Anger problem?
I think I have an anger problem--I was pulled over today for speeding slightly above speed limit--Instead of sucking up to the officer, I gave him attitude--I probably could have gotten off with a warning--but I blew it--I don't even know how much
it's going to cost. Afterwards, I just couldn't contain my anger---I got so mad--I just feel like nothing is going my way and I don't know what to do--I've always felt resentment about my growing up--like I was deprived in a lot of ways and I think I make up for it now by spoiling myself--but I realize even that doesn't make me happy--I end up feeling shallow and alone.
I just hate myself, I hate my life, and I totally blame my parents for everything and it just pisses me off because I feel like I would have turned out so much better had things been different and If I actually had a mother that I could be close to and share things with--I'm so jealous of all my friends that have these great role-models of a mother--where they actually e
Answer:
So your life is not perfect. When you have children of your own you will realize that you do the best you can and sometimes you screw up.
Blaming your parents is counterproductive. You can blame them all you want yet it will not make your life any better and as long as you wallow in the mire of your childhood you will not be able to get over it and go on with your life. This is your life and will be what you make of it.
Quit thinking on these matters and every time you catch your brain starting to think on this tell yourself that you will not think about it but think about your future and what you would like to do with it instead.
You could go to a councilor but it will just cost a lot of money for you to "come to terms" with your childhood. All it is is an expensive *** session. It happened. Get over it. Forgive them (that is a hard one) for yourself.
I felt this way a few years ago. It really helped to see a counselor. Ask friends for recommendations. A good counselor will listen to you, repeat what you said, and then help you to figure out the answers to your questions.
Good luck with it.
how about trying out anger management..?
try letting out your anger in a healthy way...
try calming down yourself first or give your anger time to subside...
the best remedy for anger is delay...
another thing is... don't go on blaming other people for everything that is happening to you... try to get a hold of what's happening around you and start being responsible for your own actions... the more you put the blame on other people, the more you are spoiling yourself in an unhealthy way... own up your mistakes and be considerate of other people...
good luck..!
If it is comforting to you, no one has the perfect life. Maybe you aren't even aware of the issues your friends go through, because thay do not broadcast it. Regardless of other people, you should really focus on your life and how you can repair the past to improve your future. Even if your family has not been the greatest role model for you, someone out there has or will be, whether it is a teacher, coach, pastor etc. I would suggest you discover who that person is in your life and look up to them as a mentor. The role models in our lives are not always, although can be, family members.
As far as your anger is concerned, it appears that it stems from resentment in earlier childhood. The best thing for you to remember is that by expressing anger or even keeping it inside only affects you. So, as you may be producing your anger because of people or situations, you are the one who is suffering from it.
An encouraging Bible verse for you is as follows:
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
—Ephesians 4:26-27, 31-32
More can be found at this link:
http://www.scripturemenu.com/bibleversel...
I recommend you pray to the Lord, addressing your anger problems. God does not want you to be angry, but to be free from the anger that is controling you. If you express this desire to rid your anger to Him, He will help you and show you how to calm it.
God Bless.
Wow, when I read this, I was sure that my very own daughter wrote this!
Anger and Rage is merely, "unrealized expectations".
Things that trigger anger or rage include being wronged, lack of justice, betrayal, mistreatment, resentment, being dumped on, having ones space or person invaded, having social norms violated, reputation hurt, being made to feel helpless, frustration, blocking of goals, lack of control, and so on.
The commonality among all these events is that there has been a "violation of expectations".
Just remember that your parents are human. They make mistakes, they are imperfect, and they may be entirely at fault for not raising you properly. However, only YOU can change your life. Only you can turn things around. You cannot expect others to fulfill your expectations, and you cannot expect your parents to magically become different. Take what you know and have learned and decide how the rest of your life will be. I can tell you from experience that I love my daughters more than anything, but I have made so many mistakes that have contributed to some of there poor choices. Nevertheless, so did my parents. But-- I cannot and will not blame them for my very own willfull conduct. You will reap what you sow. That being said, reap carefully, and avoid "expectations", then you will not become disappointed.
Quit wallowing in self-pity and stop blaming mommy and daddy. You are an adult now. Take responsibility for you own thoughts feelings and behaviors. You have the power; you hold the key. Use them.
Well, I think you have been given too much and does not know how to "appreciate others or life". Learn to be considerate (well, this is hard to LEARN). Before you can really be understanding to others and think from others' shoes, you will always be so "pissed".
sounds to me like you already where it comes from, next time you feel the rage , remind yourself of what you just wrote.
Wow... anger, jealousy and blaming YOUR problems on your parents... that does not seem to be an excuse to behave as you do. There are plenty of people that had the same experiences in life as you have and they have progressed very well through life.
You need to face up to your issues and find someone that can guide you through these hard times... there are pretty awesome people out there to assist you, but you would have to be willing to admit that it is YOU and not all these other people that have caused you to feel this way.
As far as hating yourself, that is truly sad! You are unique... there is no one exactly like you. We all have a purpose in life and as long as you view things this way, you may not find that purpose at all. You will be what YOU allow yourself to be!
