No, things don't always get better. So why mention advice to someone they already say doesn't help?
Sometimes i wonder if its that we can only give the advice we know or try and if so, are the standard 10 answers all we have. What happens to those for whom that doesn't work for .. do we stay in silence, tell them they don't try hard enough, not serious about it, or even the sicker ones suggesting it's better if they do harm themselves?
Maybe this is all we know, the ones on one side of a fence unable to help those on the other, even if we've been on that side ourselves before.
Then again, what do i know, i'm just one of those thinking all the answers have been tried and failed.
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Well, I try to explain things to people, especially if it seems to me they don't quite see what's going on, or why.
I have been told by a few that this has helped them see things differently, and have a better idea of how to deal with the whatever it was.
I rarely write one-line responses.
(I mean really rarely, and mostly FAR from one-liners. Really far. Great, vast distances from the line single.)
Sometimes people just aren't seeing the deeper What's Going On Here.
Of course, a lot of the time, you're right.
I've answered questions where the person said things like "therapy is out of the question" when that really was exactly what they needed.
But then, sometimes (you can see what I meant by FAR, right?) I've submitted answers thinking "No way is this person going to like this answer." just to get a Best nod and a fervent "Thank you. You're right." or "This really helped me."
So you never know.
Sometimes people are writing in the heat of crankitude, and, when calmer, are willing to consider the broader picture.
We give the only advise we can. What advice do you think should be given since you've ruled out pretty much all the constructive kinds, "Sorry life sucks". Often the only thing you can do when down is to keep trying to get up. Giving up is never the answer. That's what all those trite answers really mean.
Well... you can see a lot of people saying that you get another life tomorrow after a bad day, or a bad moment, etc. They change their hair, their house and it creates a fake illusion that everything is fine and the same mistakes will not be made again but at the same time a distraction in an empty universe is created.
Am I pessimistic? No! For me everything is very slow, very hard. There's no way to turn the page and get a new life in a break of a day. There is no way to find an interesting life, find a best friend the next day. Real relationship does not grow on trees and are not for sale on the internet, shopping mall...
The start is in the mud of the deepest pool. But you can't run away from it. You have to use everything you've learned in your life and wait. Evolution made us prepared to forget the sad moments. While changes do not happen, you have to keep going with no radicalism. There are times to be radical, and you'll know when you'll have to...
I hope this few lines can helped you to realize what is necessary to be done!
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