If you came across a 14 year old male who was struggling with his sexual identity (gay)...?
What would u do? how would u intervene? what considerations would make?
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well, i'm not gay. but i know of people who are. and coming out is extremely hard and pressuring. we'd like to think we've moved into a more 'accepting' society, but just look at all the hypocrites around us.
anyway, as for intervention, the family has to understand that gender and sexual orientation are two different concepts. gender-wise, you may be a male. but your sexual preference is towards males, as well. and nothing is "bad" or "wrong" about this. of course, religions see this sinful, but i will not argue against or for that pt of view, as it's not my place to say.
let's see it from a social and moral stand pt. as the base, we are all humans, in seek of acceptance from others. some find it in the opp sex, some in the same sex. and that's all right. our parents come from a completely different era where it was a downright taboo to even speak of same-sex r/ships or feelings.
our family is the fundamental unit that is the backbone of our social life - they see us through almost everything. and if they truly cared for our happiness, they would see that even if we wre GAY, there's no need for shame or tears that they have failed as parents.
at the end of the day, the parents of gays have to accept that this is the path that their child has chosen and is most happy with. to see their child succeed, is of utmost importance, so sexual preference should not even have anything to do with their child's achievement/success as an individual.
i'm not sure if i made any sense at all, but this is just my two-cents worth. hope it helps you out. cheers! :)
Talk to a therapist that specializes in coming out to ones family.
What a challenge that would be! Coming out is very very tough! I'm not gay, but thought I might have been when I was a lot younger.
Starting out, I would try to make him feel comfortable with his feelings. Make him smile, tell jokes, and be supportive.
Once his energy's up, not being depressed, I'd try to change the way he sees homosexuality.
Ultimately, I'd try to get him to come out to his parents, but on his terms.
knock his punk @ss out of his shoes to start making him a man. gay. are you kidding me.? where's our society going.?
I think fourteen is a little young to believe that your sexual preference is written in stone.I know some gays know almost from the get go that they are gay.I have a dear friend who knew before he could reason that he was "different",and he had no trouble accepting himself or being accepted by others.Your scenario is different,the boy is having difficulty owning up to his gayness.I would shift the focus to his family,and try to get him to understand why he felt that his parents wouldn't accept him as gay.
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