Do not allow anyone to define who and what YOU are...
if you believe in hell your probly already there
don't hate yourself for a stupid mistake. you'll learn from it. in the meantime, go for anger management classes and get some counseling to build up your self-esteem and don't blame your parents or any one else. blame yourself for your screw ups. sounds like you have some major issues. get some help,for real
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it's going to cost. Afterwards, I just couldn't contain my anger---I got so mad--I just feel like nothing is going my way and I don't know what to do--I've always felt resentment about my growing up--like I was deprived in a lot of ways and I think I make up for it now by spoiling myself--but I realize even that doesn't make me happy--I end up feeling shallow and alone.
I just hate myself, I hate my life, and I totally blame my parents for everything and it just pisses me off because I feel like I would have turned out so much better had things been different and If I actually had a mother that I could be close to and share things with--I'm so jealous of all my friends that have these great role-models of a mother--where they actually e
Answer:
So your life is not perfect. When you have children of your own you will realize that you do the best you can and sometimes you screw up.
Blaming your parents is counterproductive. You can blame them all you want yet it will not make your life any better and as long as you wallow in the mire of your childhood you will not be able to get over it and go on with your life. This is your life and will be what you make of it.
Quit thinking on these matters and every time you catch your brain starting to think on this tell yourself that you will not think about it but think about your future and what you would like to do with it instead.
You could go to a councilor but it will just cost a lot of money for you to "come to terms" with your childhood. All it is is an expensive *** session. It happened. Get over it. Forgive them (that is a hard one) for yourself.
I felt this way a few years ago. It really helped to see a counselor. Ask friends for recommendations. A good counselor will listen to you, repeat what you said, and then help you to figure out the answers to your questions.
Good luck with it.
how about trying out anger management..?
try letting out your anger in a healthy way...
try calming down yourself first or give your anger time to subside...
the best remedy for anger is delay...
another thing is... don't go on blaming other people for everything that is happening to you... try to get a hold of what's happening around you and start being responsible for your own actions... the more you put the blame on other people, the more you are spoiling yourself in an unhealthy way... own up your mistakes and be considerate of other people...
good luck..!
If it is comforting to you, no one has the perfect life. Maybe you aren't even aware of the issues your friends go through, because thay do not broadcast it. Regardless of other people, you should really focus on your life and how you can repair the past to improve your future. Even if your family has not been the greatest role model for you, someone out there has or will be, whether it is a teacher, coach, pastor etc. I would suggest you discover who that person is in your life and look up to them as a mentor. The role models in our lives are not always, although can be, family members.
As far as your anger is concerned, it appears that it stems from resentment in earlier childhood. The best thing for you to remember is that by expressing anger or even keeping it inside only affects you. So, as you may be producing your anger because of people or situations, you are the one who is suffering from it.
An encouraging Bible verse for you is as follows:
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
—Ephesians 4:26-27, 31-32
More can be found at this link:
http://www.scripturemenu.com/bibleversel...
I recommend you pray to the Lord, addressing your anger problems. God does not want you to be angry, but to be free from the anger that is controling you. If you express this desire to rid your anger to Him, He will help you and show you how to calm it.
God Bless.
Wow, when I read this, I was sure that my very own daughter wrote this!
Anger and Rage is merely, "unrealized expectations".
Things that trigger anger or rage include being wronged, lack of justice, betrayal, mistreatment, resentment, being dumped on, having ones space or person invaded, having social norms violated, reputation hurt, being made to feel helpless, frustration, blocking of goals, lack of control, and so on.
The commonality among all these events is that there has been a "violation of expectations".
Just remember that your parents are human. They make mistakes, they are imperfect, and they may be entirely at fault for not raising you properly. However, only YOU can change your life. Only you can turn things around. You cannot expect others to fulfill your expectations, and you cannot expect your parents to magically become different. Take what you know and have learned and decide how the rest of your life will be. I can tell you from experience that I love my daughters more than anything, but I have made so many mistakes that have contributed to some of there poor choices. Nevertheless, so did my parents. But-- I cannot and will not blame them for my very own willfull conduct. You will reap what you sow. That being said, reap carefully, and avoid "expectations", then you will not become disappointed.
Quit wallowing in self-pity and stop blaming mommy and daddy. You are an adult now. Take responsibility for you own thoughts feelings and behaviors. You have the power; you hold the key. Use them.
Well, I think you have been given too much and does not know how to "appreciate others or life". Learn to be considerate (well, this is hard to LEARN). Before you can really be understanding to others and think from others' shoes, you will always be so "pissed".
sounds to me like you already where it comes from, next time you feel the rage , remind yourself of what you just wrote.
Wow... anger, jealousy and blaming YOUR problems on your parents... that does not seem to be an excuse to behave as you do. There are plenty of people that had the same experiences in life as you have and they have progressed very well through life.
You need to face up to your issues and find someone that can guide you through these hard times... there are pretty awesome people out there to assist you, but you would have to be willing to admit that it is YOU and not all these other people that have caused you to feel this way.
As far as hating yourself, that is truly sad! You are unique... there is no one exactly like you. We all have a purpose in life and as long as you view things this way, you may not find that purpose at all. You will be what YOU allow yourself to be!
Do not allow anyone to define who and what YOU are...
if you believe in hell your probly already there
don't hate yourself for a stupid mistake. you'll learn from it. in the meantime, go for anger management classes and get some counseling to build up your self-esteem and don't blame your parents or any one else. blame yourself for your screw ups. sounds like you have some major issues. get some help,for real
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