. It's about what ever he is expecting you to help him with. If you do that than it won't matter what your weight is. What matters most is the work that the two of you are going to do together.
Well, if it's a work collaboration, just treat him very professionally. Perhaps he will be so impressed that he will not remember your weight, and just remember your personality. Or maybe he won't care anyway. Would you care if the other person were heavy?
If you want to be the best partner he can ever have, let your talents shine through. I assume that if he has never seen you in person before, he contacted you because he thinks you are good at what you do. Show him what you've got!! If he gets "grossed out" or whatever because of your physical appearance, he does not deserve your partnership. There is more to a person than her looks. People who can't see through that clearly have problems. Confidence really helps, girl. I am sure you're good at something, build on that!! Goodluck. You go, girl!!
xxx
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