Among your family member, who has had the greatest influence in your life and character. Pls. elaborate?
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naturally-the first is the parents-father
followed by the partner-after marriage
and by the son/daughter
so it is going on
in our life we are also influenced by the society-for eg spitting on the road,
some manarisoms from the bollywood
it is a continuous process which goes on till we die.
My father. He was a good man. I lost him on Easter, I saw him die infront of me, and I'll never forget the morbid grimace on his face, and buldging eyes, and the trembling. Graphic, I know. But just so you know, I was very close to him, and he was very hurt for the past few yrs of his life, and I want to make sure i don't die unhappy like that. Not unhappy his last day, but unhappy meaning, his kids didn't call him as muchs' they should've, etc. My dad was amazing, and a hard worker, and great socialist.
My Dad was always difficult to please and so I tried my hardest to please him. In the process I became very much like him.
I was born in a family of eight children. We grew up poor, but with so much love we never noticed what we didn't have. I will say that my oldest brother Boyd and his wife Frances influenced my life most of all. He passed away eight years ago, and she passed away last year ,but they will always live in my heart. They never had many material things, but they had the greatest love I have ever seen. When you went to their house it was so peaceful. I always said I wish I could bottle and sell it. When she was buried last year my sister saw him standing at the head of her coffin. Now that is love, he came back from Heaven to meet her. I'm so glad God let them cross my path in life. Thank you for asking.
I would have to say my father, with whom I have had the most difficult relationship of all, at times it could even be called horrid, several different time spans of up to a year of not speaking...really horrid.
I began to seek his approval from an early age, and although I excelled in many areas never received it....and in some ways never will. This fact, for many years took a great toll on my self esteem, and shaped me at the core of who I was.
Yet his disapproval has been responsible for causing me more spiritual growth than any other relationship I have had to date;
(ie) one issue; My fathers expectations included monetary success, where I chose a career that offered little in that area, but a wealth of life experiences and lessons in human frailty, and the importance of self acceptance and dignity. Somewhere in my journey I not only began to except myself, I excepted him for who he is, and how he would like for things (me in particular) to be. I allow him that, but make no apologies for who I am. I have become as firm in myself as he in himself. I will always to him be the "wild, unruly, envelope pusher, risk taker, heart on my sleeve- liberal"...and somehow after many, many, hard and tearful years we meet now on common ground; because in the end he was not my teacher, I was his teacher....and the lesson was:
Striving to Love Unconditionally.
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