How to make friends?
I have always been really bad with making friends, i think its a lack of self esteem, but also im always so worried about my appearance and how i appear in public when we go out (cos im overweight) so when i do make friends, so i tend to make excuses for why i can never go out.
Has anyone else felt like this and if you have, how did you overcome it?
Answer:
To be popular with your friends there are a few unwritten rules to learn. 1. Never talk over your mates conversation, before they are finished. 2. Never brag or boast about anything! As events have a knack of coming back at you! 3. Don't mouth off like an idiot, one, you'll look stupid! And two, you wont be admired for it! 4. Always treat your friends as you'd like to be treated. 5.If you say you'll be there, then be there! 6. Never loan money from your friends. 7. Never talk about any of them behind their backs! They'll find out! 8. Never put their girlfriends down behind their backs or too their face. 9. Be genuine and be yourself at all times. 10. Never loose your cool with your friends talk to them quietly, and above all! Dont talk idiot rubbish. Take this on board, and you'll have plenty of friends. Have a good day.
Hi and sorry you don't make friends to easily.I'm in the same boat and if you find out how it can be done please let me know.I am over weight also and it seems if you are not thin and pretty you don't have much of a chance.It doesn't even matter what kind of personality you have as long as your Thin and pretty you will have friends. That's pretty sad.
Smile the world will smile to you! Try going to the gym or riding a bicycle in the park. Want to be friends? :D
Hey don't worry! My piece of advice is, keep smiling! I always feel I can approach people who look happy, or smiley no matter whether they are 'thin' or 'pretty' and people say the same about me, that they feel they would rather talk to someone who looks as if they want to be talked to. I hope this helps in some way. : )
mmh .. i m nt overweight or anything but i used to have difficulty making friends when i was a kid .. i guess you will just have to take the first step out and even though you may recieve some mean treatment from your "friends", continue trying and i believed you wil soon find your own group of true friends :) it takes time and courage.. and i do have some really good friends who are really overweight but who cares .. it doesnt matter at all .. have more confidence yea.. there will be ppl who will be willing to accept you .. GOOD LUCK!
well Lisa (and dixie) there is only one thing that i need to say...
just be youself!
dont try to act like someone ur not just to make friends, coz if u do, they will only expect those kind of things from you. just be urself and carry on with life. u will soon meet people who will like you just the way you are but with only one string attached...you gotta be friends with them :)
and please dont stress urself for being overweight or not looking good enough...i for one wouldn't definitely care of how u looked...its the inside that matters. if people make friends just coz they are thin and pretty, then they are just nothing but shallow people and you are better off without them
im no expert in all this but i hope it helped.
Sometimes we must stop thinking about how we appear to others and think about others! What I mean is, transfer the focus from yourself to the person/people you want to be friendly with.
Lots of people feel the same way you do, so imagine if you were the one who made the initial contact! I'm sure you don't approach people thinking about their weight or stuff like that, so why would you be anxious about saying, "Hi!"
Good luck and be kind - to yourself and to others ...
Since when physical appearance become the barrier to make friends? True friends will never judge another friend by looking at his/her appearance. But, I do suggest you to go to the gym. I guess by doing so, you can overcome that.
Well, you are just too much conscious and uncomfortable of yourself mingling with others. You may have thought of your appearance as miserable and that you are thinking in advance that you are going to be a laughing stock if you would come to them.
Well, that's self esteem problem. And the best way to cure that is to accept who you really are, how you look and that it is not bad to look like that. Try to be happy of what you are, think of the good things that you have from being overweight or something, and think of the qualities and abilities that you have which you think you could make them happy to be with you and that you are going to be comfortable with you.
Be nice.. Overweight ppl still can make lots of friends.. Try to be friendly and funny.. They like funny type of ppl. If you can't be the beautiful and thin, then be funny. Smile more and be nice.. Good luck in making friends!
Don't let your weight bother you! If you want to though, go to the gym and swap junk food for healthy foods. Remind yourself that nobody cares about your weight, put it to the side. It shouldn't have to be a factor in making friends. x
I have the same problem too. Just stop focusing on your outer appearance and more on what you are going to say (how you are going to interact.)
I also have a hard time making friends, people become set in their lives and seem to prefer the comfort of highschool friends or family members... I guess what I'm trying to say is just realize it isnt only you. Other people also have a hard time becoming friends with us, because they're nervous too. The best thing is to not try to make some kind of impression, be relaxed and this will help them to be relaxed too, because people are very perceptive, they sense what others are feeling too.
