Ho do I overcome SHYNESS?
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Talk to people, not necessarily making conversation but just say what you're thinking. It's as simple as looking at an ugly desk in front of you and saying, "This desk is ugly." to someone next to you instead of thinking it, and see where that takes you. Ask questions. Easiest conversation starters on the planet are questions. You see a bunch of people doing something say, "What are you doing?" instead of just standing there watching. I don't know what it is, but when people are asked questions, they for some reason feel obligated to answer, as though they've just been given a mission they must fulfill.(and they love to hear their own voices anyways) The beauty of questions also is that you can't really be rejected from a question. The biggest rejection you can get from a question or a comment 90% of the time is being responded to very shortly with dead end answers, which really isn't even rejection.
Starting conversations is not some really intricate social skill that has to be learned and modified, that people would have you think. Stupid little comments and questions like that, and just testing out your voice now and then and filling the air with some noise will actually do some wonders for you, and keep away shyness.
How about introducing yourself to people, a little bit of that and smiling can take you pretty far. Few people will look at someone sitting there with a nice smile on their face and say, "He's a school shooter" or "I'm gonna' beat that guy's *."
Being shy is a locked in state of mind. It's not a part of someone's character. We all can become, "shy." When you find yourself standing on a wall by yourself you need to just break yourself from it. The littlest things like I mentioned, are so small, they won't make you into a social butterfly but the goal is to get the gears moving in the brain to help you attain an extroverted attitude.
Network with the friends you already have, and remember, everyone has something in common, don't think you're a certain "type" of person, try to explore the people around you. Don't assume you're the only person who likes a certain thing, or that you do something really unique, and you can only BE WITH people who are exactly like you.
Try that, and try to make it into a habit. Shy is such a hard habit to break, just keep working at it.
I'm am extremely shy too and I just finished my first year of high school. I saw that people think you don't want to talk to them when you don't talk to them first so even if you think you're gonna sound stupid saying something still say it. Make sure you do talk some because I got called a shooter because i was so quiet and then like 85% of my school was afraid of me which really made me not be able to talk to people. I would just say ask about people too because people love to talk about themselves. Also your name I think was straight A student so that means you probably work a lot if you wrok less and get B's and A's you will have more time to talk and hang out with people. Also you have to ask people if they want to do stuff outside of school because people will think you don't like them if you never do. also try not to be too different because that also made me lose more friends. And most importantly if you go to myspace and befriend a lot of the people from your school on their try to stay away from the crazy people. I talked to this bipolar chic on myspace for a while and one day she came to school saying I was stalking her and called the cops on me for nothing and everything so just try to stay away from the crazy chics.
Wanting to change is the first step to success. (Or something like that.)
Sit towards the front of the room, try to say hi to more people, offer/ask to study with people or do homework together (if it's allowed for the class), try sitting down at new lunch tables, introduce yourself, join some clubs you may be interested in.
I was like that too. You have to learn to believe that you have something to offer others. What ever you do, don't wait for other to come to you, go to them. Doing this your confidence will grow. Sometimes when we are shy we look scared and look like we don't want anyone to talk to us, so make eye contact with people and smile. This will make you look more approachable.
All the best! :)
Try to think less of yourself and become genuinely interested in other people. Pick out someone you would like to have as a friend, and find out as much about him or her as you can. Then whenever you get a chance, talk to this person about the things that you have found out about him or her. Give the other person a chance to talk and listen carefully, asking intelligent questions to show that you are paying attention. You will be surprised to see how quickly you can make friends.
start talking to ppl. begin this summer by getting to kno random ppl like neighbors, familyfriends, old friends, ect and practice ur social skills with them (u dont want to start out highschool with no social skills) trust me i was so shy in jr. high, then i switched to a different district in the city and now no one considers me shy.
u dont have to be the most outgoing, energetic, and talkative person in ur class, becuz trust me, it doesnt work. but there is a middle point between "shy" and "obnoxiously talkative." its not gonna be easy but ur gonna have to force urself to talk to ppl. just tell them wat u think and speak ur mind. dont be mean...like i know this one girl whos a LOSER like she never talks and she's fat...but im nice to her..but lately shes been trying to talk more but shes been trying to do it with an attitude..like in this 1 class she just randomly yelled at a kid "SHUT UP" and she just sounded retarded...lol
so ya dont just have random outbursts
good luck...it wont be easy but just be yourself and try to get to know as many ppl as you can. there has to be someone u can relate to.
OH YEAH (EDIT) be prepared to do less work and more socializing !! trust me if ur with the right ppl it can be lots of fun !! and even if ur not used to getting in trouble alot, u need to realize, the teachers deal with kids talking in class all the time, and its not really that big of a deal (for most teachers that is, some u learn that its really not OK...like my bio teacher...and my english teacher...)
I used to be like that as well. Join a sports club or try something like scouts. Also this might sound crazy but raise your voice. You've already made the choice to change now you just have to go through with it. Debating or drama is also a confronting way of facing it, but it worked for a friend of mine and she's great at it as well. Talk to loud and fun people. They might seem a bit crazy to you but they're great for a laugh and you can join in & learn to laugh at yourself. People generally ignore things like if you go red when you talk, so don't stress about that. The more often you try and speak up, the easier it becomes. You can also show what you're really capable of.
Most shy people have some lack of self confidence, and it's not because they are inadequate - they just think too much.
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