I dont know who I am anymore?

i'm 14 and lately i've been feeling like i dont belong. anywhere. i constantly change my mind about things and am easily influenced, and i cant find anything that really makes me happy. i feel like im growing away from everyone and i always make up excuses not to hang out with people, especially if i dont know them well. i know that everyone goes through 'teenage angst,' but i feel like this is different. i always think about if my life even has any meaning and what the point is. i feel like im just wasting my time. i dont have many friends anymore because i hardly talk to people and i feel really antisocial. and i constantly compare myself to other girls and my self esteem just gets lower and lower. any advice? i dont know what to do anymore..

Answer:
You were probably expecting this answer, but don't worry, it's completely natural. You're going through a period where you need to look inwards and discover yourself, but you're not doing it and therefore the repressed feelings are coming out in a negative way.

Believe you me, I've gone through what you have. When I was 14, I was about 90 more pounds than I am now and I had maybe one or two friends, not even close friends, just people I associated with every once in a while at school. You'll grow out of it. You just have to remember that you are your own worst critic. People don't usually slam judgements on you at first sight although some will, so you shouldn't be too concerned about what the other girls are doing and just do what is you.

About your self esteem, that's something you can only work out on your own. My advice is that you find something that makes you feel strong and keep doing it. Try martial arts or a sport.
hunny i have the same problem i guess that means we could be good friends and i dont know either same age too
Hello There,

You sound like me 3 years ago and when I told this to a "professional" I was diagnosed with severe depression and put on medication to help relieve some of the pain i was going through, not psychical pain but mental which it sounds like you're having a lot of. If it's possible talk to someone you trust ( Mum, Dad, bro, sis aunt even a friend who you know is going to take you seriously) but you need to let someone know how your feeling, I wrote my feelings down in a letter to my mum and dad cause i didn't feel like i could verbally explain it to them, I didn't really even know myself I just knew that I felt empty and alone. You arn't alone and you arn't abnormal so please have a chat with someone and let them know what's going on, even if you want to write to me I'd be more than happy to chat i'm a 21 year old female from Australia hope this helps :-)
Do u like kids? See where u can volunteer to help, like the daycares or after school programs. Do you like grandmas? See about helping out at a senior center or convalescent home. Do u have a church? Lots of volunteer work there. Is there a youth group @ church u can join? When u get thinkin' of others, u simply forget about how there's no purpose in ur life. There's TONS of purpose!! Looking at this logically, you've only been aware of ur life since u were 9 or 10!! That means 4 or 5 yrs ago! Find a way to thank God for ur life instead of dissin' Him. Dang girl I could write a lot about the Attitude of Gratitude!
I wouldn't worry about it too much. It's natural. Many people question the meaning to life or their existence. You get past it when you recognize it's what you have to do. I'm sure there's some things that still make you smile or laugh. Enjoy it and just enjoy life.
your 14 ,your a teenager , those years that really suck ,i mean feeling you dont belong is the least you can feel

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