Life Inexperience?
-Have never been to a party that didn't involve a birthday
-Have never gone on a trip without my parents
-Have never had a girlfriend
-Have never been to a concert
-Have never had a job for more than a month
-Don't have any friends
-Am a virgin
etc...
I'm not ugly or socially impaired or anything, in fact, I get complimented on my looks all the time and I can be quite charming when I want to be. I get asked this a lot.. "Doesn't it bother you that you've never had a girlfriend? Don't you want one?" Honestly, I could care less about having a girlfriend. I've never really cared enough to persue it.
Here is my question.. Is it strange that I'm indifferent to everything and that I've done nothing with my life thus far? Should I be concerned?
Don't get me wrong, I've done SOME things, just not the big things that you would expect a 20 year old to have done so far, especially one that isn't impaired in any way.
I don't know, what's your take?
Answer:
Sounds like you are a man before your time. I wouldn't worry about it. If you are happy and satisfied, then who cares. Sounds like you don't buckle to social pressure either which is a very redeeming quality.
All things will happen when they are supposed to and when you are ready. If you "force" the issue, then you are defying the natural progression of things. There is a higher power who has a plan ofr you. All good things come to those who wait. Enjoy your life, our choices, and your self. That is the best experience of all. Good luck
My advice: Better find a girlfriend! Don't tell me that you decide to become single forever. Your problem is normal. You're 20, man! You have the look(like what you've claimed), and you must not take this easy. You should be concerned when it comes to such problem. If you never really cared enough to solve the problem you're facing now, then it will be harder for you to find a solution later!
Be gentle with yourself Proton. Who said there are deadlines? If you are indifferent to things and it is bothering you then see a professional. Who is to say you are not normal and others are? You just take things at your pace my friend.
Everyone grows at their own pace. My two oldest children (18 and 20 now) didn't date in high school, and my oldest daughter has really come in to her own now that she's at college. I suspect that my son will too. Don't be too concerned... you'll probably fall head over heels in love with the perfect girl someday soon -- but don't isolate yourself. Make yourself available for friendships through work and/or school. Get involved with a group of young adults at church or through a social or interest group. If in a couple of years things haven't changed much for you, seek counseling to see if there's something deeper keeping you from exploring relationships, platonic or otherwise, with others.
No it's not strange.
Maybe I am mistaking but it seems to me like you are comparing yourself a bit to much to others.
You don't have to do the things others (and believe me not all others) have done or do at your age.
Everybody is different, allow yourself to be yourself!
Don't be concerned! There's no need.
do not be concerned and enjoy your life watever it is.
If you run behind sterotipe we will all be running behing some one.Just be yourselve, you are wonderful
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