Share an office with a bully. Should I report her ?
towards me. She gives me cold, unfriendly looks, talks to me in a rude, off-hand way and constantly questions me about my background and experience. She is always bringing the conversation to the fact that I am under probation. I would like to report her to my line manager but they are "buddies". Any suggestions ?
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Tough situation. Reporting her could result in a resolution of the problem or make things worse, such as escalating the behavior. On the other hand, if you do nothing, she may become more comfortable with treating you as such. I think Ideally confronting her in a calm and friendly manner, explaining your side and feelings is the best option. Of course, that's probably the most difficult. Suppose it depends on if you're comfortable confronting her or not. Do you feel that she purposely intends to make you feel the way you do? Confronting someone in a situation like this can seem like the end of the world to some people. I think it's the best way to go. You refer to her as a 'bully'. And the best way to chop a bully down to size it to stand up to them. Of course, this isn't a school yard, and there is more than lunch money at stake here, but you get the idea. After all, she is only human. No matter how hardened she may appear, she has a heart in there. But do something soon.before you become her permanent doormat. Very important though, no mudslinging or hostility. That can only make things worse. Good luck.
Go above the line manager.
Ask her the next time she asks you anything---"Why do you want to know?" See if or what she answers you with. Just tell her you don't have the time for small talk. If she keeps it up, go to your line manager and ask if there is a problem she has with you. Good luck
If you feel that you are working in a hostile environment (and I'd say you are!!) and you don't feel comfortable going to your manager about the situation, then I'd say go to HR (Human Resources) or an ethics department if you have one. Or you could always go to your manager's boss.
There are avenues open to you, and you do not have to accept working under conditions that are uncomfortable to you.
I think that I would start with HR and go from there, if I were in the same position as you are.
Get one of those small tape recorders and turn it on when she is around.
Good luck
I would say report her,but before you report her you should try to talk to her.try to find out why she acts like that toward you.If she doesnt listen or gets in an attitude,try to back off for a few days.NEVER FIGHT FIRE WITH FIRE.you just get burned.Be nice to her in all circumstances.Try not to get in her way or make her mad.Dont show that you are aggravated about what she does.Show her that it doesnt bother you.If none of this works,just know you did the best you could,and report her.She probably doesnt understand that you are probably a great person.She is probably the type that probably doesnt respect anybody.
Try talking to her about the problem (assertively but nicely) first. If that doesn't work report her. No one has to put up with that kind of behavior.
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