Be blessed.
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Answer:
To be popular with your friends there are a few unwritten rules to learn. 1. Never talk over your mates conversation, before they are finished. 2. Never brag or boast about anything! As events have a knack of coming back at you! 3. Don't mouth off like an idiot, one, you'll look stupid! And two, you wont be admired for it! 4. Always treat your friends as you'd like to be treated. 5.If you say you'll be there, then be there! 6. Never loan money from your friends. 7. Never talk about any of them behind their backs! They'll find out! 8. Never put their girlfriends down behind their backs or too their face. 9. Be genuine and be yourself at all times. 10. Never loose your cool with your friends talk to them quietly, and above all! Dont talk idiot rubbish. Take this on board, and you'll have plenty of friends. Have a good day.
Hi and sorry you don't make friends to easily.I'm in the same boat and if you find out how it can be done please let me know.I am over weight also and it seems if you are not thin and pretty you don't have much of a chance.It doesn't even matter what kind of personality you have as long as your Thin and pretty you will have friends. That's pretty sad.
Smile the world will smile to you! Try going to the gym or riding a bicycle in the park. Want to be friends? :D
Hey don't worry! My piece of advice is, keep smiling! I always feel I can approach people who look happy, or smiley no matter whether they are 'thin' or 'pretty' and people say the same about me, that they feel they would rather talk to someone who looks as if they want to be talked to. I hope this helps in some way. : )
mmh .. i m nt overweight or anything but i used to have difficulty making friends when i was a kid .. i guess you will just have to take the first step out and even though you may recieve some mean treatment from your "friends", continue trying and i believed you wil soon find your own group of true friends :) it takes time and courage.. and i do have some really good friends who are really overweight but who cares .. it doesnt matter at all .. have more confidence yea.. there will be ppl who will be willing to accept you .. GOOD LUCK!
well Lisa (and dixie) there is only one thing that i need to say...
just be youself!
dont try to act like someone ur not just to make friends, coz if u do, they will only expect those kind of things from you. just be urself and carry on with life. u will soon meet people who will like you just the way you are but with only one string attached...you gotta be friends with them :)
and please dont stress urself for being overweight or not looking good enough...i for one wouldn't definitely care of how u looked...its the inside that matters. if people make friends just coz they are thin and pretty, then they are just nothing but shallow people and you are better off without them
im no expert in all this but i hope it helped.
Sometimes we must stop thinking about how we appear to others and think about others! What I mean is, transfer the focus from yourself to the person/people you want to be friendly with.
Lots of people feel the same way you do, so imagine if you were the one who made the initial contact! I'm sure you don't approach people thinking about their weight or stuff like that, so why would you be anxious about saying, "Hi!"
Good luck and be kind - to yourself and to others ...
Since when physical appearance become the barrier to make friends? True friends will never judge another friend by looking at his/her appearance. But, I do suggest you to go to the gym. I guess by doing so, you can overcome that.
Well, you are just too much conscious and uncomfortable of yourself mingling with others. You may have thought of your appearance as miserable and that you are thinking in advance that you are going to be a laughing stock if you would come to them.
Well, that's self esteem problem. And the best way to cure that is to accept who you really are, how you look and that it is not bad to look like that. Try to be happy of what you are, think of the good things that you have from being overweight or something, and think of the qualities and abilities that you have which you think you could make them happy to be with you and that you are going to be comfortable with you.
Be nice.. Overweight ppl still can make lots of friends.. Try to be friendly and funny.. They like funny type of ppl. If you can't be the beautiful and thin, then be funny. Smile more and be nice.. Good luck in making friends!
Don't let your weight bother you! If you want to though, go to the gym and swap junk food for healthy foods. Remind yourself that nobody cares about your weight, put it to the side. It shouldn't have to be a factor in making friends. x
I have the same problem too. Just stop focusing on your outer appearance and more on what you are going to say (how you are going to interact.)
I also have a hard time making friends, people become set in their lives and seem to prefer the comfort of highschool friends or family members... I guess what I'm trying to say is just realize it isnt only you. Other people also have a hard time becoming friends with us, because they're nervous too. The best thing is to not try to make some kind of impression, be relaxed and this will help them to be relaxed too, because people are very perceptive, they sense what others are feeling too.
Be blessed.
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