Has anyone ever had to break off a relationship.?

due to problems with clinical depression?? And if so, do you think it would be difficult for them to continue contact with the person they broke up with, even though they are trying to help?? My ex suffered from depression due to his ex cheating on him, and broke it off with me 5 months ago because his depression came back and he could not handle being in a relationship at that time. I had hoped we would keep in touch, but obviously it's very hard to get through to him and get him to talk to me. I've told him I'm here for him if he ever needs anything, and I've backed off to give him his space. I keep in contact every few weeks through email just to check up on him. Sometimes he responds, and sometimes doesn't. Last time he did he said he was doing okay, not the best but just managing to get by. He also said things were still uneasy but were working their way out. I know I can't do much to help him, but I want to better understand his indifference towards me. Any input?

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Honestly, I would move on. Unless you want to only remain friends. I dated a guy who suffered from depression, he never really got help. I tried to 'be there for him', but honestly, it's not healthy to be in a relationship if your depressed. It really drained me! I was always worried about him, that's no way to live! If you care about him, which it sounds like you do, giving him space is smart, letting him heal. But I wouldn't wait around for him, you deserve to be happy! Best wishes!

Why don't you as well ask yourself this question : "Why am I doing so much and getting so little in return?" Is it really all compassion and love and concern that keeps you so AT HIM, and his clinical depression that you can not let him go . . giving him a chance to discover he also has to make an effort to help himself?
Is your wounded or betrayed ego part of this problem? If he says he is still in a depressive state because his wife was cheating on him, and then you came along, but because of his traumatic experience he broke off with you
FIVE years ago . . and since then, you have trailed him, (supposedly from concern about his suicidal tendencies) that you have put part of your life on hold in order to - WHAT(?), (and tell the truth to yourself!) - Save him from himself? This man needs to see a professional, not have an untrained, but still so concerned "care-taker such as you, on his heels, and . . . FOR HOW LONG?
Something other than his ex, once upon a long time ago, cheated on your ex husband . . then you come along and for 5 years he stays depressed until he breaks it off with you! Because his experience has left him unable to move on?
You give him space . . then you inquire if he needs your help . . then you say you worry about his possibly suicidal depression, then it all turns into a vicious cycle that never gets anyone anywhere!
You try to stay in touch with him, then you let him to be alone . . sometimes he responds . . at others, he doesn't.
"He's doing okay" he'll tell you, "not the best but just to get by."
Well, what do you care to understand if in truth he holds an "indifference" to you? By saying this, you are talking more about yourself!
He is a CHRONIC" of some kind!
And who are you, our present Mother Teresa?
Look, I hate to be so blunt and believe me I am not answering this to get points, because points don't mean a thing to me.
Consider doing this, unless you can think of nothing else : for your own good, for your own restoration, if there was ever one, or for the making of a better quality within your OWN life : GET A LIFE, that does not include the eternal care-taker of a chronic, who probably is more of a depressive all way around than he blames for it on an ex-wife and then on no being able to maintain a relationship with you because depression still follows him everywhere.
Let him GO!
Let him assume at least the beginning of responsibility for his own life, for God's sake.?

You are enabling the man keep his pernicious habits toward himself, you and anyone else whose life he touches.

The next time you contact him, don't imply, "I am there for you." Tell him, that if he is seriously afflicted with chronic depression for whatever the reasons, since I truly believe there are more that just the 2 you mention, tell him he OWES it ti himself to seek professional help!
If you want to go further, tell him you'll go as far as to settle him with some therapist - but then that will be your last attempt to bent backwards for him to no avail.
Unless of course, it is you, who is not being truthful with yourself, and DO NOT want to see this aggravating, wasting of both your practical times' get settled in a healthy manner, Once and For All!

Maybe it just wasn't meant to be, maybe he just doesn't want to be with you and doesn't know a better way to tell you than the cowards way out. Forget the guy and move on, if he wants you he will contact you, if not it's better now than later!

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