What makes people say terrible things about those have passed on?
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Yeah, ignorance is one. But it's more than that, I think. A person who blatantly says terrible things about a deceased person, who is not here to defend themselves, especially to someone who is grieving, has not loved a person completely to know the pain of loss. They are to be pitied and given no further investigation or concern. Pay them no attention for they are without merit. God Bless.
Ignorent cowerdice.
Fear of their own impending, unavoidable demise and trying to feel "above" it.
Yours is really a two-part question. Re the question without the added comments: some people still carry scars after another person is deceased. Think of an adult who was abused by a person in authority such as a parent over most of his/her life and they're not going to have too many good memories. They may not have said much while the person was alive because they still felt intimidated or afraid of repercussions. Now that the person is deceased, they feel relief and let the pent-up anger out.
Re the added comments. think about this scenario. You love someone very much and you enter into a relationship with him/her. Over time you're told horror stories about how someone they knew treated others or cheated and lied, maybe had adulterous affairs, didn't provide for the family...you would be more likely to assign blame than to give a blanket apology for their behavior.
You didn't have to know Hitler (I know, trite example) or any of the other cruel, vicious dictators in this world to hate what they did to innocent people. What about the KKK and what they did to people based solely on their race? It's human nature to abhor what goes against our sense of common decency.
Certainly it would be better not to say anything, but that's not very realistic. As long as a person doesn't go on a tirade, ranting to everyone s/he knows about this person, or gets up during the eulogy to condemn the person, they have a right to air their grievances. I know from personal experience there is one person in my extended family that when he died all his virtues were extolled and he was held up as a King among Men. Yeah, right, when he shut the front door no one but the family could see him or hear the way he treated others. The public view is entirely different from the private view we have of life. Just look at all the information that's coming out about Richard Nixon or Lyndon B. Johnson. The opposite of good is evil and that's in all of us.
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