How to deal with loneliness and misanthropy?
To add to my woes, there is nothing I enjoy doing anymore. I'm completely unmotivated; everything I used to enjoy bores me now, and all my projects (such as web sites) fall to waste. There's no way to pass the time except sleep, but I cannot sleep constantly (though I do sleep up to 14 hours some days).
I don't know what to do. I feel on the verge of tears nearly constantly. Is there any way I can possibly cope?
Answer:
I've dealt with severe depression my entire life.
What you might want to do is explore your depression like you would a great novel. Find out if you've ever had reason to develop this habit of being sad. If so then perhaps it is a good idea to associate these feelings so that you can rightly credit them to that period in your life. Easier said than done, I suppose but still a necessity.
If you don't like being around people then learn to enjoy time alone. Take nature walks. Exercise. Sit by a stream. Watch the sun go up or down. Stuff like that is totally underrated in our society. i.e. give yourself permission to just be. Don't be the "I think therefore I am" person. Just be the "I am" person. You'll find it makes a world of difference.
Also, learn to understand that you are an introverted person living in a world where most people are extroverted. This merely means your batteries are recharged by private moments while others are recharged by being amongst many people... naturally this will classify you as weird but that's just because they don't understand. As an introverted person you can probably understand a bit more than other people in some areas so don't hold that against them.
Of course you said you're a bit lonely... and even us introverts need love and friendship, but it is only until you learn to feel content inside with life and the world will you attract that which is both healthy and good for your life.
You might also want to get the audio version of "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle and listen to it a bunch of times. It certainly isn't a guide to life as he sometimes claims, but it can serve as a good focus point, a meditation if you will, for people who have lost themselves in emotions, the affairs of the world and/or emptiness.
Please contact me if you have anything further you'd like to discuss.
I think that, it sounds like depression because of the amount of sleep that you are getting and not getting. I think that, you think nothing can help you. Please please turn to God, because you can and WILL get help..in the meantime please talk to your health care provider who can also give you some temporary treatement.Also Exercise because it increases endorphins. Exercise for 60 minutes a day vigourously!
I feel the same way. Nothing seems fun any more. I don't mind being around people but I don't want to talk to them. This is what I do. I answer people's questions.
Start running. Develop your style and endurance. Running kicks the heck out of the sadness you are talking about. When you are ready to race you will have the company and the individualism you seek. Good Luck.
You could invent an imaginary friend you like; also if you feel bored you might have a boron excess in your system. There is probably an antidote. Pears have boron; it might work to follow the idea of 'the hair of the dog that bit you'. (Consume more boron containing food). I think candles help clear it, but unkosher ones have too much argon.
Join the club. I was just like you when I lived out in the country, then I moved to the city and became the local anti-social neighbor. Go figure.
The best thing is to find someone that's really like you on every level. That way they won't irritate you when you're with them, and they'll understand that you need to be alone sometimes.
i find its like that for me too, i used to have friends up untill about the start of eighth grade, but when we got friends out of school, by we i mean the only real frined i had had since childhood, we would go and hang out every day, it was all fine untill, some guy liked her, she was really pretty, you knowand eventually she has so many friends and i cant stand being around them all,she invites me but a feel nervious and angry and i feel.most off, invisible, yet i cant stand being alone, so now, shes gone toward sex and boys and i, drugs and alcohol probably,
and for awhile, i would be up from 9 to 6 am. and sleep the rest, i was happy then, but school started, i find if i had a friend, it could change everything, a friend who hung out everyday, u no, the kind who puts you on they're top friends the first time they meet you, the one who always calls u back first, id say, try getting a friend
I was like you for most of my life, so I completely understand. My advice to you is : a) exercise - it makes you more healthy, more self confident, and gives your body a boost to actually want to do things, b) join a club, a group, a church - somewhere where there are people. Force yourself to talk to others - but try to find things that are of an interest to you. Something you know and will enjoy talking about as well as can be confident talking about. You have to make a conscious effort to make friends, although sometimes they will just come, you have to get out and want to make them.
The best way to beat it is to develop a hobby or find out something that you simply love doing. Once your mind is occupied you won't feel lonely again as lonliness is jst a state of mind.
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